I'm so tired today. I found out last night that I am not able to feed the baby and wipe the toddler's butt at the same time. I hate when they cry at the same time. Choosing which one needs me more is tough.
This has been hard for sure! DD1 will say I need you mama. Give baby sissy to daddy and I hold you. It breaks my heart because it's always when I'm feeding her and can't.
titania on our drive home last night the lightening was amazing! DH wouldn't shut up about it while I was trying to nap. Haha
vivela I'm in the same boat. My dishes and laundry stay done but holy shit my kitchen floors....
Last night we went to a little party back home at my sisters. We did a low country boil. It was a lot of fun to be with other people and have a beer. But with all the noise and people begging to hold LO, she didn't sleep much and had a complete meltdown around 9. She wouldn't even take my boob. When I finally got her to calm down she was out in 0.2 seconds. I felt so terrible.
Tomorrow my mom, her BF, and my other sister are coming up and DH is smoking a pork shoulder or something. It'll be nice and laid back plus they haven't seen L since the hospital so it'll be a lot of fun!
Anyone using the k'tan...how big was LO when you started using it? DD2 was 6lbs 12oz at her weight check (just under 2 weeks). The recommendation from K'tan was 8lbs but wondering if they was really necessary.
I think I'm going to start using mine on a regular basis this week. I've put DD in there a few times and she feels really secure. She's probably around the same weight as your DD.
My fever is back up to 102! And today is the one day my sister is in town from VA to meet the baby and I can't get off the couch. So sad. Mastitis, you suck. Also, I'm making no milk at all. Pumping just to stimulate production.
My mom came over to see the baby so she is walking him while I clean the house (I am taking a 5 minute iced coffee break. Whew it is hot!) When I found myself editing a couple tumbleweeds of dog hair out of a cute photo of LO I knew it was time to stop putting off the vacuuming!
I'm so sorry txmommy14! Sisters are really good at taking care of each other. I hope she can relax with you and baby and you can enjoy some time together.
So when do these newborns spend more time awake? DS2 is 1.5 weeks old and sleeps all the time. He is only awake for feedings and maybe like 1-2 hrs outside of that.
Tomorrow is my birthday. DH mentioned maybe going out to eat. We usually have a bunch of people over, but that won't happen. When did you all take your newborns into a public place? I don't even know if I'll feel up to it- I'm pretty sore today.
Ditto. I wish there was something productive I could do while nursing. I've even tried some of those "take surveys for gift cards" sites but so far they seem like a lot of work for no reward. I definitely do not have the hang of walking around and nursing at the same time. So far that just results in pulling my nipple out of his mouth... Painful for me, and it pisses off the baby! Anyone managing anything useful during feeding times?
I wish I could have a free hand during nursing. I'm only a few days into it, but I hope eventually I don't need to hold him with one hand and my boob with the other.
DH was screaming at the newborn. So I now have her and am trying to make dinner while he lies in bed. Something is broken here.
I'm sorry, that must be upsetting. Having a newborn baby is the most stressful thing I've ever done, so I generally withhold judgement of how others handle it. Everyone has their moments of handling stress poorly. That said, he needs to be supporting you rather than adding to your plate. I hope he comes out of that room with a plan for coping better.
DH was screaming at the newborn. So I now have her and am trying to make dinner while he lies in bed. Something is broken here.
I'm sorry, that must be upsetting. Having a newborn baby is the most stressful thing I've ever done, so I generally withhold judgement of how others handle it. Everyone has their moments of handling stress poorly. That said, he needs to be supporting you rather than adding to your plate. I hope he comes out of that room with a plan for coping better.
He's normally pretty good at being helpful. I don't know what got into him. He is taking care of the sick toddler at least. And he's definitely taking the next feed for DD2. I have decided
I'm sorry, that must be upsetting. Having a newborn baby is the most stressful thing I've ever done, so I generally withhold judgement of how others handle it. Everyone has their moments of handling stress poorly. That said, he needs to be supporting you rather than adding to your plate. I hope he comes out of that room with a plan for coping better.
He's normally pretty good at being helpful. I don't know what got into him. He is taking care of the sick toddler at least. And he's definitely taking the next feed for DD2. I have decided
I can commiserate. Except MH is losing his cool with the toddler. He doesn't understand that it's just the age and wants no advice on how to better deal with his tantrums.
Kevinmac Happy early Birthday! My sister's bday is tomorrow as well! We took DD to a restaurant for a late lunch when she was about a week old after her check up. She in her car seat with a cover on the whole time and the restaurant was pretty empty.
And +1 on the Amazon shopping while nursing. I suddenly need all the things!
I'm nervous about the induction. Those who've had inductions--can you tell me it's not that bad?
I'm not sure mine counts, since my water had broken but I wasn't having contractions, but it wasn't that bad.
Screaming at babies is a nonstarter. Maybe you should bring this up to the pediatrician, see what she recommends for your dh. Classes or coping strategies or something.
I'm nervous about the induction. Those who've had inductions--can you tell me it's not that bad?
The cervadil is all it took for me to get things started. And then she came super quick. Even though my epidural didn't take in time it was actually less traumatic and painful than my first birth.
Post by carolinaheart on Jul 3, 2016 20:32:19 GMT -5
@gomamab14 I didn't have any stretch marks on my belly until she dropped the week after my due date. Thanks for that, LO.
I will say this for my induction. The pitocin contractions were BEASTS. But! For my ~30 hours from start to birth, only about 6 were bad. I was able/slightly forced to do it med-free. I was terrified going in but I wouldn't change anything. Except for the back labor but idk that that had anything to do with being induced.
ETA: once I had been there a while and things weren't progressing, I started reminding myself that whatever method was required, I was leaving there with my baby and that helped my state of mind a ton.
I've been doing all things Internet, this, and words with my mom (friends) during nursing. Once DS is latched I have a free hand and if I'm really lucky I can use the boppy and be hands free.
My induction went better than my non induced labor. It was faster and had a quicker recovery for me. . I had epidurals with both.
GOmamab15 labor is the hardest yet most rewarding thing you'll ever exprience. If you weren't getting induced you'd still be nervous. The induction for me just sped up the process. The contractions got stronger quicker and I requested my epidural. You'll do great!
athn64 im sorry. I've been there. emotion trumps intellect. When Dh got upset with ds1 it was from lack of sleep, frustration from the inability to comfort the baby, inexperience, fear. Maybe after lo goes to bed you can ask him why he did that or if he's feeling a little overwhelmed.
GOmamab15, I only have experiences with inductions, but I had two GREAT experiences. No complications, everything went smoothly. Are you dilated/effaced at all? It definitely helped that I was before I went in for the induction, I need had to go in the night before or anything.
So I've pretty much lucked out that despite having a really tough toddler, DD has been super easy so far. I thought surely she'd be hard and scream all of the time because I couldn't get two easy babies in a row (DS was easy as a baby, also). Tonight she screamed the entire night though. It was so sad. They said my antibiotics could hurt her stomach, so I'm wondering if that's happening. Also, I'm barely making any milk, so I'm supplementing with pumped bottles, so she might just be more hungry because we're not on this consistent nursing every 3 hours schedule that we are, it's all over the place with nursing/needing to pumping/giving bottles or part of a bottle. I'm not stressed by it and know babies have hard days, it just makes me realize how easy she's been that we are surprised to hear her cry for a few hours. She has really only really cried a few times, including her birth, other than that she'll just start fussing/grunting when she's hungry. Also, the Wonder Week app says we are about to go through our first "leap" and I know 6 weeks can be a growth spurt time, so we will see! It sure is helpful that she's usually easy though because my toddler takes 110% percent of my energy.
GOmamab15 I didn't have a true induction but I didn't have contractions for hours after my water broke so they started me on pitocin. I was not happy about that at the time, BUT it sped things up significantly and I'm so glad they did. You totally got this!!! We are all rooting for you!!
txmommy14 I'm sorry she has been fussy tonight, but I'm glad she has been easy on you so far! Did your fever go back down again? Are you feeling any better?
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