Check In 7/4

[aves0708]

Happy 4th of July to those in the U.S.!

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AW/Vents/ Encounters this week:



QOTW:  When was the last time (if ever) you went to a church service?  What were your thoughts during it?

[ovenrack]

Hiiiiiiiii. Let's see. Not much going on this week. Got together with my extended family on Sunday (uncles/aunts) and as my uncle teased his absent son for having to go to church with his new wife and her mother instead of hanging out drinking beer in the morning and having a "family olympics", I realized how lucky I am.

I went to several church services in high school. Christmas services occasionally through my twenties. Nothing in 7+ years. Lots of funeral services though. I have a soft spot for Catholic funeral masses. It's the singing.

[aves0708]

AW/Vents/ Encounters this week: We are currently looking (doing a lot of looking) to buy our first home. DH's mom keeps texting and telling me every chance she gets, that she is praying we'll find the right home. It always makes me feel awkward and I never really know how to respond. I usually just say nothing, and then the silence makes me feel more awkward.



QOTW: When was the last time (if ever) you went to a church service? What were your thoughts during it?
We were visiting DH's family last year, and friends of his parents had just finalized the adoption of their son and they were having a dedication ceremony for him ( or at least this was how it was explained to me). I thought it was just going to be this family's close friends and family, and that it would be short and sweet so I agreed to go. DH's is NOT great a communicating sometimes. What he should have said to me is "A and B's son is getting dedicated at the church service my parents go to, are you ok with going?". I was so uncomfortable sitting there and the cult like sermon and worship songs did me in. I got up and left halfway through. I was pregnant, so I just told DH's parents that it was too hot in there.

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@iliketurtles that's weird. And creepy. Is your S old enough to remember it? If it happens often enough I guess he will start to remember it. I don't think leaving the room is overboard.

Aw/vents/encounters: Nothing really this week. We are on holiday in Berlin and I've been trying to figure out how religious people here are. There are a lot of churches, but there always are in old European cities.

QOTW: Probably a wedding or a baptism, there's been a lot of those the past few years. I just try to focus on the couple/baby... Or the arcitechture.

ETA: Actually, it was an Easter service where my FIL's choir was singing. I was very uncomfortable, there were only like 20 people except for the choir and it was VERY noticable that I didn't participate in prayers or hymns. Luckily DD woke up after 20 minutes and I had to take her outside so I had a good reason to leave.

[namastebiotches]

Another week of no encounters here, thank jeebus.

QOTW: Last church service was my little brother's confirmation about 3 years ago. It was a snoozefest for me. So crowded, too. I don't think I paid too much attention to it.

[cavewmn]

AW/Vents/ Encounters this week: No but baby isn't here yet.



QOTW: When was the last time (if ever) you went to a church service? What were your thoughts during it? Besides funerals. I went a few years ago because it was suggested by my therapist. It was the weekend before Halloween, you can guess what the service was about. I will always love the singing but the hate I cannot handle.

[cavewmn]

@iliketurtles, That is creepy and sounds cultish....

[namastebiotches]

I just thought of something. I have a surgery coming up soon & a question I've been asked along with I surance verification blah blah blah is if I have any 'religious preferences.' Like why? In case I pass, what kind of service I want?
Weird

[sewfie2]

AW/Vents/ Encounters this week:
I was talking about some of my family stuff with a coworker who's religious but not pushy about it, and at one point she said (and she meant it kindly and all) the whole god has a plan thing. The stuff I went through with them made me who I am and put me where I'm at, which is true, but that's just fate. Realistically, no god should have allowed my parents to have accidentally gotten pregnant twice (my brother and I result from different failed bc), or allowed my brother to have a child by accident only to abandon him, while I had to go through IVF.

Anyway, I wouldn't necessarily call it a vent, b/c she really meant it in kindness and did not mean it to belittle anything. I don't think anyone else could say that and not mean it as a brush off, kwim?



QOTW: When was the last time (if ever) you went to a church service? What were your thoughts during it?
I have no idea. I mean, mh and I went to a Christmas thing a few years ago, but I think it had probably been close to a decade before that?
Usually I just get bored during services and end up reading the bible.