Post by rikkiandjulie on Jul 7, 2016 6:28:23 GMT -5
I will have a B belly while pregnant. I thought I would care significantly more than I actually do. I am bummed that I am chubby, and will take longer to show though.
I secretly want a different job. I am just bored at my current one, it's not challenging enough anymore. I know that a promotion is on the horizon so I will stay because I LOVE car.i.bo.u coff.ee
I tried feeding a hotdog to R on Fourth of July. I got caught up in the romance of the day. I cut it up into ridiculously small pieces. He spit it out. Meanwhile, I ate 2 myself. I haven't had a hotdog in years.
I bought R a leash to keep him from running off while we're out and about. I feel no embarrassment.
The Mrs and I are committing ourselves to getting post kids sex life back on track! It's happening.
rikkiandjulie - I rocked a B belly with both of my pregnancies, and will again with any future pregnancies. I was self conscious about it at first, but then I found that if you dress yourself the right way, you totally can't tell. I am the master of disguising things I don't like about my body with clothing.
I also cannot remember the last time J and I had sex. Wait, that's a lie. I do remember, but I won't admit it because it is downright shameful. How long does it have to be before technically your virginity comes back?!?! HAHA - I kid, I kid!
I am not breastfeeding Lucie. I breastfed William for 3 weeks and then bailed on it due to supply issues. I breastfed Lucie for 4 weeks and then bailed do to a combo of her upset tummy/spitting up issues, her discomfort/thrashing when on the breast, and if I am being honest -- because I HATE it. Like passionately hate it. I refuse to feel like a bad mom because BFing just isn't for me. I tried with both babes, and I will try again with any future kiddos, but I was downright miserable and so were the babies. Both of my kids have thrived on formula. I know a lot of people feel super strongly about this topic, so I often just keep it to myself for fear of judgment -- or worse and unwelcome lecture. This is my choice, and it is the better choice for my family. J and I are on the same page about it. If anyone else thinks I am a horrible mother, they should keep those sentiments to themselves! OK, off of my soapbox now!
My youngest sister is convinced that Lucie looks just like her. I don't know why it bothers me so much that she is constantly talking about it, but it makes me mad for some reason. We get it, there is a resemblance -- but she isn't your kid, so stop talking about it incessantly! I know - that's not reasonable, but those are my honest feelings.
I am worried that now that our SIL is pregnant (she is married to J's brother) that my in laws will somehow see that grandchild differently b/c there will be a bio connection. My in laws LOVE my kids to the moon and back, and they are the best grandparents every. I honestly think that I have nothing to worry about, but it is still something in the back of my mind. I also hope they have a girl, b/c William has a very special bond with his Pops (J's dad), and I fear that a bio grandson might trump that. J's dad is very, very close to J's brother, and I could see there being a special relationship there if they had a little boy. I just don't want William to be any less special to him. I think I am just being silly about this one...
I also cannot remember the last time J and I had sex. Wait, that's a lie. I do remember, but I won't admit it because it is downright shameful. How long does it have to be before technically your virginity comes back?!?! HAHA - I kid, I kid!
I am not breastfeeding Lucie. I breastfed William for 3 weeks and then bailed on it due to supply issues. I breastfed Lucie for 4 weeks and then bailed do to a combo of her upset tummy/spitting up issues, her discomfort/thrashing when on the breast, and if I am being honest -- because I HATE it. Like passionately hate it. I refuse to feel like a bad mom because BFing just isn't for me. I tried with both babes, and I will try again with any future kiddos, but I was downright miserable and so were the babies. Both of my kids have thrived on formula. I know a lot of people feel super strongly about this topic, so I often just keep it to myself for fear of judgment -- or worse and unwelcome lecture. This is my choice, and it is the better choice for my family. J and I are on the same page about it. If anyone else thinks I am a horrible mother, they should keep those sentiments to themselves! OK, off of my soapbox now!
I think that we should have a prize for who has gone the longest without sex, it seems to be a common theme. I remember exactly when, and it was a looooooooooooong time ago. Should I confess exactly when? Not sure about that one, maybe when/if the group goes private. *lol*
Re: breastfeeding. Damn right it's you and your family's choice. All the shame and judgement around this topic is my number one pet peeve right now.
Yesterday I went out into the world (midwife, mall) without showering, or... here goes, I admit it... wearing a bra. Sometimes I like to play off my decisions as being because I'm a bit of a hippie, but in reality I think I'm just lazy sometimes.
I'm quite amazed that I am a mother, and sometimes that responsibility feels like a thousand pound weight - I worry that I will fuck it up. I know nothing about parenting, especially an infant. Sometimes I blame all the mother-blaming about this vs. that. I'm surprised that I take it all so personally instead of just doing our thing. I need to work on that.
I actually think I might win the sex race/contest. When I put it that way it sounds fun, but we all know that isn't how I mean it. HAHA. Ok, I'm going to rip off the bandaid and admit it (gulp) .... it was BEFORE either of my children were born. Ok, conceived.
The B belly is when you have a lumpy belly to start with, so instead of having a nice round basketball type baby belly (shape of a D) you instead have a bumpy belly in the shape of a B.
My new boss is a former high level executive who is starting the firm mostly for fun wth the blessing of his old corporation. His old department was basically eliminated and at least 100 people probably wanted this job. It's just him and I right now.
Confession #1- I got this job bc he's friends with my dad. This is the first time I've used his connections and I'm sorry I didn't do it sooner.
#2 - If we decide to password protect I have some good ones to share.
As for our sex life, I try really really hard to make sure we have sex at least once a month but I know J wants much more. It's always amazing in the moment, but it's so hard since we work opposite shifts most weeks.
Me: 31 Wife: 30. Legally married 2008, thanks CA! TTC #1 since 11/14 using donor sperm. IUIs Jan-Aug 2015 BFN Sept & OCT 2015 added Femara. BFN Saw RE December 2015. IUI with Clomid & Trigger Jan 2016 BFN IUI #13 with Follistim April 2016 BFFN IVF #1 July 2016. 14R, 10F, 6 Day 5 embryos. 4 PGS normal embabies!
Mine was before either of your children were conceived.
Oh, I totally had a B belly. #seecommentaboutweightloss
I am bored with my job. I love the people I work with, I like the flexibility, I love having time (most days) to putz on the internet. I don't see my myself leaving but I need to find a new challenge. Hopefully, that is coming soon.
Post by rikkiandjulie on Jul 7, 2016 9:33:34 GMT -5
We haven't had sex since, I got a BFP. Mostly because I cramp so badly after right now, so I guess that's a lie we did once. I am going to try very hard to keep our sex life active. I find it important, and really fear "lesbian bed death". You don't have to answer if you don't want to, but why do you think you haven't had sex? Is it an attraction thing? A time thing? Lack of interest? I remember my counselor saying that after some time of not having it, you need to schedule it, make it known that this is happening, and eventually the want/desire comes back.
Me: 31 Wife: 30. Legally married 2008, thanks CA! TTC #1 since 11/14 using donor sperm. IUIs Jan-Aug 2015 BFN Sept & OCT 2015 added Femara. BFN Saw RE December 2015. IUI with Clomid & Trigger Jan 2016 BFN IUI #13 with Follistim April 2016 BFFN IVF #1 July 2016. 14R, 10F, 6 Day 5 embryos. 4 PGS normal embabies!
Stringy, wait till your pp apt where they talk about bc and which you you'll use. I said mine would be needing $3,000 for an FET. They were still like, so do you need the patch? Lol
I hate dry spells in sex. My new goal is 1x month. That's doable.....and pathetic.
I know, right?!?!? My goal is to leave the house once a day, nevermind sex.
Today's trip? The pharmacy. I have to get a better nasal aspirator than this stupid bulb-thingy. I hate that Is has a cold, the snotty breathing is pitiful and makes me feel like a shitty mom.
but why do you think you haven't had sex? Is it an attraction thing? A time thing? Lack of interest? I remember my counselor saying that after some time of not having it, you need to schedule it, make it known that this is happening, and eventually the want/desire comes back.
We almost broke up about 5 years ago bc of lack of sex. It is that important in our relationship. I hope you all can get back into it. It's good for you, scientifically proven!!!
Me: 31 Wife: 30. Legally married 2008, thanks CA! TTC #1 since 11/14 using donor sperm. IUIs Jan-Aug 2015 BFN Sept & OCT 2015 added Femara. BFN Saw RE December 2015. IUI with Clomid & Trigger Jan 2016 BFN IUI #13 with Follistim April 2016 BFFN IVF #1 July 2016. 14R, 10F, 6 Day 5 embryos. 4 PGS normal embabies!
I know, right?!?!? My goal is to leave the house once a day, nevermind sex.
Today's trip? The pharmacy. I have to get a better nasal aspirator than this stupid bulb-thingy. I hate that Is has a cold, the snotty breathing is pitiful and makes me feel like a shitty mom.
People swear by the nose frida thing.
I haven't left the house in days. I make ppl come to me. Plus this baby hates the car.
Hang in there Stringy. There is light and life on the other side of the newborn haze. We did a lot of divide and conquer at our house those first few months. I took L, my wife took R. It was all about our heads above water.
Hang in there Stringy. There is light and life on the other side of the newborn haze. We did a lot of divide and conquer at our house those first few months. I took L, my wife took R. It was all about our heads above water.
That'd be great if my wife wasn't back at work already! Luckily I can send the toddler off somewhere most days.
Post by rikkiandjulie on Jul 7, 2016 13:04:04 GMT -5
3 is a toddler I think!
I manage a coffee shop, and I HATE managing college kids. Hate hate hate. Everytime someone calls in sick, I end up covering it. Because anytime I ask someone else to, they respond with "I can't I have a date" or " I can't I have blah blah blah" Well today I told them off, I was like people I have fuck!ng plans too, and I refuse to always have to cancel them to work a Team member shift. It HAS to be the hormones bc before I would say nothing!
Hang in there Stringy. There is light and life on the other side of the newborn haze. We did a lot of divide and conquer at our house those first few months. I took L, my wife took R. It was all about our heads above water.
That'd be great if my wife wasn't back at work already! Luckily I can send the toddler off somewhere most days.
She's 3. Is that no longer a toddler?
That's rough. MW took a month off then I was solo with both kids full time. I'm glad M has a place to go. It's hard juggling them both when dealing with newborn. We hit a turning point at 5 months when it got easier.
kh826, You're def not silly about your concerns over your in-laws relationship with your kids. I had them too when we switched to me being the egg donor to get R. We even went as far as to call my MIL and check in with how they would feel with us not using MW's eggs. Family is important to us and we wanted to know how they'd perceive our kids. They were very supportive and reassured us they'd love our kids no matter who carried. R and L are grandkids #7,8 for them and they adore them to pieces. They do treat them differently than the other grandkids, in that I think ours are spoiled more:)
We had my MIL in the birthing room to watch R be born and she still talks about it as the most amazing experience seeing her only daughter give birth.
Post by rikkiandjulie on Jul 7, 2016 18:39:55 GMT -5
I too worry about this child's relationship with one if my BILs. He HATES me, always has. I'm okay with it, but he has made some Shiitty comments about how if Julie doesn't birth the child than it is not his nephew, and when we were struggling to concieve Julie was trying to open up to him, and he just said "maybe it's not meant to be". He has a daughter who is about 9 months and told us that he didn't come to the family reunion a few weeks ago, because he wasn't ready for me to meet Charlotte, and that he doesn't know if he will ever be able to let me meet her. Mind you I have done NOTHING to this lunatic, aside from date Julie.
Her 2 other brothers are AMAZING though, and I love them to death. This one just sucks.
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