Big fat fight with DH right before bed last night about having a second kid and me going back to school. He told me that I was being selfish and he was really being a dick. He was still not talking to me this morning. Idk where the line is between being selfish in a bad way and wanting to do something that will make me happy and have career satisfaction. Really not feeling good about what went down. I feel like he's manipulating every aspect of the situation to get me to change my mind and stay where I'm at because the money is good. I just want him to be supportive, and pressuring me to TFAS and calling me selfish isn't doing it.
Post by ourcrazynavylife on Jul 7, 2016 9:12:10 GMT -5
laceysbryan what a big fat twatwaffle. I hope you guys figure something out. I totally understand your situation, that's practically the same fight that me & DH have on a daily. Except you're my DH and I'm you're husband.
So I spoke to soon yesterday about having a good/quite morning...I ended up going to a sister hospital to help a coworker...then when I got back to my hospital it was a zoo!!! Then this morning I got here and it was crazy!!! This is supposed to be our off season!
LO did something weird last night...we were in his room getting his bag ready for the day with my mom today and all of the sudden he started saying "peepee" and he went to the bathroom opened the door said "peepee" again and when I asked him if he had to go pee pee he lifted up his shirt and tried to pull his pants down and pointed to the toilet and said "pee pee"...so I took his diaper off and put him on the toilet... I waited 5 minutes but nothing....
My mom called me this morning and said "you didn't tell me your son can take his diaper off"...he has never taken his diaper off...
Is 18 months to early for a potty training for a boy?
I kinda of wanted to wait until we move but I guess I will be going out tomorrow and buying a toilet seat!
I am off for 4 days after today so I am hoping to get more stuff packed!
laceysbryan, I'm sorry lady. It's so hard when our partners are less than supportive. FWIW I think you have every right to have career satisfaction on your list of wants. Money on its own isn't everything. babyw15, if he's showing signs that he's ready, I don't think it's too early. My LO is 18 months tomorrow and nowhere near ready to PT, and not doing anything like what yours is! Plus for us, with another baby on the way I don't want to push it because I feel like he'd just regress anyway. But maybe you can feel confident just going for it!
laceysbryan LT for hugs. He sounds like he's avoiding the real topic which is money(?) and being immature and inconsiderate to boot. hope he comes around soon
I feel like I'm keeping the nausea under control but the indigestion! Omg! Yuck
Hugs to everyone today.
Yikes! I've heard diarrhea can be a 1st tri symptom. I teetered mostly on the constipated side.
I'm going back and forth, nothing for a whole day then blammo... It all comes shooting out at once. Lol sorry anyone who is cringing from reading that, I apologize!
DH has to wait a year to use vacation time. And when I said "you know you aren't doing that", he replied "of course not, I have to go to mexico in April". I was so taken aback. I'm like really, is that all? And he's like yeah, cue the tears. After I told him he had to take time off when I have the baby, he continued to be an ass and said "maybe a day or two off" while his april trip is scheduled for 2 wks! I was sooo upset. Esp since he didn't understand why. I cried so much that even after we stopped fighting, I couldn't stop and started to hyperventilate. Not a good feeling. [\spoiler]
Post by laceysbryan on Jul 7, 2016 15:00:17 GMT -5
Thanks for the words ladies. The concern is money and, stupidly, "status" I think. His dad is a surgeon so he had everything growing up and I think he feels pressure (from himself?) to be equally successful in a monetary/material sense. Big house, nice cars, etc. It just sucks feeling like I'm not an equal partner and that what I want doesn't matter. I don't think he gets/cares about it. There's an age gap and sometimes I feel like he talks down to me or doesn't take me seriously. Not cool.
Thanks. I'm sorry yh is making you feel like that esp when all you want is to be in a satisfying career. We spend majority of our days at work, nothing wrong trying to be happy during that time.
laceysbryan that is really frustrating. I might take him out to a quiet dinner and try to talk through it rationally, listen to each other's concerns, and see if there is some common ground to build on. Maybe that way (away from the house and more formal environment) you can talk more like peers? Idk, but I feel for you & hope he can talk to you adult to adult. You deserve happiness too!
bkmama0 I was on the other side of the spectrum and had to take Metamucil every day because I was so constipated. *gag* littlelion big hugs to you too, lady.
Hope all these husbands get their shit together soon!
ashlantic pregnancy can be so gross!! littlelion I think about my ideal work life a lot and what I'd want it to look like- I think ideally I'd want to do part time work in a cute bookshop or something but I value the $$$ and I guess the "relevance" that having a career gives you (?) too much. I have caught myself lately thinking about when I'm 50 with grown kids, a big flower/veggie garden, reading novels and drinking wine in bed at 8pm, and it seems nice lol... Im so tired all the time now
littlelion and laceysbryan sorry about the husbands. Fwiw, I waited a loooong time in our marriage before kids to focus entirely on my career. It makes me happier so if that's what will make you happy, do it! bkmama0 that was my entire pregnancy. Never constipated, always the opposite!!! ashlantic my LO is obsessed with stairs! He doesn't go down them on his own though, yet! ourcrazynavylife not the tulaaaaa! #buyallthetulas how are the renos coming? babyw15 my LO is no where near potty training but I'd go with it if yours is showing signs!
Can you be allergic to life? For over a year I've been battling a chronic rash in the same 4 areas. Last summer I chalked most of it up to crazy breastfeeding postpartum hormones mixed with heat rash (underarm and creases of elbows). It's back again, same spots. Last week I was prescribed prednisone because it got so bad. I'm still dealing with it! I have a dermatologist appt but of course they can't see you for weeks and weeks. Anyone deal with something chronic like this? I'm seriously going insane. I have sensitive skin and I use the same products daily with no issues, no known food allergies. Haaaalllpppp.
littlelion and laceysbryan sorry about the husbands. Fwiw, I waited a loooong time in our marriage before kids to focus entirely on my career. It makes me happier so if that's what will make you happy, do it! bkmama0 that was my entire pregnancy. Never constipated, always the opposite!!! ashlantic my LO is obsessed with stairs! He doesn't go down them on his own though, yet! ourcrazynavylife not the tulaaaaa! #buyallthetulas how are the renos coming? babyw15 my LO is no where near potty training but I'd go with it if yours is showing signs!
Can you be allergic to life? For over a year I've been battling a chronic rash in the same 4 areas. Last summer I chalked most of it up to crazy breastfeeding postpartum hormones mixed with heat rash (underarm and creases of elbows). It's back again, same spots. Last week I was prescribed prednisone because it got so bad. I'm still dealing with it! I have a dermatologist appt but of course they can't see you for weeks and weeks. Anyone deal with something chronic like this? I'm seriously going insane. I have sensitive skin and I use the same products daily with no issues, no known food allergies. Haaaalllpppp.
Picture? Maybe I can help. We are studying skin disorders right now.
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