As mentioned last week, DS was exclusively formula fed and it's looking like I will go the same path for baby girl. The FFFC is its for completely selfish reasons, I've never been able mentally to get past my breasts as purely sexual objects and I will be able to go back to the strict low carb diet I was following earlier this year to help with any baby weight. I refuse to be stuck with baby weight for 2.5 years following this baby like I did with DS (some of that time was due to my lazy ass not wanting to do anything but I finally found a routine that works and I want to go back to it).
I'm a day late but I support this. I do believe that BFing is wonderful, but formula really does the job too. As far as I'm concerned, you never need to explain your reasons. Your body, your baby, your call. I feel like all FFers (me too) preface our reasons why we HAD to FF and our war story leading up to the choice. Fuck that. You made a choice and you shouldn't have to defend it.
My FFFC: I hope our little group gets to know each other well enough that we move over to Facebook someday. THERE, I SAID IT. And having said it, I feel like I'm not putting my best foot forward here. I've been sick with the same damn cold for like a month now and all I have to report is a giant pity party because I can't breathe through my nose. Womp womp.
My FFFC: I hope our little group gets to know each other well enough that we move over to Facebook someday. THERE, I SAID IT. And having said it, I feel like I'm not putting my best foot forward here. I've been sick with the same damn cold for like a month now and all I have to report is a giant pity party because I can't breathe through my nose. Womp womp.
But but... What if we aren't on Facebook? This is my social media outlet.
My FFFC: I hope our little group gets to know each other well enough that we move over to Facebook someday. THERE, I SAID IT. And having said it, I feel like I'm not putting my best foot forward here. I've been sick with the same damn cold for like a month now and all I have to report is a giant pity party because I can't breathe through my nose. Womp womp.
But but... What if we aren't on Facebook? This is my social media outlet.
I would hand-hold you in starting an account you could use just for this. My motives are selfish. I just find that platform easier to deal with, because old. But I know we are a ways off from that. Internet safety, yo.
As mentioned last week, DS was exclusively formula fed and it's looking like I will go the same path for baby girl. The FFFC is its for completely selfish reasons, I've never been able mentally to get past my breasts as purely sexual objects and I will be able to go back to the strict low carb diet I was following earlier this year to help with any baby weight. I refuse to be stuck with baby weight for 2.5 years following this baby like I did with DS (some of that time was due to my lazy ass not wanting to do anything but I finally found a routine that works and I want to go back to it).
I'm a day late but I support this. I do believe that BFing is wonderful, but formula really does the job too. As far as I'm concerned, you never need to explain your reasons. Your body, your baby, your call. I feel like all FFers (me too) preface our reasons why we HAD to FF and our war story leading up to the choice. Fuck that. You made a choice and you shouldn't have to defend it.
Thank you for the kind words siouxsieq. I figured being a second time mom that I would be more secure in my decisions, but I still worry about the mom guilt/shade people try to throw your way. There is already a girl at work who has been Facebook messaging all about breastfeeding/pumping supplies I need to buy and so far I'm just letting it happen without standing up for my choice.
inomniaparatus I don't think that's at all right for her to send messages about that. It's such a personal decision that I feel like it's not someone's place to offer unsolicited opinions.
My FFFC: I hope our little group gets to know each other well enough that we move over to Facebook someday. THERE, I SAID IT. And having said it, I feel like I'm not putting my best foot forward here. I've been sick with the same damn cold for like a month now and all I have to report is a giant pity party because I can't breathe through my nose. Womp womp.
Our F15 group moved to FB about 6 months after the babies were born and we've all loved it. Not everyone was comfortable moving so we lost some people, but it was nice.
otepoti I totally understand what you mean about gender disappointment. I think it's good, though, that you're recognizing the feelings and getting to process them.
Post by peaseblossom55 on Jul 10, 2016 12:15:44 GMT -5
Definitely late- if my stomach isn't back to the way it was prior to kids 6-9 months post baby, definitely getting a tummy tuck or some kind of work done.
Related to the above, I can confess that I used EBFing as an excuse not to put serious effort into losing baby weight. ("What if it affects my milk supply?!") I still weigh about 30 lbs. more than when I got pregnant with DS and I'm super self-conscious about starting HDBD this time because I just feel way too chubby compared to all you pretty ladies who've shared so far. :/
Post by heybulldog56 on Jul 10, 2016 19:55:22 GMT -5
geekmama, I am in the same boat. I had 30 lbs left to lose before I got pregnant. My "bump" blends in with my upper belly fat so.... I just look larger than normal, not necessarily pregnant.
Related to the above, I can confess that I used EBFing as an excuse not to put serious effort into losing baby weight. ("What if it affects my milk supply?!") I still weigh about 30 lbs. more than when I got pregnant with DS and I'm super self-conscious about starting HDBD this time because I just feel way too chubby compared to all you pretty ladies who've shared so far. :/
+1. I gained SO much weight with DS doing everything right and since I was already having supply issues, I used it as my excuse to just watch TV and stay home. I easily have close to 40lbs on pre-DS me and I absolutely hate it. I brought it up to H that I am having some serious body image issues this time around as I'm watching everything get bigger. I don't think he really knew what to say.
Hugs, ladies. I started out just on the borderline between "normal" and overweight last time and I felt so beautiful the whole time. I didn't understand why so many women got so worried about pregnancy weight gain. I get it now. I'm living it this time.
Add me to the group who never lost all the baby weight after their first. I still have an extra twenty pounds that I had hoped to lose before getting pregnant. I've accepted that I can't change that now and am just trying to have as health a pregnancy as possible.
I was actually skinnier when I was nursing. I lost all of my pregnancy weight with DD while nursing, but as soon as we weaned *bam* gained 15lbs. I'm now starting this pregnancy about 10lbs over where I was with DD and boy does it already make a huge difference in how I see my body/bump. I'm with you jrun2013 - I can't change it, so I just have to focus on having as healthy a pregnancy as I can. There will be plenty of time to focus on shedding the weight afterwards.
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