@poppyc8, Haha! But I feel that way all the time. But, I did tell DH during delivery last time "These ice chips are bullshit! Can you go get me a cup of ice from sonic?"
Haha I was very specific about my ice quality during pregnancy. I also could have devoured a dozen snow cones!!!
I tend to be too trusting so all your suspicions are making me nervous! I was also surprised to see a few people who don't post regularly on the members list... I def considered not requesting the password for myself when I came back after my hiatus because I didn't want anyone to feel uncomfortable about it. It's a tricky thing and I don't envy budders and @jimbobcooter having to make the decisions!
I tend to be too trusting so all your suspicions are making me nervous! I was also surprised to see a few people who don't post regularly on the members list... I def considered not requesting the password for myself when I came back after my hiatus because I didn't want anyone to feel uncomfortable about it. It's a tricky thing and I don't envy budders and @jimbobcooter having to make the decisions!
...how would you know who does and doesn't post regularly?
just from what I personally remembered...there are def screen names that I know I see frequently and ones I don't, and people who participate in other boards. But obviously lots of people joined in the couple months that I wasn't around, so it took me a while to get acquainted with them too. Initially, when I came back, I was just surprised by how many names I saw that I personally didn't recognize at the time.
To be blunt I think it's insane that ombradellarosa was given the private board password. The exact same thing just happened with cnumbers. She disappeared off the face of the board, came back and posted a few times and then was given access to the private board.
Personally, I know absolutely nothing about her. As far as im concerned she comes here (and multiple other boards) in desperate need of help and support. She participates or shares nothing more. She couldn't even be bothered to finish her AMA or acknowledge the fact that people were worried about her well being. Instead she returned to a different board to again seek help while ignoring all tags.
I agree that a new system moving forward for accessing the private board is clearly necessary. We have a well established community at this point. I think perhaps a majority vote with discussion for entry to the private board would take the pressure off the mods and make sure people are on the same page.
I would prefer not to be involved from here on out.
Yep. This is where I'm at. I frankly hated what happened to cnumbers and it caused me to pull back from the board a bit. Then after that everyone said they trusted us and didn't see a need for change. Yet here we are again. Don't like the system? Go for it. Just do what you all want. But I'm having nothing to do with it.
To be blunt I think it's insane that ombradellarosa was given the private board password. The exact same thing just happened with cnumbers. She disappeared off the face of the board, came back and posted a few times and then was given access to the private board.
Personally, I know absolutely nothing about her. As far as im concerned she comes here (and multiple other boards) in desperate need of help and support. She participates or shares nothing more. She couldn't even be bothered to finish her AMA or acknowledge the fact that people were worried about her well being. Instead she returned to a different board to again seek help while ignoring all tags.
I agree that a new system moving forward for accessing the private board is clearly necessary. We have a well established community at this point. I think perhaps a majority vote with discussion for entry to the private board would take the pressure off the mods and make sure people are on the same page.
For some reason, I only just got the notification for this tag. Maybe it was buried under all the tags from the private board. Anyhow, I already said my piece there but since no one responded to it I'll go ahead and respond directly to this.
Just because you don't know me doesn't mean the board doesn't. billyhorrible and numerous other members can attest to my realness, my trustworthiness, and my past continued support to others on this board. You saying you know nothing about me says a lot more about you than it does about me. Thanks to BH and purple I see that while I may be suffering from mental illness, I'm not crazy--I definitely explained that I haven't been posting much as a direct result of my depression. I don't want to bring down the board, I generally feel that I don't have anything positive to contribute now, I feel like a burden when I come to ask for support, and I can't handle "regular" threads like stuff about baths and birthday parties because it triggers me. I will wholeheartedly acknowledge that because of all that, I haven't been participating in the board over the last several months. I don't see how that makes me any less trustworthy. I haven't shared lately but I'm the same person who shared before. It's hard for me to be vulnerable with the constant fear that I will be judged for what I post or don't post. That fear was plenty strong before and has only been exacerbated by this sudden, personal attack on my honor and worthiness. None of you may have meant it that way but let me be clear that that's how it came across. I know that questioning my belonging on the private board isn't the same as banning me from the public board, but can you not see that as an outgrowth of the same community, it makes me feel unwelcome in both places? If your problem with me is that I don't post here, you might have found a more encouraging way to get me to do so.
I wouldn't say that I didn't bother to finish my AMA. I stated clearly at the beginning that I was going to need a lot of time to get to all the questions. Before posting I was very candid about what was going on IRL at the time, for example answering questions while my zucchini bread was in the oven. It happened that I started the thread right before I went on a week-long trip for my husband's family reunion. I didn't think there was any time limit on answering the questions and I answered as many as I could at a time when I was able.
I did acknowledge the people that were concerned for my well-being. I might have done so on the thread but by the time I made it over there it was kind of a mess of people accusing mgrandy of catfishing. I must say I can relate to her feelings after this.
Which tags did I ignore? The tags that were calling me out over and over for not posting? I responded to those but didn't get a response back. If you didn't know, it feels very awkward to get in the middle of a discussion over whether one is known and what rules should be made to keep people like oneself from being allowed to participate. As far as I can tell, this all happened over the space of a few days during which I was a thousand miles from home in the middle of a family event. I posted in the Interracial/Interfaith board literally as we pulled out of the driveway because the thing I needed support with is directly related to being in an interracial marriage.
I hope you can see the irony in wanting to keep me out of your well-established community. From my perspective, you are the newcomer, and I have never shamed or pushed you away for it. I actually would be happy to see a majority vote on whether I should be included. Then I'll know for sure whether there are only a few people who have decided to turn on me this week, or if I really don't belong here anymore.
I don't expect this post to change anyone's opinion. I've seen how things like this have happened in the past. I just felt like since others had a chance to air their grievances with me, I should do the same.
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