Has anyone seen that ad on Facebook for that thing that's supposed to fold your laundry? I need that in my life. I have no problem putting laundry in the washer, switching it to the dryer, but I cannot bring myself to fold it and put it away. I plan to make this a kid chore when they get old enough!
Post by manybellsdown on Jul 13, 2016 11:40:50 GMT -5
Random etiquette question: we're going to a wedding in a couple of weeks. Can my toddler where a white dress, or is that still a violation of the only-bride-in-white rule?
Random etiquette question: we're going to a wedding in a couple of weeks. Can my toddler where a white dress, or is that still a violation of the only-bride-in-white rule?
I don't think it really matters but I would avoid white if possible.
Post by sandandsea on Jul 13, 2016 11:50:04 GMT -5
This is dHs last week of leave for now (he will take two more weeks later this year) and we are finally getting stuff done. We got his truck services last week, dropped my car off today, and have taken ds1 to the track twice now. It's crazy how you think you will have all of this free time on leave but it flies by. I still need to finish Los birth announcements and order them and write thank yous for the few gifts we received.
Has anyone seen that ad on Facebook for that thing that's supposed to fold your laundry? I need that in my life. I have no problem putting laundry in the washer, switching it to the dryer, but I cannot bring myself to fold it and put it away. I plan to make this a kid chore when they get old enough!
Exactly! I don't want a maid to clean...just put away the damned laundry. It's my biggest fail.
DH has been struggling to decide whether or not he was going to take the new job he was offered. He even went out there to start the job, while he hadn't quit is old one (he works remotely and they did not accept his resignation). The new job was A LOT more money and the old job was meeting it. We've been back and forth about it for weeks. I was ready to move, I just wanted a decision. Well, the old job met the salary yesterday. So he told the new job that he couldn't make it work. I feel so relieved, not because we don't have to move, but because a decision has been made. And we get to stay, so it's just plain easier. Plus, we are going to put our house on the market and move within the city. So I can get a house with a nice pantry;)
Random etiquette question: we're going to a wedding in a couple of weeks. Can my toddler where a white dress, or is that still a violation of the only-bride-in-white rule?
Meh I think NBD if your toddler wears white. I would say that rule is mostly for adults. I'm impressed with your optimism to put her in white though!
Random etiquette question: we're going to a wedding in a couple of weeks. Can my toddler where a white dress, or is that still a violation of the only-bride-in-white rule?
Meh I think NBD if your toddler wears white. I would say that rule is mostly for adults. I'm impressed with your optimism to put her in white though!
Now this is a good point! May be the winner here. She just has a really cute white dress that fits right now.
DH has been struggling to decide whether or not he was going to take the new job he was offered. He even went out there to start the job, while he hadn't quit is old one (he works remotely and they did not accept his resignation). The new job was A LOT more money and the old job was meeting it. We've been back and forth about it for weeks. I was ready to move, I just wanted a decision. Well, the old job met the salary yesterday. So he told the new job that he couldn't make it work. I feel so relieved, not because we don't have to move, but because a decision has been made. And we get to stay, so it's just plain easier. Plus, we are going to put our house on the market and move within the city. So I can get a house with a nice pantry;)
Congrats on having a decision! And staying near good friends and family, right?
Thanks, all! Yep, we get to stay near friends and family. And actually DH's best friend since Jr high is moving to town in January. I'm excited. We get a better salary and don't have to move (we GET to now that we can afford it; we need to before DD1 starts school anyway).
shoogars, that's really amazing news. I'm so happy it worked out and even better than expected, so nice when things fall into place like that.
Baby and I had some visitors over this morning, my grandmother and a few of her old lady friends. At one point since I hadn't eaten yet in the day I brought myself out a bowl of fruit and cottage cheese and one of the old lady friends thought I was going to feed that to the baby. Lol no.
Ugh I know it will get easier but I dread evenings at this point. Hours from 5pm to 9pm are non stop with fussy baby, DS wanting attention (rightfully so after his long day at school), dinner, getting DS and baby to bed and then I just go to bed so I can catch the baby's longest stretch of sleep.
I need advice. The day that DS was born, DH's cousin passed away. He was a troubled man with serious mental health and substance abuse issues. Today a gift arrived from DH's aunt and uncle, his cousin's parents. I'm wondering if we should reference their son in the thank you note, or just talk about the gift? MIL sent them a condolence letter and a tree to plant in his memory and signed all our names, but we never sent a separate condolence note. I've only met them once and never met their son, and DH hasn't had much contact with them in years (they live on the other side of the country). Would you... Send a thank you note for the gift and not mention their son? or, Thank them for the gift and mention that we know what a difficult time this is for them?
vivela, sorry it's hard to know what is best in this situation but I think your suggestion of the thank you note with an acknowledgement of their difficult time is a good one, that's what I would do.
Post by lakecountrygal on Jul 13, 2016 21:20:23 GMT -5
Sorry I've been MIA lately but 2 kids is hard and DH is dealing with some issues (I'm questioning that it may be some sort of depression and have read that men can suffer from PPD).
I hope that everyone is doing well and know that I still check in on occasion. It's just hard because DD is almost an entire month older than some of the others and I'm not sure if we really belong here or if I should switch to May16.
Sorry I've been MIA lately but 2 kids is hard and DH is dealing with some issues (I'm questioning that it may be some sort of depression and have read that men can suffer from PPD).
I hope that everyone is doing well and know that I still check in on occasion. It's just hard because DD is almost an entire month older than some of the others and I'm not sure if we really belong here or if I should switch to May16.
So sorry to hear your husband is having a difficult time. I'm like you as far as the age thing goes, but I'm on the opposite end. My little guy is only 12 days old while so many others are quite a bit older. I guess I like being able to ask stuff that others have already gone through.
lakecountrygal you belong here!! My LO is only 5 days one so I'm on the opposite side (really a July baby) but I think this group is so helpful and supportive. I hope your husband (and you) take care and get help if needed. My DH has been more emotional than I have since we brought DS home. I really believe they can suffer from PPD/baby blues too.
lakecountrygal it's totally understandable that with the baby here now it's more difficult for you to be active on the board. You definitely belong here. I have a May baby too (7weeks). I'm sorry your DH isn't handling things well. This is definitely hard. The hardest transition I've made in my life. I can't even imagine what it's like for mom's of 2 or more like you. Would he be willing to talk to someone like a psychologist or counselor of some sort? I just keep reminding myself that it will get better and that the beginning is rough for a lot of people.
bgkc4 last time around it started getting easier after the 4 month sleep regression. I think it was about 6 months that I was like whew I got this. Hang in there-It does get easier. We wouldn't have another if it never got better.
lakecountrygal I hope dh feels better soon. My husband doesn't like the lack of attention he gets after baby is born. I'm trying to give him lots of hugs and spend some time chatting after both kids are asleep. I think babies are hard on everyone.
shoogars that's amazing news! So glad it turned out to be best case scenario!
babyzebra my sil is visiting so I moved my massive pile of clean, but not folded, clothes behind my bed. I keep telling myself I'll put them away during my maternity leave... It's been 5 weeks! I have no problem folding and putting away the kid's clothes, I just can't bring myself to do mine.
manybellsdown I officially need one too. Baby was woken up twice yesterday. I'm sorry his sleep was ruined too
shoogars congrats! So glad a decision is made and you get to stay!
lakecountrygal I'm so sorry to hear YH is dealing with some issues. That must be so hard on both of you. Like has already been suggested do you think that he would be up for speaking to a therapist? Or maybe you two can go together? I definitely read that men can suffer from a form of PPD. As for moving to May I think you should stay! I also have a May baby! DD is two months old!
Post by frecklesnbrains on Jul 14, 2016 7:18:05 GMT -5
lakecountrygal another mama of a May baby here (my DS will be 2 months next week). Also, my DH has a longstanding history of depression so I know how hard it can be to see him suffer and feel helpless about what to do. A new baby is indeed an enormous adjustment to dads as well as moms. The change in lifestyle and sleep deprivation isn't our burden to carry alone, and dads often end up feeling left out. Communication is so important here - talk to him. Tell him you're concerned. See if he can verbalize how he feels. And professional help is always out there if you need it. Anyway, I'm more experienced in this department than I'd like to be - feel free to PM me if you want to talk more or are looking for advice.
Post by lakecountrygal on Jul 14, 2016 9:52:37 GMT -5
Thanks ladies!
DH has struggled with talking to someone he doesn't know, but I've connected with a few close friends of his and they have talked him through other difficult times. I think he's starting to see how his actions are impacting me because last night he was a little more sympathetic to my feelings.
Thanks for also making me still feel welcome here. DS is so busy right now that when he's home and awake I have no down time and when he's not here I'm trying to get stuff done (he goes to daycare 3 mornings during the week). I'm trying to catch up on laundry and have folded 2 loads and have 4 more to fold and put away. DD is chilling and having tummy time right now.
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