Kissing Kids on the Lips

[summergirl1211]

So I'm guessing at least some of you have seen the Victoria Beckham picture of her kissing her daughter on the lips. What do you ladies think? Some people in my family kiss each other on the lips as adults as a way of saying goodbye. It drives my H nuts when anyone other us kisses Riley on the lips, but it is normal to me as long as they're close family. Just wanted to get other opinions on this. 

[barefoot84]

My H and I both kiss our kids on the lips. I was against it before I had babies, and then it just happened naturally. It started when Tumaini started kissing us and she did it on the lips, so when she was about one? Same with Liam, I didn't kiss him on the lips till he started. We don't do it often, but it happens. We'll stop eventually...

[vanessalc]

I kiss cooper's lips, h doesn't (just not his style) as long as it is a close family and not gross, it doesn't bother me

[junkytrunk]

I kiss Matthew on the lips, I've never even thought twice about it. I think my H kisses his mom on the lips still when they say goodbye. Honestly though, Victoria beckhams daughter is 5. I don't see what the issue is.

[laurski81]

My H and I kiss both of our kids on the lips. I never thought anything of it even though growing up we were not a kiss on the lips type family (at least from when I can remember). I'm not a fan of anyone else doing it with my kids though unless maybe...maybe they are super close family like my parents or sister but they don't even kiss my kids on the lips. My Dad has always kissed my kids on the forehead (and he always did that with my sister and me) and my Mom usually will just hug the kids and do kisses on the cheeks. We don't see my ILs often and they will go to kiss Henry on the lips (Cece's not "giving" kisses yet so it's different) and I don't care for it. The last time we saw them Henry had a cold so I would say things like "kiss on the cheek so we don't spread germs." But I'm not a fan of my ILs so there's that.

TLDR: My H and I do but I'm not a fan of anyone else doing it with my kids.  I don't have an issue with other people kissing their kids on the lips either.

[tribute17]

I do but H doesn't anymore. I think because Patrick gives very wet kisses still and he finds it gross. He will kiss him on cheeks and head though. I don't see anything wrong with it at this age. I think it will stop eventually. We never did it with our parents as far as I can remember but if people want to then so be it.

We had this friend of the family that would always do it. He would kiss all of the women goodbye, not sexual at all, but I always thought it was weird. That should be reserved for your wife in my opinion. He was my parents age and then when our generation got to be old enough he would try it with us too. I just turned my head so it would be more European style on the cheeks. It was just too much for me.

[somethingcleverer]

I'm very huggy/kissy with the kids so I kiss them both on the lips and have no plans to stop. I also still kiss my parents on the lips so maybe my perspective is different about kissing on the lips.
On a weird side note Shane has been giving weird open mouth kisses and if he doesn't stop we are going to be cheek kissers. He's doing it to be a goofball but I dont want a slobbery kiss from my big kid.

[bliz1712]

I'm very huggy and kissy with the girls, especially Eliza because she still allows it and she's my last baby Hanna will do it too, but just not as often. And sort of creepy, but sometimes she gets in a mood and will do prolonged kisses. So I'm assuming she saw it somewhere and is trying to recreate. Like she'll move her head back and forth while she's holding her lips to yours.

I remember it fading or just gradually decreasing with V so we will just do the same with the girls. They will kiss and hug H, but it's very rare and he doesn't go out of his way to either.

My parents both hug and kiss the girls and I don't have a problem with it, and again it will gradually end as well for them like it did with V. I think for others, like my parents, it might end sooner than with me and the kids.

Beckham's kid is 5 right? To me it's totally NBD at that age. That's usually the tip of the hill to it ending if I remember. When they start school and then get embarrassed when in front of friends or classmates.

[xanthepants]

I kiss my parents on the lips. But no way in hell with the ILs. I will with Cosette and don't plan to stop. H doesn't really, but she kisses him. MIL does and it bothers me, but I won't stop her either. It's just cause I don't like her. I think it personally it's a parent thing and that's where it stops. But that is just my personal experience - everyone is different and I won't judge.

[summergirl1211]

Thanks ladies! I just find it interesting to get different perspectives. My family is very close and very affectionate whereas my H's isn't. I mean, his dad won't even hug people, he just gives handshakes (he used to give Riley hugs but not so much anymore). We would bicker about it because it made him so uncomfortable and I thought he was overreacting. I don't care what others do, that's for them to decide. But it's good to see that there is a wide range of what people are comfortable with and we'll just have to figure out what works best for us.

[cbear]

I kiss my girls on the lips all the time, and I did with my parents when I was little. The girls also kiss my parents and MIL, I really think it's NBD. Now that I'm older I do cheek kisses with my parents.

[tribute17]

We were very affectionate too but just no kissing. It was like that was saved for couples. People just have different ways of expressing it. Hugs and snuggles from my mom and dad mostly.

Also, I haven't seen the Victoria picture but are people upset about it? Because if so there are waaaay better things to be bitching about.

[mightybee]

I love smooching my kids on the lips. My own family was not very affectionate, but we have a great aunt that always gave us a wet kiss on the lips. Auntie Barbara. She is known for taking a disposable camera to every family function and giving mouth kisses.

[roo1582]

I kiss my kids on the lips. So does H. As an adult, I don't kiss my parents or extended family on the lips. I don't think its a big deal as a kid.

[trixi282]

I definitely kiss my kiddos on the lips. I did go through a phase where I mostly kissed forehead and cheeks, but that's because J was a super sloppy kisser, haha!

H usually does cheeks/head, but sometimes lips - and J is definitely going for the lips now more often.

I kissed my mom on the lips up until and through high school. Not as much anymore, but occasionally a peck. Also my grandpa and one of my uncles kiss on the lips too - it's not super awkward, because it's always really quick, but it's just how my moms family is, and how they were all raised.

[bantyrooster]

Ellison would try to kiss all of you on the lips.... she lacks boundaries.

[mommymadness]

I love kissing my kids on the lips!! I don't really remember doing it with my parents but I'm sure I did when I was little. My kids will kiss close family on the lips too and I don't think anything of it. I feel like as they get older it might be different but for now I take as many as I can get!

[sarahandeddie]

I kiss my kids on the lips when they let me. DD#1 thinks she is too big most of the time (she's almost 6) and Avery mimics everything she does. They will kiss others on the cheek now too.

I wouldn't want a bunch of other people kissing my kids on the lips because of germs but I don't see an issue with parents.