When you were single...

[theseaword]

If you never went to a club, then don't even vote, you don't matter.

[DirtyLurker]

I voted yes, but because when I'm out and about being social I enjoy meeting new people in general. Unless a guy was a mega creep, I never got offended or tired of guys asking for my number. If I wasn't interested I'd just politely decline.

Then again, it didn't happen often, so there's that.

[cadien]

Special snowflake: Went to clubs but didn't get approached.

Would not have minded.

[barefoot84]

Jul 14, 2016 14:21:11 GMT -5 cadien said:

Special snowflake: Went to clubs but didn't get approached.

Would not have minded.

There, there

[lilorangekitty]

I voted yes. Even if I wasn't interested it was an ego boost.

[mrsrexmanning]

Clubs, no. Bars, yes.


I think for me, clubs are so loud, I'm generally there to just dance and get drunk with my friends. If I can't hear your name, I probably don't really want to chat. Unless super hot.

At a bar, I think it lends itself more to conversation. I'm happy to talk in a bar. I'm not happy to nod and pretend I hear what you are saying in a club.

[Emmentaler]

Generally no, unless I gave some kind of flirt sign, otherwise, leave me alone with my friends. And I never wanted to accept free drinks because I didn't want to be obligated to talk to anyone and I couldn't just say thanks! walk away and enjoy my free drink.

[Emmentaler]

Jul 14, 2016 14:29:51 GMT -5 mrsrexmanning said:

Clubs, no. Bars, yes.


I think for me, clubs are so loud, I'm generally there to just dance and get drunk with my friends. If I can't hear your name, I probably don't really want to chat. Unless super hot.

At a bar, I think it lends itself more to conversation. I'm happy to talk in a bar. I'm not happy to nod and pretend I hear what you are saying in a club.

Because then you can just use the language of love.

[Deleted]

i'm curious as to what prompted the question because nosy.

[allthedrinks]

I said yes but would like to add the when young caveat. Single or not it was flattering when younger. Now at the age of more than 40 it kinda irritates me.

I don't go to clubs often you understand but my brother is 8 years younger and my sister is 17 years younger and every so often I feel the need to school them in how it's done.

[Deleted]

For me personally, if I went to (dance) clubs, I usually went to the gay clubs. My roommate was a gay guy, and I was basically a hag.

In town, there were two basic kinds of bars- the loud, crowded beer garden type bars and dive bars. I mostly hung out in the dive bars, and it wasn't really the culture there for strange guys to approach you.

[Cherhorowitz]

I met MH at a bar. So I think I was pretty down with it. And free drinks. Mainly, I was down with free drinks.

[theseaword]

Jul 14, 2016 14:57:05 GMT -5 @thisbitch said:

i'm curious as to what prompted the question because nosy.

From a long train of thought triggered by the mention of Meghan Trainor in the Blinds thread. I was thinking about her "No" song, and the other song with a similar theme (Pink "U +UR hand"). Basically, songs where men approach women in clubs and they tell them to fuck off.

Personally, I hated getting approached by men in clubs. It was too loud to talk, if you even got a drink it took forever to get and it was watered down, the men would get handsy pretty quick, etc

But then I was thinking that men probably go to clubs mostly to meet women, and I wondered how many of those women would be receptive to their advances vs dreading them, like me.

FTR I usually only went to clubs when I had a friend who really wanted to go. I was more of a bar person.

[cbrandt1]

Jul 14, 2016 14:14:55 GMT -5 @juliagulia said:

I voted yes, but the truth is only if I was interested in them. Also, it's way better if they come up to a group of women because then you aren't stuck one on one.

This.

[theseaword]

From the pole results, I would tread veeeery cautiously if I was a dude trying to make a move. Poor guys.

[theseaword]

Jul 14, 2016 15:16:59 GMT -5 heartbot said:

...I still occasionally like to get approached by guys in clubs? I mean, they get universally shot down, but

That's fine. I just didn't want to skew the pole results with a bunch of "I did when I was single but blah blah blah"

[Deleted]

Yup and I made out with most of them in da club. It never went further than that, nms & I was dating H at the time. But I was in college and liked getting drunk and making out with dudes. And I totally didn't think I'd marry him b/c I was only 19 when we met. oops.

[ViolinsOnTV]

Voted yes, but typically only if they had dance moves that matched mine. No one was ever interested in talking or buying me a drink, just fun dance off style booty shaking.

[abvintage]

Uh, yes, if they were cute!

[rocksforludo]

I don't like people I don't know. Unless they are smoking hot.

[Deleted]

I'm jealous that some of you are still getting approached and kind of amazed (not being snarky) that some of you are still cool enough to hang out in clubs.

#old but the only kind of going out I do is date nights and wine bars with girlfriends.

[Cherhorowitz]

I was in a scene-type bar two weeks ago. And got hit on. Pregnant.

I'm going to be riding that ego boost for a while.

[joy]

Generally, no. I felt this weight of sexpectations if I indulged the guy with some talking/flirting/dancing. I was never much for going home with guys I met in bars/clubs.

[Deleted]

Jul 14, 2016 15:29:00 GMT -5 @jaidit said:

I went to dance with friends, so no.

This.

[overture]

I'll say yes, but the truth is it almost never happened. Or at least not in an overt enough way that I wasn't oblivious to it. I can count on one hand the number of strange men who have shown interest in me that were not creeps.

RBF is a powerful force.

[shanadoo]

I didn't mind, still don't. H hates it tho....

[snowbigdeal]

Jul 14, 2016 16:43:47 GMT -5 @wasabi said:

I wonder how many single women who talk shit about getting hit on in clubs also complain about being single

I'm side-eyeing this hardcore.

[snowbigdeal]

Jul 14, 2016 16:47:29 GMT -5 @wasabi said:

Jul 14, 2016 16:46:40 GMT -5 snowbigdeal said:

I'm side-eyeing this hardcore.

Are you going to expand on that?

So do you mean that if you don't want to be single, you need to be cool with people hitting on you? Or that no wonder those complainers at single if they're so upright about being hit on? Or is there ac third interprettiness I'm missing?

[shanadoo]

Jul 14, 2016 16:54:18 GMT -5 @wasabi said:

Jul 14, 2016 16:50:21 GMT -5 snowbigdeal said:

So do you mean that if you don't want to be single, you need to be cool with people hitting on you? Or that no wonder those complainers at single if they're so upright about being hit on? Or is there ac third interprettiness I'm missing?

Well you're taking it way more seriously than I was. Is this where I say calm down?

I don't think getting hit on at a public place is a big deal. Not all guys are skeezebags trying to get laid.

And isn't that kinda par for the course while going out clubbing?

[snowbigdeal]

Jul 14, 2016 16:54:18 GMT -5 @wasabi said:

Jul 14, 2016 16:50:21 GMT -5 snowbigdeal said:

So do you mean that if you don't want to be single, you need to be cool with people hitting on you? Or that no wonder those complainers at single if they're so upright about being hit on? Or is there ac third interprettiness I'm missing?

Well you're taking it way more seriously than I was. Is this where I say calm down?

I don't think getting hit on at a public place is a big deal. Not all guys are skeezebags trying to get laid.

k. My panties aren't in a bunch.