Post by ldubhawksfan on Jul 18, 2016 9:48:48 GMT -5
TTMA tantrums. I think my 8 mo old is throwing tantrums! She is going through some bad separation anxiety, but will throw all out tantrums crying loudly if she wants me but, say her dad is holding her. Guys, how to I not give in and reinforce tantrums while also being able to baby my baby?!! I wasn't prepared for this already!!
TTC #1 starting July 2013, RE last 2014 First Angel baby lost July 11, 2014 IUI #1 with injections successful: EDD 11/24/15 Rainbow baby DD born 11/14/15 TTC#2 October 2016 Second Angel baby lost Jan 5, 2017
Post by sunfrogger88 on Jul 18, 2016 10:06:04 GMT -5
We deal with this while nursing (her strikes).
I basically put her in "time out" aka, her crib. I'd let her cry it out, I sit in the room with her, and I watch her cues. I have learned when she's ready to listen to mommy and nurse and not pitch a fit about it. Doesn't take more than maybe 10 minutes for her to figure herself out.
Married DH 09/21/13 BCP 08/08-02/12, 01/13-08/14 Paragard 02/16-? TTC#1 August '14 1st BFP 3/9/15! EDD: 11/17/15 Emma Rose born 11/26/15 (Thanksgiving!)
Married DH 09/21/13 BCP 08/08-02/12, 01/13-08/14 Paragard 02/16-? TTC#1 August '14 1st BFP 3/9/15! EDD: 11/17/15 Emma Rose born 11/26/15 (Thanksgiving!)
TTC #1 starting July 2013, RE last 2014 First Angel baby lost July 11, 2014 IUI #1 with injections successful: EDD 11/24/15 Rainbow baby DD born 11/14/15 TTC#2 October 2016 Second Angel baby lost Jan 5, 2017
Post by pickles4prez on Jul 18, 2016 11:13:40 GMT -5
I didn't realize they started so soon but if she grabs something she shouldn't (like mama's tissues for blowing her nose), she pitches a fit when I take them away! Just like week she would give me a dopey smile and move on to the next toy. Hazel's also going through separation anxiety, my husband just talks gently to her and gives her snuggles while she's freaking out. She usually quiets down after a few minutes (as long as I'm out of sight).
Post by melimo1315 on Jul 18, 2016 11:18:29 GMT -5
My DH made up a silly song for each boy when they were babies to calm them. It still works so we start singing whenever DS2 gets upset. DS1 learned the words and sings to him too. Cutest thing ever.
My DH made up a silly song for each boy when they were babies to calm them. It still works so we start singing whenever DS2 gets upset. DS1 learned the words and sings to him too. Cutest thing ever.
Hazels really into anticipating things, like when the tickle monster is gearing up to tickle her. On the changing table when she's being fussy, I'll make a really exaggerated 'no, don't do that' with a drawn out pause in the middle and she usually stops everything waiting for it. Or she ignores me and does 360s on the table, one or the other.
My DH made up a silly song for each boy when they were babies to calm them. It still works so we start singing whenever DS2 gets upset. DS1 learned the words and sings to him too. Cutest thing ever.
Hazels really into anticipating things, like when the tickle monster is gearing up to tickle her. On the changing table when she's being fussy, I'll make a really exaggerated 'no, don't do that' with a drawn out pause in the middle and she usually stops everything waiting for it. Or she ignores me and does 360s on the table, one or the other.
TTC #1 starting July 2013, RE last 2014 First Angel baby lost July 11, 2014 IUI #1 with injections successful: EDD 11/24/15 Rainbow baby DD born 11/14/15 TTC#2 October 2016 Second Angel baby lost Jan 5, 2017
Post by ashleymarie26 on Jul 18, 2016 13:46:52 GMT -5
Oh yes, we are in full tantrum mode.
Like, back arching, throwing herself to the ground. Throwing her head back and screaming, eyes closed. Sooo dramatic.
I have no idea what to do. If it's stupid stuff I completely ignore her (ie- boredom. Me not being right next to her. Wiping her nose. Getting in the highchair. Getting in the carseat)
She's actually been hitting and pinching too when she gets mad. Did not expect this until like, 1. I don't know what to do about that either bc for real, what can she understand? I tell her no and I remove her hands from me....but what more do we even do at this age?
Married DH 09/21/13 BCP 08/08-02/12, 01/13-08/14 Paragard 02/16-? TTC#1 August '14 1st BFP 3/9/15! EDD: 11/17/15 Emma Rose born 11/26/15 (Thanksgiving!)
TTC #1 starting July 2013, RE last 2014 First Angel baby lost July 11, 2014 IUI #1 with injections successful: EDD 11/24/15 Rainbow baby DD born 11/14/15 TTC#2 October 2016 Second Angel baby lost Jan 5, 2017
+like a bajillion. So many scream fests for no reason.
Getting in the car seat. Diaper change. Exersaucer when he wants to be up. Playpen. Crib. Sitting when he wants to stand. Standing when he wants to sit.
Post by squeakyduck on Jul 18, 2016 19:08:32 GMT -5
Must be a leap. Our biggest trigger is me or MH not being in the room with him. Major separation anxiety. I don't really know how to fix it without reinforcemet.
Post by littleredfish on Jul 18, 2016 19:47:42 GMT -5
Yes. Mainly any time I put her down. Or if she tries to crawl and face plants, she does not take failure well. The change table doesn't seem to be a problem because I'm right there.
I just do my best to talk to her reassuringly but not giving in and picking her up if I know it's just a tantrum. I have put her in her crib before when she was screeching and hitting/ scratching me and only picked her up again when she calmed down. That's happened twice.
As a general rule I also try to not pick her up until she calms down. She's starting to understand "relax" and will settle if I say it to her before pickong her up and I put her back down if she starts yelling again once she's in my arms. I don't need her screaming in my ear.
Post by fightersince83 on Jul 18, 2016 23:13:00 GMT -5
Right now I'm just going with the distraction method. She's too young to get anything else. It generally involves me putting a noisy toy in front of her and bolting while she's distracted. As far as the clingy fits I usually go over and talk to her or give her a kiss, but I don't take her from DH's arms.
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