Since we are getting so close to some of our BFP anniversaries, I thought it would be sweet for everyone to look back at your TTC journey and about the day you got your BFP! It's been an incredibly exciting year(almost). I want to hear all about how it all started!
I never wanted kids until I got pregnant with Jackson and then everything changed when I lost him. That was back in '06. We started TTC 7 years ago and after 8 more losses and a PCOS diagnosis we got pregnant with Ridley. My last period was on August 15th! I can't believe it's been almost a year and our little miracle is finally with us!
Post by CattyNattyRN on Jul 26, 2016 20:42:21 GMT -5
H and I have always wanted 4 kids, so we started trying to get pregnant about 1.5 years after we got married. I got pregnant in April of 2014, with my EDD being 12/19. It was so perfect because it would be during Christmas break of my first year of grad school. However, we lost Tucker on August 23, 2014, the week of school orientation. On August 11, 2015 I had my last period, and now have my sweet second son! I am so thankful for all the support the TCF Loss community (and this BMB) has given me through this journey!!!
Post by wanderingheart on Jul 26, 2016 20:49:16 GMT -5
We started ttc September 2014. I took my last bcp in August and spent September, October, and November peeing on sticks because I didn't have a period yet so I had to be pregnant right?!? Started getting ovarian pain around Thanksgiving, went to my OB in December, and was given Provera to jump start my cycle. New OB who didn't know my history didn't see the warning signs of pcos. She told me to call if I didn't get a period after the Provera withdrawal bleed. Didn't get one. Found TD then TCF. Started learning and realized ten years of almost no periods wasn't a blessing after all. Went back to the OB in January, boom PCOS diagnosis. Referred to an RE but couldn't get in until April. Waited a few months, still no period. Started testing, found out MH had low sperm count. Waited two more months for a urologist. Started meds, struck out on timed intercourse two cycles back to back. Started another cycle, everything was going poorly (low lining, small eggs, no insurance that cycle), only for everything to turn around in two days and were pushed to do IUI. I was scared, but RE said not only would we never conceive on our own, but we'd never conceive through intercourse. It had been ten years since I had ovulated, after all. Our chances sucked. It was a low blow.
Husband convinced me to do the IUI, we did, and two weeks later I got my bfp...four days before my birthday then we learned that not only were we pregnant with one baby that we never thought would happen, but there were two! #literallytwoforthepriceofone
Post by tincupchalice on Jul 26, 2016 20:57:58 GMT -5
We were aiming for a two year spread between kids. Pulled to goalie in March. Since we got pregnant in a hot second the last time, DH had no idea that it might not happen that way again. Six months later I had a BFP which is, of course, perfectly normal timing-wise, but was eye-opening for DH. He didn't realize until this time around that no, you can't get pregnant any day of the month!
We started TTC in July 2015 and conceived after two cycles in September. I was shocked to see the bfp as I thought I was testing too early. I took a picture for a keepsake and I'm glad I did. It was such an exciting time!
With both kids, we decided we would start trying during the next cycle and found out we were pregnant before we tried. DD was the result of the Memorial Day Easter beer hunt, and DS is the souvenir from DHs work event.
We wanted to start trying for #2 as soon as I got my period back after DS1. Well I got it a month after I weaned him (1 month after his 1st birthday, April 2015) and we ended up getting pregnant that cycle while on a trip to Jamaica. I got my BFP the day before Mother's Day. Unfortunately I miscarried at a little over 7 weeks. We waited a cycle and tried again and got my BFP on August 28th. Coincidentally my EDD was Mother's Day, a year after my 2nd BFP.
Since MH is 10 years older than me, we knew we wanted to start trying for a baby right away. Since I hadn't had a regular period in ages, I went to the OB while we were engaged for a check up and got diagnosed with PCOS and was referred to an RE. I was given metformin and no period. DH was also diagnosed with 2% morphology. 2 TI, 3 ivf, 3 losses we decided we needed a mental break and planned an amazing, fun summer. During that break, I had a real period (7/26/15) and decided to try opk for the hell of it. We had sex and then got our surprise miracle NATURAL bfp! I couldn't believe it. It makes me cry just writing this out. I had seriously given up the thought we would ever have a family.
Natural chemical pregnancy 8/2013 Clomid #1 and #2: BFN IVF 1 :0 to use IVF 2:4 great embryos after PGS testing. FET 1: BFP EDD 6/20/15 Chemical Pregnancy FET 2: BFP EDD 11/14/2015 MMC 9.5 weeks twins IVF #3: 2 fair embryos after PGS testing Surprise BFP during break cycle and DD born 4/2016
Post by helloerrbody on Jul 26, 2016 23:22:56 GMT -5
I stopped taking bcp in Dec 2012. We spent a year and a half NTNP. I wasn't worried because we weren't actually trying. My periods have always been very regular, even off bcp. We started temping and hardcore timing intercourse summer of 2014. Went to see an RE in April of 2015 and after lots of testing we were diagnosed with unexplained infertility. We continued the sex route until August when I was fed up. First IUI was August 9th and I got my bfp 12 days later!!!!
Mine is a very short story this time (took 8 months with DD and wonky cycles).
I went off birth control in May. Temped and did OPKs in July and started trying for real in August. Last period was August 17th.
We moved into a new house on Sept 10 and I took a test the night of Sept 11 at 8 dpo just to get it out of my system and there was a line! DH was downstairs arranging furniture after we got DD to bed and I shoved the test in his face and said DO YOU SEE A SECOND LINE?!? He looked at it and said - I can't handle this right now. Help me move the couch" LOL. He was very much in shock and has since apologized for his reaction haha
Post by twocents6708 on Jul 27, 2016 9:57:28 GMT -5
This time around was a bit less stressful than the last. We received a PCOS diagnosis after TTTC before DD. DH also has varicocele so we figured that the cards were stacked against us this time around. I went off of BCP and got on Metformin in January 2015. I cleaned up my diet and was focusing on the last semester of grad school. DH was adamantly opposed to any medical intervention. We discussed being one and done but I wasn't really on board with that. We started pursuing foster care and got licensed for respite (temporary) care three weeks before my BFP. I actually cried to my bestie and had some drinks after my cousin called "accidentally" pregnant, which was three days before I got my own positive test. My BFF likes to joke that I was depressed and drinking for no reason
I feel awkward and blessed at the same time. DH and I were very blessed with an easy journey and that is never lost on me. I have several friends who have had LONG journeys to get their babies and rainbow babies. So we don't often talk about how easy it was for us. I got off BCP in 2007. I didn't even know DH yet. But at that time I started using My Fertility Friend for tracking my periods just because I knew I didn't want to EVERY risk getting pregnant accidentally. Over time, I could tell when I was ovulating based on scent and looks of CM and also when I ovulate, ALL I WANT IS SEX. I met DH and we used condoms and the pull out and pray (and counting) method. both kids were conceived on our first cycle trying. With DS2, I did have a 45 day cycle but I knew I wasn't pregnant. I PdOAS just in case but nothing. And then we got our BPF 9 or 11 days after ovulation following that long cycle!
We started trying Jan 2015 and got a bfp in March. We were so excited and so confident. I got my period 2 weeks later and learned what a chemical pregnancy was. It sucked a lot but I found out how common it was. Kept trying, got pregnant again in June. Thought for sure this one will stick! Nope, my period came even quicker that time. Both of these miscarriages took a huge mental toll on me that my husband had a really hard time understanding. He couldn't get why I couldn't just get over it. My period was late in September and I resisted testing because I was just too freaked to see a line and then see it go away. Finally I tested and it was this really dark positive. I started shaking so hard! I was nervous for a week or so but then morning sickness hit and I was throwing up all day long and I knew this baby was a fighter. This pregnancy was so so terrible for me. I think if I was a weaker person I would have quit my job and curled up in bed for the first six months. My husband and I are still working on patching up our marriage and just trying to right the ship. Luckily, we are doing well now and have a beautiful boy we are both so in love with.
Post by gahorseygal on Jul 27, 2016 11:14:31 GMT -5
We decided around DD'S first birthday we definitely wanted to start trying for more. We wanted about 2 years between them and we had just bought a house and had the room to grow our family. So I went off birth control in August 2015 when I finished the pack. Craziness happened with our house that we are currently in a lawsuit about and I got a new job so we decided we would put TTC on hold for a few months to let things settle.
Well it was already too late. We were pretty surprised, our house was uninhabitable and H was living with friends near his work and I was living with my parents. We didn't see each other until the last day of ovulation which was right before our cruise! Neither of us thought anything of it and I wasn't worried about being late that month because I had just come off bcp. H got antsy and pushed me to take a test. We were together checking on the house and meeting contractors so I ran into a gas station bath room to take it. So romantic, ha!
Post by cuppycakes on Jul 27, 2016 11:40:47 GMT -5
Shortly after getting married I got off of bcp in hopes that my migraines might get better. However, I didn't ever get my period. I ended up going to the dr to see what was going on and was diagnosed with PCOS. Once we decided we were ready to start our family I was referred to an RE. She put me on Provera in hopes to "jump start" a period. Since I didn't get a period, the RE had me take a test and surprisingly it ended up positive! We decided once DS turned one we would NTNP since it might take us longer to get prego since I have PCOS. I ended up getting a BFP within a month. I am so grateful to be blessed with an "easy" journey compared to many others who have been diagnosed with PCOS. I cried many, many tears after my PCOS diagnosis wondering if I'd ever be able to have children. I've always wanted to be a mom more than anything. They are my world!
My story isn't all that exciting. We knew we wanted our kids close together (2-2.5 years). The first time, I went off bcp 6 months before the BFP. So I stopped taking bcp in July 2015, right befor DS1 turned 1. Labor Day weekend comes and we all go to the lake. It ended up being a horrible weekend with 5 of the 11 of us there getting a yucky stomach virus. Everyone else bounced back within 12-24 hours. As the week progressed with very little improvement from me, I began to get suspicious. I hasn't had a period since late July but that wasn't surprising since I'd just come off the pill/ stopped BFing my oldest. I stopped by the drugstore on my way home and got children's ibuprofen and a pregnancy test lol. I got the bfp and told mh after A went down that A was going to be a big brother. H was in the middle of talking about his day and it took a second to sink in. When it did he just stopped talking and stared at me! Although it happened sooner than we had planned, the timing actually ended up being perfect with Cam coming early May and me having an extra long maternity leave and both of us having June and July off from teaching.
I got pregnant with DS in October of 2011 on our first try. Pregnancy was textbook and awesome. This isn't lost on me. He was born in July 2012 and labor wasn't as great as the pregnancy but you can't win them all! We wanted a bigger space between our children- about 3 years so we started trying for a second in May of 2014. After 3 cycles we weren't pregnant and decided to take a break until the new year (I'm a teacher and didn't want to take the beginning of the school year off). We started trying again right at the end of December/beginning of January 2015. I found out I was pregnant halfway through January. Something bothered me the whole time. I had an appt at 8 weeks but no ultrasound. One day at school I had extreme stomach pain. I called the nurse line but she told me "it's probably gas." By that night I was bleeding. I had an appt the next afternoon. I found out there that our baby had no heartbeat and had stopped growing at 7 weeks. I was devastated. I decided for a D&C because I just couldn't do it by myself. But, that night I woke up with awful cramps and had severe bleeding. I called the on call doctor at 5am and she told me to come straight to the hospital. I was in the downstairs bathroom and after I walked upstairs to get clothes I basically passed out. My husband had to call 911. I was taken by ambulance to the hospital were I had an urgent D&C. One EMT was amazing and I won't forget him. My miscarriage was traumatic and I didn't want to try again. I had major anxiety problems after and I probably wasn't in a good place. I calmed down and relaxed during the summer and was ready to try again. No luck in June and July. So August I decided to change up timing. It worked! End of August we got a BFP!! This pregnancy was not as nice to me- ectopic scare, blood clot and over more sick, but it was worth it to have my beautiful rainbow. This will be it for us. I just don't think I can put myself through another pregnancy again. My H will get a vasectomy. If I happen to get pregnant after then I'll take it.
Post by marshmallow on Jul 27, 2016 15:08:57 GMT -5
starfishy, that sounds really scary. Sorry for your loss.
We started trying to conceive #2 when I got my period back (son was 10 months) because we're older. I got pregnant after about 6 months, but miscarried at 10 weeks. My midwife told us to wait two cycles. We were super lucky to get pregnant again the first cycle we tried. I was temping and after 18 days of raised temps, knew I was likely pregnant. Being ridiculously cheap, I waited until then to test. When I went to the grocery store to buy a pregnant test, I was going to just get one, but they only had a two pack. I had been planning on taking it with first morning urine, but since I had two took it that evening and got my BFP. My husband wasn't home yet, so I put the pregnancy test in the oven with an old hamburger bun I found in the freezer. When hubby got home, I told him the oven was acting up and to please take a look at it. He kept talking about checking the pilot light and wouldn't open the damn oven, so I had to insist he open it. I got the BFP two days before going to see Pope Francis and kept telling myself this baby was blessed by the pope, so everything would be okay.
I went off BCP shortly after our wedding because my husband had a testicular torsion as an infant so we weren't really sure what that would mean for our fertility. We weren't really ready to get pregnant yet but weren't doing anything to prevent. After a year we were very ready so I started to get a little concerned and decided to really look into my own fertility. We said we'd give it another year and got pregnant with DS 10 months later and he was born in March 2014. My FIL was probably the most happy of everyone (besides us) when we announced because apparently he was scared that MH wouldn't be able to have kids from what the Dr had told him when he was a baby.
We wanted to have kids fairly close together but also wanted to enjoy our time with DS. I didn't get my period back until he was almost 1 and were NTNP after that. We planned to really start trying when he was 18 months and were pleasantly surprise to find I was pregnant a few days before he was officially 18 months.
We are so happy with our two little ones but also feel like our family is likely complete right now. It is a little strange to actually think about birth control for the first time in our 5 year marriage!
Post by mrssqueegy on Jul 28, 2016 12:16:20 GMT -5
We started trying for a second in November 2014. We got a BFP in our 3rd cycle which ended up being a missed miscarriage at 8 weeks. It was devastating. We then when on to have 2 more miscarriages in a row. It was a very dark time in our lives. After a few more cycles of trying (and no more miscarriages, thank goodness) we got our BFP on Sept 1, 2015. The first few weeks until we had our first ultrasound were very stressful but I'm so happy to have my little rainbow now. He was worth everything we went through.
DS (our little Clomid miracle) born Sept. 25, 2012 Baby #2 lost at 8w3d on March 4, 2015 (EDD Oct. 11, 2015) Baby #3 lost at 5w2d on April 16, 2015 (EDD Dec. 15, 2015) Baby #4 lost at 4w1d on May 20, 2015 (EDD Jan. 25, 2016) DS2 (our little rainbow miracle) born May 25, 2016
My story is very very long. In short, we started TTC in September 2011. In January 2012, I got a BFP. That ended in a medically complicated miscarriage in March after an empty sac was discovered. We went on to have 3 more miscarriages after trying between 2 and 8 cycles. During that time, we discovered I had a uterine septum that was corrected during 2 operative hysteroscopies. After my 4th loss, we TTC for a year and did not conceive, so we did IVF, which ended up being a freeze all due to overstimulation. Our first FET resulted in another devastating miscarriage.
Through all that, we were living in Sweden. Last June I moved to the US to start my residency, and DH would move that fall when he got his green card. I was on an easy month in August and DH was pushing for me to come over to try for another FET. I was emotionally and physically exhausted after the spring we had had, and wanted to focus on my new job. Plus I didn't see how we could manage to time it without meds, since I couldn't find an RE here who would work with the Swedish RE. He convinced me to try. I came over, no meds, and miraculously was at the right point in my non-medicated cycle to trigger and do another FET while I was there. That was on 8/20. On 9/6, I got a BFP. Somehow, that one stuck and here we are with what is nothing less than an absolute miracle rainbow baby.
It is so nice reading all your stories. I am so grateful there are so many rainbow babies here!
I wanted to GKU in 2014 after 2 years of marriage. Scratch that. My Mommy instinct kicked in around 2011 in college and I wanted to have a baby BAD but MH and I decided 2014 was the soonest time we had our lives together enough to have a baby. We GKU on our 2nd cycle trying but lost "Emby" pretty early on. It was devastating but we had hope and started trying immediately after. My cycles were wonky for about 6 months but I POAS every month anyway. We got pg with "green bean" as soon as my cycles settled down but lost "her" pretty quickly too. Again, my cycles were wonky but I needed a mental break so I became obsessed with taking care of myself instead of obsessed with getting pg. Also this is when my OB started pushing tests and finding all sorts of crazy stuff in my blood work. They told me not to get pg but a few days later we got our BFP for baby I. They were watching us like a hawk from day 1 and got us immediately on aspirin and progesterone. IDK if this one was successful bc of the meds, from getting healthy, or if he was a sticky one no matter what, but I couldn't be more grateful to have my rainbow only 1 year after EDD 1.
We got married in May 2011 and started TTC in July 2011. We conceived DD 5 months later and she was born August 2012.
After DD we kept going back and forth whether to try or not to try. I would go on and back off the pill when we thought we were ready to try again. On one of my times not being on the pill I got KU in May 2014. It ended in MC after 5 weeks. At that time we decided we just couldn't afford 2 in daycare comfortably so TTC went on hold again.
2015 DH got a new job which enabled him to work part time in the mornings and stay home with DD while I worked during the day. We had been using condoms for the past year because I was tired of being on the pill. Once DH got that job we started trying and we got pregnant the very first month of trying and August 14th is my LMP anniversary date! So much has happened this year!
We were going to try for DD1 starting in 8/2012. In July, I had a routine yearly exam where my docotor felt something funny. Go in a week later to get scanned and to everyone's surprise I had a 12 cm (roughly 5 inches) dermo is cyst on my right ovary. Everyone was surprised I had no discomfort. So o had surgery at the end of Aufust where they took my right ovary and tube out. We were allowed to start trying 2 months later in October. November brought our 1st BFP but we lost that within the same week. 2 cycles later, we got our BFP for DD1 in January.
I wanted a second and H really could have stayed happily with one but somehow I swayed him over to my side. We started trying at the end of June 2015 and got our BFP on cycle #3.
We got married in June 2013 and conceived DS a few weeks later. He was born two days before our 10 month anniversary.
We had planned to start TTC again in September 2015. We're older so I bought a 50 pack of OPKs to use to track my cycles, thinking it might take us a few months this time. I stopped BC in August to give my cycle a month to reset. Well, it didn't need resetting and I ended up giving away almost all of those OPKs.
I was "ready" to ttc pretty much as soon as we got married in 2011. H wanted to wait until he had a better job and we had a house which really was the smarter choice. Around November 2014 we started ttc for real although I had gone off bcp a few months before since I had read that cycles can be a bit wonky after being on the pill.
We were convinced it wouldn't take us long at all. But it didn't take me long to realize my cycles were ridiculously jacked up (although whether it was from bcp or what we don't know) Anywhere from 33 days to 56 days, multiple positive opks, different lps.
My GP suspected that I might have something going on with how irregular my cycles are. My old gyn was no longer in the area so I got on a waiting list even though my GP said it was pretty likely the gyn wouldn't want to do anything until we had been ttc for a year.
We always wanted to adopt one and have one children. In our perfect world we were going to have one, then adopt. Around mid summer I came off a 50-something day cycle and we decided that we were going to get the ball rolling. July we had our meetings with a private Christian agency. Signed up. Etc.
September 3rd I got my BFP after 10 months of trying. I almost didn't test that day but the ladies on GKU convinced me
My cycles still hadn't really regulated before I got my BFP so I'm curious to see what they will be like when they start up again lol
For DS1, I got a BFP on the morning of our Anniversary. We were TTC DS2 around the same time, so I POAS on the morning of our Anniversary, 5 years later, and it was negative. I was a little disappointed, because that would have been a cool story.
That Friday night, my cousin's heavy metal band was playing at a big concert venue near me, with some other bands. It's totally not my crowd, but I wanted to see him, DH is a fan, and some of our other friends were going. I figured since I wasn't pregnant, I would drink, and we could go bar hopping after the concert. I had a couple of drinks, saw my cousin play, and then started feeling nauseous. DH and I left, and we didn't even make it down the street to a bar before I decided we needed to leave. I puked in a grocery bag in the car the entire way back to our friend's house. His wife was babysitting and we left our poor friend at the concert to catch a ride with our other friends. DH wanted to drive home but I was so sick, I puked some more and passed out in their guest room. The next morning, I was still sick. My friends teased me for drinking too much, but I (and DH) knew I hadn't drank much at all. I thought I had food poisoning from dinner the night before. I was sick the entire drive home. Even if I get sick while drinking, I'm never like that the next morning. DH suspected I was pregnant. I was in denial due to the negative test. I POAS the following Monday and it was positive. Then my 24/7/9 month morning sickness continued, just like it had with DS1. LOL!
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