Post by kleigh926 on Jul 27, 2016 13:37:24 GMT -5
Okay, so I'm hoping what I say here doesn't come across too bad, but DH and I have been struggling with DD. DH and I are pretty independent, not constant-interaction people. We're not overly affectionate and like our alone time. He is very introverted and prefers to be by himself the majority of the time, while I am more outgoing and comfortable around people, but would describe myself overall as a homebody.
DD on the other hand, seems to have lost the ability to happily be or play by herself (not that she had much of that ability in the first place). She talks a lot, doesn't leave any of us alone, and cries without fail every time we leave for quiet time, bedtime, or if we're going somewhere without her. She's very defiant, strong-willed, and argumentative. I definitely think there's some separation anxiety going on too but we are so fed up with the crying over everything we say or do and not understanding the concept of personal space and limits. We do a quiet time everyday, sometimes it's a movie, sometimes we make her stay in her room for awhile by herself. But she never plays- she always naps. And then she's up till 11:00 at night. If she has to be alone, she will choose to sleep over playing (and of course she throws a fit when we leave the room).
I hope that some maturity will help with her overbearing personality and the crying but that doesn't help us much in the meantime. I feel horrible, I hope it doesn't sound like we don't want to be around our own kid, but she's so difficult to deal with sometimes and doesn't give us a break. Any advice or commiseration?
DD on the other hand, seems to have lost the ability to happily be or play by herself (not that she had much of that ability in the first place). She talks a lot, doesn't leave any of us alone, and cries without fail every time we leave for quiet time, bedtime, or if we're going somewhere without her. She's very defiant, strong-willed, and argumentative. I definitely think there's some separation anxiety going on too but we are so fed up with the crying over everything we say or do and not understanding the concept of personal space and limits. We do a quiet time everyday, sometimes it's a movie, sometimes we make her stay in her room for awhile by herself. But she never plays- she always naps. And then she's up till 11:00 at night. If she has to be alone, she will choose to sleep over playing (and of course she throws a fit when we leave the room).
I hope that some maturity will help with her overbearing personality and the crying but that doesn't help us much in the meantime. I feel horrible, I hope it doesn't sound like we don't want to be around our own kid, but she's so difficult to deal with sometimes and doesn't give us a break. Any advice or commiseration?