I guess I need to figure out how to get my LO to sleep at night... I'm considering letting him sleep in our bed. Our current "routine" is getting rough-- hang in the nursery until he falls asleep in my arms and then attempt to bring him into our bedroom to put him in his bassinet, only to have him wake up the second I put him in it. Maybe just hang out & nurse in bed and fall asleep there? --Any suggestions on getting a 3 week old to sleep at night?
I'm going to try to do a bath tomorrow night, maybe that's part of the equation? I think someone said they use a heating pad on the crib/bassinet mattress? Does that work? You take the pad out right before LO is laid down right?
Sorry this turned out so long. Thanks for reading.
Sorry GOmamab15 that you are having so much trouble with sleep. We nurse right before bed now and that works. I don't have much of a suggestion. Is he sleeping too much during the day?
I don't think there is much you can do at this point. Are you making sure he's 'limp noodle' as I call it before putting him down?
This was a big new mom learning curve for me. It took awhile for me to figure out the difference between his eyes being closed and the deep limp noodle sleep! Right now LO's eyes are closed but he will definitely wake up if I move him.
Post by frecklesnbrains on Jul 28, 2016 5:25:45 GMT -5
GOmamab15 we went through a brief co-sleeping phase early on. It helped save my sanity.
Speaking of sanity, I'm losing mine again. Is sleep regression a thing? My 9 week old, who had been sleeping 6 hour stretches since 4 weeks, has now had 4 awful nights in a row. Last night I put him down at 9 and he was awake at 11, 2, 3:30, and 5:30. Why baby why?!?!?
I think mothering a newborn is the first time I've wished to be obscenely wealthy. If I was, I could hire someone to bring me a Dunkin Donuts iced latte during early morning feedings. They would just be on standby 24/7 for latte purposes. I have a sleep dilemma as well. At night when we go to bed, it is usually still hot. I swaddle DS with his arms out because he seems to prefer it, and it is so warm in the room. But usually by 6am or so it has really cooled down. Often when I pick DS up his arms and hands feel cold. I think he might even sleep longer if he wasn't getting chilly in the mornings.
My aunt and cousins are coming today to meet the baby. My aunt is the closest thing to a mom I have and has been in Florida, so I'm excited for her to come. I need to decorate ninja turtle cookies too.
frecklesnbrains- it sounds like your little guy is so excited for vacation...I'm sorry
Post by frecklesnbrains on Jul 28, 2016 5:52:28 GMT -5
vivela, we have the same problem with hot/cold baby. I usually put him to bed in something with long sleeves because he doesn't seem to mind being too hot as much as too cold. I also have to tell DH not to turn the A/C on full-throttle. If I have to pull the quilt up to my chin to stay warm then the baby is probably cold...
GOmamab15 I'm sorry it has been so rough! We used a heating pad and it really worked for us. I think she would leave the warmth of being held for a cold hard mattress and wake up angry, so we started heating the mattress a little. We would put it down on low setting while we were getting her ready for bed and then take it off before we put her in. The mattress never got hot just slightly warm enough so it wasn't a hard transition. We don't need to use it any more now that she has gotten more comfortable in her pack n play, but that trick may need to come out again when we eventually move her to a crib! Also she sleeps SO much better on bath nights so that may help to! I also bring her in the bed with us if she wakes up super early so we all get a bit more rest.
frecklesnbrains the same thing happened to us around 9 weeks!! I felt like what is going on!?! We went from 4hr stretches to like 90min ones. She is back to 4-5hrs so there is hope lady!
vivela if I won the lottery I think a night nurse would be one of my first phone calls. Then a full time cleaning service.
Post by twobananas on Jul 28, 2016 10:43:48 GMT -5
Have you guys heard of the wonder weeks app? You have to pay for it but it's based on the thinking that kids go through developmental milestones that are associated with more fussy periods. Looks like 9 weeks is one of those periods.
Have you guys heard of the wonder weeks app? You have to pay for it but it's based on the thinking that kids go through developmental milestones that are associated with more fussy periods. Looks like 9 weeks is one of those periods.
I had heard of it and wasn't going to download it, but I think I will! It would be nice to know what is going on! Thanks!
@twobananas, thanks for the chart very helpful! We have a stormy period coming up I guess, DD is 8 weeks tomorrow. Also looks like I need to book myself a solo vacation for the entire month of October, yikes!
For young sleeping babies I've found it takes a good 15-20 minutes of being completely asleep if you want to try to transfer them to their crib without waking upon arrival. Unfortunately as they get older this tends not to work as well but at this age it's the best you can do, whatever works.
DH and I are going out to dinner and a concert tomorrow night and my sister and brother in law are watching the kids, I'm so excited!
Post by ArgyleEnigma on Jul 28, 2016 12:54:32 GMT -5
What about a rock n play? We don't have one but I've heard good things.
I had Indian food Tuesday and life has been awful for LO. I think he's starting to get better but it was rough there for a while. Poor guy. Of course, our sleep took a hit too.
Jealous of people with babies who sleep longer than 2 hour stretches. Once in a blue moon we get more.
Both kids are napping and the nanny is off today. Clearly I should be sleeping but instead I'm drinking coffee and watching Hart of Dixie. I had an early and busy morning and am sitting for the first time. I will regret this decision later I'm sure.
I hold him for about 20-30 minutes after he's asleep and he's pretty noodley but he gets that "oh crap I'm falling! I'm falling!!" reflex when I put him down. Then eyes open. I don't know. I've just been dealing with little sleep until now but I think I need to take it more seriously and try harder earlier in the night to get off to a good start. Last night he slept well for an hour around 3am and again at 7am-9am. Not enough for mama.
nymama917, sometimes I find it's better to stay awake, even if I am exhausted, and get a little bit of alone time/time to be awake and doing something for myself (like reading) rather than taking care of the kids.
As far as sleep goes, I feel like we are constantly trying something new and it's different every day as far as what works. I've been less stressed this time, even on the really bad days, because I remember with DS that most really rough patches are just a season and will soon be a memory. However, that's easy for me to say because usually DS is a good sleeper (he stays in his crib from 8pm until 7:30ish am most days) most of the time. DD has been harder, but I'm trying to remember that it will get better. Sometimes it's just about survival, so I say do what you gotta do! Right now DD is sleeping in the bassinet attachment of the pack n play, but I'm noticing she is already getting too long for it, so I guess we need to somehow get her to sleep on the flat part. I might try to elevate it because of her reflux and since the doctor said to have her sleep on an incline.
That was long. When I get on a computer instead of my phone, I just keep typing and typing since it's so much faster-ha!
I hold him for about 20-30 minutes after he's asleep and he's pretty noodley but he gets that "oh crap I'm falling! I'm falling!!" reflex when I put him down. Then eyes open. I don't know. I've just been dealing with little sleep until now but I think I need to take it more seriously and try harder earlier in the night to get off to a good start. Last night he slept well for an hour around 3am and again at 7am-9am. Not enough for mama.
When LO was smaller, I started swaddling him halfway through a feeding (before the feeding didn't work because he always pooped at some point and I would just have to unwrap him). So when he'd come up for a break I'd change and swaddle him in a nice tight burrito, so when I put him down after he finished eating and fell asleep his limbs were held still and he'd barely notice he was being moved. I don't know if you are already doing that, but it helped me get mine down a little faster.
vivela This is my second and it took me 5 weeks to figure out I need to swaddle before feeding. He is now falling asleep eating which makes life so much better! Drowsy but awake my ass... I want him passed out.
Post by sandandsea on Jul 28, 2016 14:39:15 GMT -5
I'm sad to report that I believe some kids are just bad sleepers and always will be no matter what you do. We tried everything with ds1 and he's always been a crappy sleeper. So my best advice is take what you can get when it comes to sleep (a one hour nap on the couch) and alternate nights with SO so at least you each get a good rest every other night. He's 4.5 and still awful. Ds2 on the other hand seems to be super normal and is so much easier so far. I think God knew we couldn't handle another more difficult child!
I'm sad to report that I believe some kids are just bad sleepers and always will be no matter what you do. We tried everything with ds1 and he's always been a crappy sleeper. So my best advice is take what you can get when it comes to sleep (a one hour nap on the couch) and alternate nights with SO so at least you each get a good rest every other night. He's 4.5 and still awful. Ds2 on the other hand seems to be super normal and is so much easier so far. I think God knew we couldn't handle another more difficult child!
This is true. I'm glad your second seems to be a better sleeper so far. Mine too.
My routine at night is to change DD's diaper first, then re-swaddle, then feed. She goes to sleep much better that way than if I change her in the middle or at the end of a feeding. Of course, if she poops I change her, but that doesn't happen all that often.
Post by woodengirl07 on Jul 28, 2016 18:01:25 GMT -5
Something that works for us- I put her swaddle blanket down in her crib ready to go. When I put her down and she is drowsy but awake, the act of me pulling it around her usually comforts her back to sleep.
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