Post by coffeequeen14 on Jul 29, 2016 18:12:58 GMT -5
Pull and pray.
I'll take my chances. I haven't used birth control in eight years and only have two outside and one inside baby. We want a fourth so I'll take my chances.
Condoms. I have predictable cycles so I know when I need one and when I dont. But I am also ok if I get pregnant, otherwise I would use them 100% of time. Tip: bareskin by Trojan are the best.
If we decide we are done, H will get fixed. I've been through enough, I don't want to do anything invasive. And hormones aren't my friend. So vasectomy it is.
Same for us. I was on hormonal birth control in my early 20s and it did NOT agree with me. I tried numerous kinds and finally gave up when I was 22 or so. So I've been strictly using condoms for almost 12 years now and never had a problem. I also have fairly predictable, although long, cycles. Once we make our final decision that we're REALLY done, I think my hubs would be up for a vasectomy.
I had one year to the day of no periods after my daughter was born (literally came back on her birthday lol), so I kind of expect a similar progression with this kid. After that, SO and I will need to have a chat about whether we are stopping with 2 (at least for a while) or if we want a third (which I kind of feel like we might, but it really depends a lot on financials in a couple years...) and after everything is squared away, assuming we are staying with 2 kiddos, I plan on getting the implant.
IUDs scare the crap outta me for various reasons, and I am indifferent to BCPs. I really loved being on the Depo shot a decade ago, so I have no reason to suspect I need to worry about other long-term forms of birth control and their effects on my body.
It's strange, we have never discussed condoms, but I don't think we would use them. Mostly, we don't have a very active sex life, which is ok. I mean, kid2's conception was the last time we did! I miss it occasionally, but we are one of the weird couples that doesn't have sex as a foundational piece of our relationship. Maybe that will change someday, though!
I'm the lone weirdo who still uses a diaphragm. I'll get fitted for a new one after little one is here and use that till we decide if we are one and done or trying for a second.
I'm the lone weirdo who still uses a diaphragm. I'll get fitted for a new one after little one is here and use that till we decide if we are one and done or trying for a second.
Just fyi, my MW told me that, after a vaginal delivery, diaphragms become significantly less effective. This news bunmed me out
I'm the lone weirdo who still uses a diaphragm. I'll get fitted for a new one after little one is here and use that till we decide if we are one and done or trying for a second.
One of my BFFs has used one successfully for years.
Post by hashbrownnofilter on Jul 30, 2016 12:51:57 GMT -5
I had to wean to get pregnant - I nursed DS until he was 18 months. I will probably count on the same this time. We want a third, so if it happens faster, we're fine with that.
My OB was against being on hormonal birth control while nursing. I don't know if that's a typical school of thought or not.
EllieT I've had like 6 friends with PCOS and/or an ovulation and required intervention for first pregnancy, end up with surprise 2nd pregnancies. Obviously I don't know about the people who required intervention for further pregnancies. I feel like people were more open after the fact and more open about their surprises.
Yeah, I sort of don't even like to metion it cause it sounds just like the 'relax and it will happen' or the 'my cousins neighbors tried for 10 years and then adopted and what do you know she got pregnant the next month' shit that is so offensive to IF's but at the same time it seems like PCOS is one if the diagnoses were a pregnancy might actually lead to a slightly easier time conceiving #2. Then again it might not.
But I'm not sure I want to risk it. Especially not if it leads to a gap shorter than 2-ish years.
*lurking to see all the outside babies*
I know of over a dozen babies that came as "freebies* after IVF, all conceived in the last year
5 years TTC 2 c/p's 2 failed IUIs/1 cancelled IVF 1 failed IVF 1 failed FET BFP 12/1/15. We said goodbye to Tiny 1/4/16 Fresh cycle #3 2/16 8R/7M/5F BFP 5/12/16 We said goodbye to flutter on 5/27 and poprock on 5/28 BFP 8/30/16 We said goodbye to Samuel 10/3 (Trisomy 16) Moving on to Donor Embryos BFP 12/20/16 We said goodbye to Turtle 12/30
NariaDreaming, It really depends on the initial reason for IVF. Some conditions may self correct after pregnancy, PCOS or endo. It won't do a thing for MFI or structural issues. Technically as long as there is at least 1 sperm and an egg pregnancy is possible. That's why I say I have .000001% chance of natural conception, not 0%.
Formerly MoFree on the other board. TTC since 2008 Diagnosis of Severe MFI 3-2009 IVF#1 Nov 2011, BFP DD born @31 weeks gestation, 6-24-12 FET#1, Nov 2013,, BFN FET#2, Feb 2014, BFN Freeze only cycle with PGD August 2014 FET #3 another BFN FET canceled due to cysts FET #4 Dec 2015, BFP Baby Boy born 8-28-16 via VBAC
The last time we talked about it, MrRama and I pretty much decided we weren't going to avoid after I give birth. Our current hopes are to have two children (I want at least three, so we'll see how that goes) and if they're stacked end to end, so be it (even if that's not my first choice).
I'm also in the PCOS/annovulatory and "no hormonal BC plz" camps. So, we're aware of our risks, but aren't really concerned about surprises.
The last time we talked about it, MrRama and I pretty much decided we weren't going to avoid after I give birth. Our current hopes are to have two children (I want at least three, so we'll see how that goes) and if they're stacked end to end, so be it (even if that's not my first choice).
I'm also in the PCOS/annovulatory and "no hormonal BC plz" camps. So, we're aware of our risks, but aren't really concerned about surprises.
If we were having a singleton this would absolutely be my attitude... but a surprise right after twins would be pretty tough. I am wary of hormonal BC and don't like condoms so I'm really struggling with this decision (everyone's feedback on here has given me a lot to think about!). Last OB appointment is tomorrow so we'll be talking to her about it then.
Then Comes Family, LLC is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising
program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com.