I feel like I haven't been here in ages...I just got back to work after traveling (for work) and then going on vacation out to AZ. My work trip was awesome but only because I got to meet summergirl1211 , trixi282 , and xanthepants in person!
My vacation was ok. It was nice getting away from work but we spent almost the whole trip with my ILs which sucked and Cece was miserable the whole time. Maybe she figured since I couldn't outright pout about it she would
Henry starts pre-k 4 next Wednesday and I'm having a really hard time with it. Like broke down crying last night. I know he is going to be just fine and do great but I'm having the worst anxiety over him going. I don't know if it because he's growing up, because I'm nervous for him, because I'm worried about how he is going to do, or what...but I'm sure it's a little bit of all of it.
So Cosette was playing on the coffee table last night while we finished up her room. She flipped the top off and its a glass top coffee table which landed smack across her ankle. Could have broken and sliced her leg completely. As it stood - really bad bruise, small cut and man did she cry. I feel like a bad mom. First really bad accident for us in the house but she's been testing us a lot lately. Stupid testing the limits!
Post by junkytrunk on Aug 22, 2016 16:55:54 GMT -5
xanthepants you're not a bad mom! These kids really love to test their limits. Accidents happen! Glad she didn't get seriously hurt!
laurski81 I was super nervous too, but I think Henry will do great. It's going to be so good for him to socialize with other kids and I'm sure he will surprise you. We've had some issues the past few months with Matthews behavior at school, but he is getting better and it's a little to be expected. They are 4.
Post by barefoot84 on Aug 23, 2016 13:16:50 GMT -5
Hey girls, I know I've basically disappeared from here, things have been a bit crazy, but I have a question... H and I did something really stupid and had unprotected sex last night. He pulled out, but a bit late (TMI). He had a vasectomy at the beginning of June, but we're very far from the 25 sexual relations recommended before it being 100% effective. I saw the pharmacist for emergency contraception, but apparently my BMI is too high for option A, and option B would force me to stop nursing Liam for a minimum of 36 hours. My breastpump is in storage because of the water fiasco. Basically, if I stop for 36 hours, I'm pretty much weaning him. He'll be two next week, but I was hoping nursing would get us through our flight and trip to the Netherlands in October.
WWJ12 do? Wean Liam? Or cross your fingers and pray that between the vasectomy, the pulling out and the breastfeeding we're safe?
Update: The pharmacist just called back, and she said she called the Children's Hospital for more information. There is very little research done, so they can't greenlight it, but according to them and the limited research they have, it should be fine if I nurse Liam to sleep tonight, take the pill, and then wait till at least tomorrow afternoon to nurse him again. So H is in charge of Liam tonight and I might just STTN!!! Also, from now on, we're going to be ridiculously careful to always use protection until H gets his sperm count done.
Post by xanthepants on Aug 23, 2016 13:50:20 GMT -5
barefoot84, Where are you in your cycle? Are you having periods yet since you are BF? If I Wasn't really close to my window of ovulating I guess I wouldn't sweat it. If my cycles were non-existent I'd say screw the BMI recommendation and give it to me anyway. WTH - I've never heard that before.
barefoot84 eeek! I'd be freaking out too! The 25 relations counter, does that only count sex, or does masterbating count? The count might be closers than you think?
barefoot84 , Where are you in your cycle? Are you having periods yet since you are BF? If I Wasn't really close to my window of ovulating I guess I wouldn't sweat it. If my cycles were non-existent I'd say screw the BMI recommendation and give it to me anyway. WTH - I've never heard that before.
I'm right in the fertile window. It was incredibly stupid on our part. And I've been having my period for over a year. Apparently Plan B is ineffective after 176 pounds?? And I'M 174 pounds, so my pharmacist is saying no...
barefoot84 eeek! I'd be freaking out too! The 25 relations counter, does that only count sex, or does masterbating count? The count might be closers than you think?
Masturbating certainly counts. We've never had the conversation, and I'm scared if I ask him, he'll ask me... I don't want to answer... I've never, in ten years, seen anything to indicate that he masturbates, but he must, right? He's never seen me and probably thinks I don't, so maybe he does?
Post by xanthepants on Aug 23, 2016 16:25:08 GMT -5
Ugh, Well I'd get another Pharm and make them give it to me personally. So close if you really can't bear the thought of another child. But if you are like so be it, then I guess let the chips fall, but that is probably not your mindset if you were asking. I'm sorry hon I wish I had better advice.
Ugh, Well I'd get another Pharm and make them give it to me personally. So close if you really can't bear the thought of another child. But if you are like so be it, then I guess let the chips fall, but that is probably not your mindset if you were asking. I'm sorry hon I wish I had better advice.
The pharmacist called back, and said she could give me a different emergency contraception, but that I would have to wait at least 15 hours to nurse Liam, which really isn't that big of a deal. I thought about it and I would rather wean Liam than risk an unplanned pregnancy. It was so stupid, I totally miscalculated the dates in my head when we were about to do it and figured it wouldn't be too risky. I feel like a teenager, and I know I should have known better.
I know two is enough for me, and some days I feel like two is too much. For some reasons, it still breaks my heart a bit to take the pill and I know I'll wonder what if for a long time what might have been.
barefoot84, if you are completely against another kid then I would get a hand pump or something and get the plan B and pump in the mean time. H had a vasectomy and he actually had to send in a sample and get the ok before we were cleared. It took him 4 samples until they were cleared. So until that OK from the doctor we either didn't have sex or used condoms. Which for us we just ended up not having sex since it was right after Eliza was born and I was still recovering.
Thanks for asking about us. It's a work in progress still. It is comforting to know that he kind of gets how I was feeling and is trying to make it better. But he still throws things in my face, yet in the same breath asks me to let go of the past. Anyway we are talking more and communication is more.
Post by xanthepants on Aug 24, 2016 10:22:51 GMT -5
barefoot84, IS weaning the only possibility? bottles aren't an option at all? I Would try to just get him to take a bottle this time and go back to breast rather than really weaning. You can do this. Maybe the window already passed. I'm sorry this situation stinks. Hugs girl.
Congrats on finding out your growing a penis summergirl1211
tribute17 Speaking of baby naming how are you and h doing on picking girl names?
We have a few in mind and since none of you will tell my parents I'll share them here. Our choices so far are Emily, Audrey, Victoria, and Nicole. H brought up Victoria but our last name starts with V so I think it is a bit much. Also I hate Vicki as a nickname. My favorite is Emily. I know it is popular but I've always loved it and my grandmothers middle name was Emily. Middle name will most likely be Celia after lots of people in the family. We will see though.
I love my inlaws but they fail at bedtime. I went out tonight with a friend for dinner and got to their house about 9:00. What are both boys doing? Watching paw patrol wide awake. They were exhausted today so I know they could have gone to bed early. One of the benefits of being gone during bedtime is that I get a break from it for a night. Not tonight. I had to lay with Patrick because it's storming so I trust MIl to put Will to sleep. 30 minutes later I go in to transfer him and he is wide awake playing in the bed. WTF? Turn the TV off and lights off and freaking rock him to sleep. But then of course he sees me so I have to take him. Seriously people. It's not hard especially with two tired boys.
Post by mommymadness on Aug 24, 2016 23:25:50 GMT -5
tribute17 That sounds pretty sucky! I like Emily and think it sounds nice withCelia! Audrey is getting popular again but the only thing I can ever think of is my great aunt. She is Audrey and one day she heard that someone named their baby Audrey and she was all shocked! She was like, "Audrey!? Who names a baby Audrey!?" Lol My two bff's growing up were Nicole. I think it might be a refreshing name to bring back to a new generation. Ahh I love baby names!! Hah
tribute17 - I love your name choices I'm sorry your IL's were incapable of helping out bedtime. The last thing you need is to come home to exhausted kids. I hope they at least sleep in later for you today.
They are good inlaws just have a different idea about schedules than I do. Like no schedule at all. And I had just driven home in a hail storm and crazy lightening so I was already a little on edge. And of course they didn't sleep any later so it's going to be a grumpy day for us. I'm thinking about leavjng them and going shopping or getting my hair done. But I feel bad because Patrick has been extra clingy lately and very worried that I'm going to leave him.
Have any of your kids been like that lately? Is it a phase or something else going on? Every time I drop him at school he asks if I'm coming back. He also used to be fine with me leaving for a movie or something but is now very upset by it. I'm hoping he gets over it quickly.
tribute17, It could just be a phase and him learning or becoming more aware of the fact that you're leaving. His mind might wander to other things or maybe he's been exposed to something that is making him consider it.
I know whenever I leave the house and the kids are left with H they beg me not to go. But this is more because my H doesn't interact with them as much as I do and they just want that attention. They are perfectly fine when I'm gone. Every once in awhile they will put up a stink at DC, but it's usually ok if I give hugs and kisses. Also, Hanna still brings her lovey to DC so that helps a little too.
I'm seeing all these things on FB regarding the Epipen. Ours is still at C$120 in pharmacy, which might be an option for those close to the borders. For the others, there's this: www.canadadrugs.com/products/epipen/0-3mg
I've searched briefly online, and it looks like they ship to the US. It's more expensive than in pharmacy (C$200), but it's still a lot better than what they're charging in the US if you don't have the right insurance.
We need at least two a year, one for home and one from daycare, and I just can't imagine paying hundreds of dollars on them.
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