Post by dorkusmalorkus on Aug 5, 2016 17:19:27 GMT -5
I need to vent: so my mom doesn't like MIL. We live in the same metro area as all of my in-laws, so they see us/our kids way more often than my mom, who lives 6 hours away and doesn't like to drive. My mom hates them for this, and when she came to the hospital for my other two, she'd get upset at them, and leave after spending maybe 15 minutes with us. So she brought up coming down when DH goes back to work & staying to help out for a week instead, and I didn't disagree, given her history. Well today she messages my brother and says that my invitation was "uninviting", that she guesses "all the important people" already came to the hospital, and that she's "losing her excitement" about meeting her newest grand-baby; "maybe she'll come down and maybe she won't." My FIL is also refusing to meet the baby because DH mentioned to him at some point that it was a little awkward for him to bring his at-the-time girlfriend's adult daughter, whom I'd never met, to the hospital when our first was born (which it was, but I wasnt going to mention it.) So now he's claiming that I'm not allowing him to meet her. WTF is wrong with people?!?
I need to vent: so my mom doesn't like MIL. We live in the same metro area as all of my in-laws, so they see us/our kids way more often than my mom, who lives 6 hours away and doesn't like to drive. My mom hates them for this, and when she came to the hospital for my other two, she'd get upset at them, and leave after spending maybe 15 minutes with us. So she brought up coming down when DH goes back to work & staying to help out for a week instead, and I didn't disagree, given her history. Well today she messages my brother and says that my invitation was "uninviting", that she guesses "all the important people" already came to the hospital, and that she's "losing her excitement" about meeting her newest grand-baby; "maybe she'll come down and maybe she won't." My FIL is also refusing to meet the baby because DH mentioned to him at some point that it was a little awkward for him to bring his at-the-time girlfriend's adult daughter, whom I'd never met, to the hospital when our first was born (which it was, but I wasnt going to mention it.) So now he's claiming that I'm not allowing him to meet her. WTF is wrong with people?!?
omg dorkus NO. I will never, EVER understand why family members have to make insane drama around an event that is already fraught with so much emotion and vulnerability for the people about to have the baby.
Post by dorkusmalorkus on Aug 5, 2016 18:38:51 GMT -5
frodabaggins Yeah--my mom was the same at our wedding: I wasn't thinking enough about how *she* was feeling, my in-laws were overly involved (i.e. They helped me), then as she was leaving, she criticized the quality of my hug. Wha?!?!
I need to vent: so my mom doesn't like MIL. We live in the same metro area as all of my in-laws, so they see us/our kids way more often than my mom, who lives 6 hours away and doesn't like to drive. My mom hates them for this, and when she came to the hospital for my other two, she'd get upset at them, and leave after spending maybe 15 minutes with us. So she brought up coming down when DH goes back to work & staying to help out for a week instead, and I didn't disagree, given her history. Well today she messages my brother and says that my invitation was "uninviting", that she guesses "all the important people" already came to the hospital, and that she's "losing her excitement" about meeting her newest grand-baby; "maybe she'll come down and maybe she won't." My FIL is also refusing to meet the baby because DH mentioned to him at some point that it was a little awkward for him to bring his at-the-time girlfriend's adult daughter, whom I'd never met, to the hospital when our first was born (which it was, but I wasnt going to mention it.) So now he's claiming that I'm not allowing him to meet her. WTF is wrong with people?!?
omg dorkus NO. I will never, EVER understand why family members have to make insane drama around an event that is already fraught with so much emotion and vulnerability for the people about to have the baby.
Seriously. I get that the birth of grandchildren brings out some complicated emotions but relatives need to recognize that this is not actually about them.
Thanks for making our parent/in law drama look mild by comparison though. ;-)
Late to randoms as is my new normal...but...I love how it's turning from midnight munchies to midnight nursing sessions. Maybe I'll join at 3am tonight Now I'll go back and read past first page
@suesposa, it's so funny when you can understand people's conversations in other languages and they are none the wiser. I'm glad you are staying cool at the mall. Are you now waiting until Monday for induction? Hope they don't cancel again!
@suesposa, I still can't believe you've been so dilated, effaced, etc etc for so long! Hope that Monday is the end of it all for you and since you're so far along physically, the induction doesn't take long.
I'm just tired. MIL took DD out this morning and they came back too close to naptime so DD fell asleep in the car...and then refused to nap at home, of course. It seems like all systems are go for tomorrow. I imagine even if we got there earlier than our 8 PM appt due to things getting started earlier, they would let me stay. I physically feel ready to not be pregnant...does that count as being ready?
Post by gratefulgirl on Aug 5, 2016 21:26:23 GMT -5
Managed a neighborhood walk with the girls tonight. It is killing DH to not be well enough for this stuff. I wish I could make him better.
Ran into a neighbor on our walk who offered free babysitting by her high school senior after DD3 arrives. Why yes, yes I just might take you up on that.
Post by coffeequeen14 on Aug 5, 2016 22:43:55 GMT -5
Holy cow. I am caught up on work. Finally. As in i have nothing on my to do list for action items. I haven't not been behind since December. I feel 100000 lbs lighter. This feels amazing.
Hugs kaitkat - I'm so sorry you got bumped again. Hope you get to see the twins soon.
@suesposa - That's hilarious! I love it some folks have absolutely no idea you can understand them!
Had my 39w appt earlier this afternoon (3ish). Dr only did NST and didn't do a cervical check. I think she could tell by my face that I'm getting frustrated & impatient and wish I were holding LO already. NST went well and next Friday at 40w, we are doing a BPP to see where & how things are. If my body is still "stalling," she said we are going to talk induction dates. She doesn't want me to go past 41w and ideally she's hoping I can labor on my own NLT 40+4 (8/16). She guesstimated today as well that baby is around 7.5lbs to upper 7lbs. She's thinking by the 40w mark, baby may be around 8lbs. LO, please come meet your parents already!
She also mentioned sex and EPO wouldn't hurt either We had sex last week for the first time since our BFP (b/c I was just TOO sensitive down there) and it was glorious!
DD has been up every single hour since I put her to bed. And she's so sick and miserable that each time, getting her back to sleep involves a lot of thrashing, screaming, crying and even some hitting. And meanwhile I'm getting more and more sick. I'm up at 2 am now drinking a hot tea to try to soothe my throat and my pregnancy brain decided it wanted smoked oysters as a snack. Lol. Interesting combo. If she wakes up again here at the one hour mark I'm going to try putting her in our bed, that seemed to help last night at least. Screw viruses. Screw them so hard.
shehulk723, I am so sorry, it sounds like you just can't catch a break! My DD was being sniffly while going to sleep tonight... I am crossing my fingers it doesn't go any further than that! Sickness sucks, let alone when we are so very pregnant and having to deal with little ones too.
shehulk723, I am so sorry, it sounds like you just can't catch a break! My DD was being sniffly while going to sleep tonight... I am crossing my fingers it doesn't go any further than that! Sickness sucks, let alone when we are so very pregnant and having to deal with little ones too.
Oh no, I hope it doesn't turn into anything! Dealing with sick kids is never fun, but especially not now lol
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