Post by tuscanlatte on Aug 9, 2016 15:01:49 GMT -5
I'm feeling very fight or flight the past couple weeks. There's way too much on my plate and I'm exhausted. I tried to cram in grocery shopping during lunch and that was crazy. I wish stuff would slow down.
Thanks ladies! You all made me feel a lot better. I don't know why I let it bug me so much. They made me feel like he's behind or something. I guess most of the kids they have move on right at 1. I haven't seen any kids stay past 1 in the 10 months Jake has been there.
Tardy to the party but DS was 13 months when he started walking. No stress mama!
Crap. DS is starting preschool in September and they're having a meet up for the kids at the school playground on Thursday. I wrote in my calendar for Wednesday, so I didn't switch my work from home days to accommodate. If my MIL doesn't want to take them both while she's babysitting (which I would understand) then I screwed my kid out of seeing his new school before first day drop off. Grr.
Post by tmclawchick on Aug 9, 2016 16:04:04 GMT -5
DS and I are having a Back to the Future marathon today, we just started part 3. Why does part 2 suck so much?!
On a bit of a serious note, I went home a few weeks ago to discover that my dad, who has been sober for almost 8 years has relapsed. I'm not handling it well and I think I'm going to start attending al anon meetings. Definitely nervous, and pretty sure I'll probably just cry the whole time but, shocker, suppressing everything for 20+ years isn't really working. So that's happening. Sorry to get heavy but I feel like I need to put it out there as a way to sort of remind myself that this is in fact happening and I need to deal with it.
Happier note, we got cleared to close on our first house next week! I've been calling moving companies to get estimates today. I'm so excited
@betweenthelines, you didn't miss it I just didn't respond d. No, he doesn't do therapy. He leaves town on Friday for 9 days. While he's gone I'm gonna figure out what i want to say. When he comes home we are having a talk. And if things don't improve after that I will be making changes in my life and my kids lives.
Post by tuscanlatte on Aug 9, 2016 17:06:38 GMT -5
tmclawchick I hope al anon helps. I would cry a lot too. They may have reassurance or resources you haven't thought of so I think it's definitely worth a try. Hugs, that's such a tough thing to deal with.
tmclawchick I was so torn, I wanted to like your post but just couldn't. I'm so sorry about your Dad. That for sure is tough. Is there anything big going on with him right now that may have contributed to his relapse? Al anon and/or a therapist could be good for you to help process and talk about everything.
Congratulation for closing soon! Buying a house is a big deal and should be celebrated!
tmclawchick, I'm sorry to hear about your dad's relapse. Another resource could be online meetings through Smart Recovery for family if you end up finding the in person meetings too much. Hugs to you.
Post by tmclawchick on Aug 9, 2016 17:45:41 GMT -5
tuscanlatte, thanks, I think it's definitely worth a shot right? Here's hoping I can get some clarity and peace. That would be lovely...
RandomName haha after I posted I re-read it and thought "jeez this is a clusterfuck of emotions." Not sure if anything contributed to it... the only reason why he stopped was because he had lymphoma and had to focus on treatments. I'm wondering if now, since he's in the clear (and possibly bored?) he thinks it's ok to start again.
shellyr, appreciate that recommendation. It might be worth looking into in the beginning. I feel so... fragile with it. Like I'm going to just walk in the door and sob the entire time. Ugh...
Post by skinandbones on Aug 9, 2016 19:23:23 GMT -5
@janetheconquerer, maybe you could meet with a therapist while he's gone to help work out what you want to say. Though you seem like you've got your head on straight. Feel free tonFB message me if you need to let off some steam.
Post by tuscanlatte on Aug 9, 2016 20:26:46 GMT -5
+1 to awkward networker. "Oh hey yeah I do stuff too...." Weird trail off... Then panic. Then mention of weird off topic item. More panic.
skinandbones still feeling crap but I made a delicious appetizer spread from pioneer woman's game day Super Bowl spread. Ha. It's football time right?! Or no?
+1 to awkward networker. "Oh hey yeah I do stuff too...." Weird trail off... Then panic. Then mention of weird off topic item. More panic.
skinandbones still feeling crap but I made a delicious appetizer spread from pioneer woman's game day Super Bowl spread. Ha. It's football time right?! Or no?
+1 to awkward networker. "Oh hey yeah I do stuff too...." Weird trail off... Then panic. Then mention of weird off topic item. More panic.
skinandbones still feeling crap but I made a delicious appetizer spread from pioneer woman's game day Super Bowl spread. Ha. It's football time right?! Or no?
So we are here at my BFF'S house, and it's so great! She is a 10 minute walk to a gorgeous great lake (hopefully we will go tomorrow) and M was so excited and happy to check out his surroundings! I've started painting her kitchen/dining room (ceilings, I f'ing hate painting ceilings, but her back is so messed up, I got it done). Anyways we were just sitting chatting and it was the first time I think I've been the 'minority ' in a situation of people close to me who are racist..but you know 'closet racist'. I'm so f'ing mad/annoyed/irritated. Ugh. If you say something like 'I'm so not a racist but they come in bus loads every weekend and dig holes to shit in the sand and leave a huge mess', then wake up call, you're a racist. So I can't bite my tongue and say 'without knowing what culture your assuming is 'coming in bus full', your story could be easily describing teenagers' andplusalso 'I've seen your child pee anywhere he pleases in public'. Then my mom jumps in and is all like 'I'm still pissed off I can't say Merry Christmas anymore', whut??? Who said you can't say that, because it sure as hell is not people who have immigrated to Canada, that would be the overly concerned Canadians who do that. Ugh, I'm so so annoyed! Can you tell??
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
Well redandblue I was going to say I'm glad you're having a good visit. But then I finished reading. I wouldn't bite my tongue. Call that bs out.
And people do tend to avoid the phrase merry Christmas here too, they revert to happy holidays. I personally think it's crap and still say merry Christmas.
Post by tmclawchick on Aug 10, 2016 5:16:39 GMT -5
Went to bed before 10 and was wide awake at 4. My whole day is going to be thrown off now gahhhhh.... Heading out to get moving supplies this morning, then DS is having a friend over this afternoon to swim. Should be a fun day!
redandblue I'm glad you're having fun but a giant NOPE to that conversation...blech...
redandblue you just described every meal I've ever had with my in laws. They think I'm a hippie because I don't agree with them about the "bus loads" or "boat loads" of people "ruining" this country. They also go on a rant every year about merry Christmas. FFS no one said you couldn't say merry Christmas anymore! If businesses are choosing to say happy holidays to be more inclusive what the fuck difference does it make to you? Christmas is included in the holidays! They're not anti Christmas!! Ugh, sorry, you can tell I've had to deal with this a lot. /end rant
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