Work has been so incredibly busy lately that I haven't had much time to read or post around here, but I'm going to catch up soon!
Today was DS's first day at his new preschool. It went so well. I feel really happy with the decision to move DS from his old place. The cutest thing was how excited DH was about this change. He hadn't visited the new school yet (I did the tour and orientation on my own), but did both drop off and pick up today. He couldn't stop talking about how nice it was and that DS is going to learn so much. It made my heart happy!
@txmommy- im sorry you are having such a difficult time and also for the loss of your grandpa.
I wish I could find a mommy group around me. A couple was walking with a young baby the other day past my house. I was basically stalking them trying to be near my car when they walked by, but it didn't work out. Wow, I'm a creeper.
txmommy14, I'm so sorry for your loss. And I'm sorry you're having such a rough time with DD. I know the feeling of being completely overwhelmed and not enjoying being around them. It sucks. I hope that your family trip provides some extra help and maybe a chance for you to decompress a little while family helps out with DD.
Kevinmac, I totally feel you on the creeper thing! I'm so awkward and bad at introducing myself to people I think I'd have things in common with. I feel ya!
Kevinmac & pbandj714 creep on! I'm sure they'd like to meet you & go for a walk together or whatever. I find babies are such good ice breakers/wing men. I'm more willing to put myself out there, I guess because he might get to make a friend not just me!
ETA I still think I'm the quietest most awkward mom in the mommy group I went to today, but much more willing because of all the babies
Kevinmac & pbandj714 creep on! I'm sure they'd like to meet you & go for a walk together or whatever. I find babies are such good ice breakers/wing men. I'm more willing to put myself out there, I guess because he might get to make a friend not just me!
ETA I still think I'm the quietest most awkward mom in the mommy group I went to today, but much more willing because of all the babies
txmommy14 - girl hang in there. I'm sorry things are so rough but it will pass. Just keep reminding yourself. I really hope you go see your family because I think it will help your sanity. If nothing else it will be great for the toddler sbd you can drop some of that guilt. You shouldn't feel guilty but I know we all do in that situation so at least family can entertain and let you focus. Or give them the screaming one and you take the toddler for some laughs and giggles to cheer you up.
I found a neighborhood mommy group and like it. The girls are great and the Babies are a great ice breaker. I feel like the creep becuse we meet 1 day a week and I'm all like I could easily meet 3 days a week but no one seems interested. I just hate being alone snd inside my house.
Post by greysonsmom on Aug 9, 2016 21:23:46 GMT -5
txmommy14 I'm sorry for your loss and all the stress your under. If DS watches extra tv or plays on the iPad more than you like during this time it's ok. It's just a short season in life and he won't remember. Hang in there. As for dairy free snacks so delicious makes a coconut milk yogurt that is really good! Their coffee creamer is great too. Peanut butter with apples are great and a good source of protein. I like to make peanut butter banana smoothies with almond milk.
txmommy14 I'm sorry things are so tough right now. I agree with everyone, being with family might help you.
I'm in a local moms group but all the moms are stay at home moms. Since I work from home they allowed me to join. I used to do something once a week with them but now I'm more once a month. I've only connected with a couple of the ladies and one of them just moved Ds likes the regular play dates though.
This week has been rough. I decided I may take the rest of the week off work. I'm finding myself getting impatient with ds2 and trying to rush getting him to sleep so I can get what? Maybe 15 minutes more of work done? It's not worth it. I held him tonight and rocked him in the chair for 45 minutes instead of working. I think I made the right choice.
I'm so sorry for all your struggles txmommy14, that sounds totally overwhelming. I'm sorry for the loss of your grandfather. Can your RI family help you out at all with the toddler while you are with DD?
Thank you guys so much for all your kind words and encouragement. I feel overwhelmed by how genuinely supportive and thoughtful you all are. It means a lot to me.
I do love my family in RI and think they will be helpful, even though we'll mostly be focuses on preparing for my grandfather's funeral. I was in a bad place earlier and feeling so crazy by the constant screaming, all there is to do, being overwhelmed by our vacation, and my dental visit. We got a second opinion today (my husband's friend's wife is a dentist), and it turns out they aren't ripping me off but it really is as bad as it seems! I think I tend to feel guilty and overwhelmed that I am staying home with the kids this year and then huge expenses like $2500 in dental work comes up suddenly and I feel terrible how much it costs. Thankfully, my husband is not in the least bit stressed out about it and is so supportive, he has a, "well that's just life, don't feel bad" attitude about it.
I got a new probiotic for DD today, made it the entire day without eating any dairy, went to Target (by myself while DH held the screaming baby) to get some dairy free snacks today and feel a bit better. I should probably go to bed because it's midnight, but we just got DD down 45 minutes ago and I'd almost rather get less sleep and have some time to myself for the first time today, which seems silly.
frecklesnbrains Glad I am not the only one with the dental work. I was SHOCKED! I didn't have any cavities when I went last year, but honestly I think my dentist was missing a ton of stuff and they showed me where they did a bunch of stuff improperly, so who knows what was going on for those 7 years! It's almost embarrassing to have so much that needs done from just the past year. When they were making a list of all of my cavities, it took them SO long to even make the list of all of the problem areas.
Hugs mladerri I think you did make the right choice. I hope you're able to find a balance that you're happy with. Taking the rest of the week off sounds smart.
Well, tonight sucked. Everyone has been in town for my sister's wedding, including my brother. Having lots of people in the house has mitigated the usual tension between my brother and mom, but now everyone is gone and he was still supposed to be there for another week. My parents go back and forth between the city where my dad works and their summer/eventual retirement home. My dad headed back to the city so it was just my mother and brother there, which is a recipe for disaster. My brother is an alcoholic (recovering at the moment, but that is always tenuous, my dad found pot hidden in the house yesterday which isn't a good sign). He is also, to put it bluntly, a jerk. There is probably a diagnosis out there, but basically he is extremely quick to anger and hyper-defensive, everything is someone else's fault, and he can't empathize with others at all. Combine that with my mom who has no patience for him anymore and little willingness to go along just to keep the peace (not that she should have to), and it is really combustible. I went over tonight, in part because I knew they might not be getting along very well with just the two of them. While I was feeding the baby in the next room, the shit hit the fan. My mom made a totally innocuous comment, and my brother took it as an insult and totally blew up at her and said some nasty things. My mom eventually (calmly) suggested that maybe him staying there was not a good idea and left it at that. She and I ate dinner together and it became clear he was packing. Then he left without telling us where he was going. I'm worried about where he might be, but there isn't much we can do about that. It sucks because it always ends this way, and it makes me sad that the rest of us are really close and my brother can see that, but can't manage to really be a part of it. Not really what I was hoping for out of my evening. Hopefully he's ok, I'm glad my mom takes these things in stride by now.
I should probably go to bed because it's midnight, but we just got DD down 45 minutes ago and I'd almost rather get less sleep and have some time to myself for the first time today, which seems silly.
I don't think this is silly at all. I feel that way a lot. I'm currently up right now even though DS is asleep because it was a rough day and I just want to enjoy some time with DH (he works nights and just got home) and decompress. I will regret not getting more sleep, but it feels worth it right now to get some real adult time without tending to someone else.
vivela I'm sorry about your brother and I hope he's okay and making good decisions wherever he went. Probably best he isn't staying at your house and causing extra stress for you.
I stay up too late every night to get alone time. I feel guilty because it's typically not productive awake time.
vivela, I'm sorry about that roller-coaster of an evening. I hope your brother is eventually able to see how he negatively contributes to the situation and get some help.
@txmommy big hugs, I'm so sorry for the loss of your grandfather and this trip that is causing stress. I really hope the reflux medication and no dairy show signs of helping her really soon. I relate so much on the toddler level - I've been struggling with that too. I don't know how people have multiple children most days.
I also need a ridiculous amount of dental work. And have had incorrect/failed work, including two failed root canals. Though one dentist pointed out to me that pregnancy might have a huge role in my dental health decline. Sort of makes me feel better....until I see the bill.
Biggest of hugs, mama. Feel free to vent whenever you need to. You have a lot on your plate
vivela I'm sorry. Family can be a godsend......or the biggest causes of stress ever (often both).
I hope he's safe and left knowing it was healthier for everyone. Does he keep in touch with anyone outside of family events? I hope you can focus and hope he continues his recovery and took his departure as a positive to continue recovering vs negative to avoid triggers.
I'm glad your mom is able to recognize unhealthy situations as well, as hard as it is.
Post by frecklesnbrains on Aug 10, 2016 5:47:25 GMT -5
vivela I'm sorry for your stressful evening. Family can really suck sometimes. I hope things calm down.
cattuccino @txmommy pregnancy can definitely be really bad for your teeth. I have very cavity-prone teeth and my current dentist (who I love because she finally fixed things after years of substandard care and also helps with my overwhelming panic attacks around anything involving my teeth) had me come in for an extra cleaning during pregnancy. Also, she prescribed high fluoride toothpaste which I think is amazing - I've not had a single new cavity since I started using it. That may be something to ask about.
vivela- yikes, that sounds like such a mess! I'm sorry you have to deal with such family trouble. Addicts can cause so much turmoil in a family and don't ever see it for themselves.
mladerri I'm sorry the week has been so tough. It must be so hard without YH for that long. I definitely think you made the right choice.
vivela I'm so sorry. That is such a stressful situation for you. Family can be so difficult. I hope he is ok, but I agree that it is probably best he removed himself from that situation. Hugs!
I should probably go to bed because it's midnight, but we just got DD down 45 minutes ago and I'd almost rather get less sleep and have some time to myself for the first time today, which seems silly.
I don't think this is silly at all. I feel that way a lot. I'm currently up right now even though DS is asleep because it was a rough day and I just want to enjoy some time with DH (he works nights and just got home) and decompress. I will regret not getting more sleep, but it feels worth it right now to get some real adult time without tending to someone else.
Ditto. I stayed up until 11:30 last night watching gymnastics and drinking wine instead of going to bed at 10 when DD was put down for the night. DH kept saying "let's go to bed" but I told him to go without me. I just needed an hour of time to decompress and relax. Sometimes I need that more than sleep.
vivela I have similar dynamics in my family and it's extremely stressful and heartbreaking. It seems that family gatherings, vacations and special occasions always result in some sort of blow up with certain family members (primarily my sister). I can 100% relate.
Post by packerfan4life on Aug 10, 2016 10:45:44 GMT -5
Needing a day to reset so DD1 is at daycare and I'm doing nothing but snuggling the baby and eating until I pick her up. I'm dreading going back up to full time at work, I love these mid-week days off
Post by woodengirl07 on Aug 10, 2016 20:20:39 GMT -5
txmommy14 what did you ask the dr about getting the meds covered by the insurance? Our insurance won't cover them either. We paid oop for the first week ($45) since the pharmacy was trying to get it approved but they were unsuccessful. She has her follow up and we were going to ask for a different med that would be covered, but maybe we can fight?
Then Comes Family, LLC is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising
program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com.