I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I guess I don't understand this and it confuses me. I mean she obviously did act on her feeling while married?
Just me?
I don't think that was clear when that was posted.
If you are saying you are in love or have feelings then obviously you crossed a line somewhere. You acted on your feelings. Are we really splitting hairs here?
C'mon we don't need a time line.
You don't get from 0 to a 100 without passing 1 through 99.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
Yes. Basically this. I don't think it's limited to here. I think in my real life, I would probably even respond to different friends in different ways. Based on histories and how long I've known them and how close we are etc.
I would be nicer to a stranger talking about this (kinda hair pat them and then excuse yourself out of the room) but tend to be more open and honest and even gruff with a friend --tell it like it is or wack them upside the head. That's why you should consider that it's not just a reg be non reg thing. I think there is a bit of um caution that if they are well liked you may get jumped on by their friends if you speak harshly.
I think it depends on the person. I'm guessing McBenny would be a "call out your shit" type of friend. I'm not that kind of person. I don't care if anyone else flames Pobre for what she did. That's their prerogative. But, I have never been a tough love person. I do honest truth, but not flaming. And that's fine. We're all different.
Last Edit: Aug 12, 2016 10:58:13 GMT -5 by McBenny
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
Then I will unsink. I'm not sure who you think I'm showing favoritism for though because honestly if this had occurred in its own thread I'm almost positive it would have been requested that I (or a mod) would have deleted it by now and we would have because TCF policy is that we will delete a thread for a poster if it is about a personal matter in their life. Then no one would be processing or even having a chance to respond, but that has been our policy for all members regs, non-regs, etc and we've always handled it quickly.
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"we will delete a thread for a poster if it is about a personal matter in their life" I think honestly this is something that can be problematic for managing a message board. On many boards you can't get a whole thread deleted because you screwed up and posted stuff you shouldn't have and along with your stuff all the support or flames get deleted too.
If Mods/admins only redact the personally identifying information out of a post then the board isn't left hanging and rumors flying and shit spirals out of control and more peeps upset and gbtfc.
When whole supportive threads with good useful advise just go poof it makes people step back and wonder also why they bothered to get so invested in helping someone just for everything to disappear. Often it also appears to get poofed because the op doesn't like how the thread went down. So it means you don't have to stand behind your words and can more easily back pedal that ole bike out of trouble.
I know my opinion doesn't mesh with the culture of this board as it currently stands. Ive just seen lots of boards end up at that kind of hands off/minimal deletion stance after a rash of deletions and fights about it.
I find this such an odd rationale. If your intent was to help, support or even flame a person by posting, then that was accomplished when they read your post.
I understand other arguments on both sides of the deleting/non-deleting issue but this one is just weird to me.
Yo momma is so fat, I took a picture of her last Christmas and it's still printing.
Have you seem the Slim Jim commercial where a guy's car breaks down and he's picked up by an Amish buggy? And he asks the Amish guy what it's like to live without the Internet and the Amish guy says, "It's OK. I just get pictures of your mother through the mail."
I meant physically. Fucking someone else, specifically.
She didn't say she didn't. Or did I miss that?
It was left to the imagination. So there's a lot of speculation. However admitting in love with someone else and having an emotional affair can be just as damaging and hurtful as a one time fuck - or it can be worse even cause the thoughts are there more/longer/stronger than a one time action of physical betrayal.
I would be nicer to a stranger talking about this (kinda hair pat them and then excuse yourself out of the room) but tend to be more open and honest and even gruff with a friend --tell it like it is or wack them upside the head. That's why you should consider that it's not just a reg be non reg thing. I think there is a bit of um caution that if they are well liked you may get jumped on by their friends if you speak harshly.
I think it depends on the person. I'm guessing McBenny would be a "call out your shit" type of friend. I'm not that kind of person. I don't care if anyone else flames Pobre for what she did. That's their prerogative. But, I have never been a tough love person. I do honest truth, but not flaming. And that's fine. We're all different.
Let me also clarify something that has gotten lost here over the years. I am not saying it is anyone's fault. The board is just words. In real life, I do tell my friends how it is. I will call you on your shit. However, I am the one they call when life is kicking them up their ass. I am the one they call when in tears. I am the one they call when they don't know what to do. I don't kick a bitch when she is down.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I find this such an odd rationale. If your intent was to help, support or even flame a person by posting, then that was accomplished when they read your post.
I understand other arguments on both sides of the deleting/non-deleting issue but this one is just weird to me.
Exactly. The time I had a thread deleted it was because the problem was huge and I needed support but I couldn't leave it on the Internet. I read every single message and got the support I needed. The people responded to me, not to the Internet. If I had another, more private, way to get that support, I certainly would not have broadcast it here.
Right, and I'm not responding to people going through shit to build up my internet portfolio.
I think it depends on the person. I'm guessing McBenny would be a "call out your shit" type of friend. I'm not that kind of person. I don't care if anyone else flames Pobre for what she did. That's their prerogative. But, I have never been a tough love person. I do honest truth, but not flaming. And that's fine. We're all different.
Let me also clarify something that has gotten lost here over the years. I am not saying it is anyone's fault. The board is just words. In real life, I do tell my friends how it is. I will call you on your shit. However, I am the one they call when life is kicking them up their ass. I am the one they call when in tears. I am the one they call when they don't know what to do. I don't kick a bitch when she is down.
Tough love is not equivalent to flaming.
Yes, I agree. I probably shouldn't have stated it that way. I was more trying to say that there is more than one type of friend and one isn't better than the other.
I find this such an odd rationale. If your intent was to help, support or even flame a person by posting, then that was accomplished when they read your post.
I understand other arguments on both sides of the deleting/non-deleting issue but this one is just weird to me.
Exactly. The time I had a thread deleted it was because the problem was huge and I needed support but I couldn't leave it on the Internet. I read every single message and got the support I needed. The people responded to me, not to the Internet. If I had another, more private, way to get that support, I certainly would not have broadcast it here.
Cause on a public message board like this for every one person who made the post and got the info/support they needed there are dozens of lurkers who identify with the issue and are too s aged to post and they get the support they need too.
Also in some of these cases the op just runs around and asks the same stuff in a different way cause they didn't get it all the first time. Post advice delete and then rinse repeat kinda thing. They may take it to their bmb, private board, parenting around and round. Just leave the good advise out there so we don't have to repeat ourselves over and over again. Maybe this is only about a couple of cereal poster deleters but it's what comes to mind
Oh. So I guess I cheated by falling in love with someone else. Hmmm. Learn something new every day.
I never said this equaled cheating. My comment was to Shakey's post about "before you acted on your feelings."
She did act on her feelings. She said she is in love. So how did that happen? I am brainstorming here.
How do we get to know people? We talk, we spend time together...so if this happened then for me this means you acted on your feelings. Not necessarily cheated.
Anyway, I am just speaking for myself and that is assuming this post ^^ is about mine. If I am wrong about that, sorry.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I admit I did to when she said a conversation was had and he wasn't leaving his wife. So yeah, maybe I am jumping to conclusion but I don't see you all saying all of that just on feelings.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
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I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
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