Post by mustloveerica on Aug 11, 2016 7:48:09 GMT -5
I gave up regular coffee months ago in prep for IF treatments. So I'm used to decaf now. The withdrawal headaches about killed me at first. Now my biggest problem is the digestive issues that decaf gives me 😆
I will be the first pregnant person my work has ever had. So I have no idea. #maledominatedfield
I will also be the first pregnant person in my office - I have no idea what to expect.
Are there one or two coworkers that you trust and can talk to that could go on these site visits in your place?
I'm super nervous to tell my CW's that I am KU. I think I am going to talk to a few other new moms in the company to get their advice on what I should do and when I should tell.
I gave up regular coffee months ago in prep for IF treatments. So I'm used to decaf now. The withdrawal headaches about killed me at first. Now my biggest problem is the digestive issues that decaf gives me 😆
I switched over about 10 years ago when I refused to be a slave to caffeine. I get super upset when they pour me regular now because my heart starts to beat out of my chest.
I will also be the first pregnant person in my office - I have no idea what to expect.
Are there one or two coworkers that you trust and can talk to that could go on these site visits in your place?
I'm super nervous to tell my CW's that I am KU. I think I am going to talk to a few other new moms in the company to get their advice on what I should do and when I should tell.
I hope the new moms can offer helpful advice for you.
I work in a small office and there is no precedent for any pregnancies. The fate of the company is in a bit of flux too so I'm not really sure what my game plan is. One of the partners is planning on announcing his exit strategy in September so I may have to tell everyone then. I will probably tell my office manager (only other woman in the office and we are pretty friendly) a little earlier.
I'm also nervous to tell work. I think people will be happy for me, but I kinda expect some side eye behind my back since I just started last November and miss work every so often when my kid gets sick. I have issues balancing work and family, so the anticipated side eye could be all in my head. Ideally, I would have timed the baby to come after my 2-year probation was up, but I'm 37 and feel the clock ticking.
Post by financialdiva on Aug 11, 2016 9:44:59 GMT -5
I too am nervous to tell work. This will be maternity leave number 3 for me (unpaid mind you, but still). Plus, I was in very tentative talks for a promotion and wonder if they think they are off the hook for giving it to me this year, which they aren't. I have a right mind to never bring up my pregnancy until I am about to give birth.
Add me to the "nervous to tell work" group. I just started last September, and everyone here already side eyes my family planning decisions since I had a kid while in law school. Admittedly, that was a little crazy on my part, but I've made it work. Of the five other female lawyers in the firm (there are about 50 total), only two of them have children, which makes navigating these sorts of things all the more difficult.
Post by ThankfulSnail on Aug 11, 2016 15:28:36 GMT -5
I started at my job in February so my leave will be after about 14 months of working here. I'm sure there will be some side-eying but I just could not care less. But I'm not in a job I'd call super fulfilling and important to me, just a job to pay the bills.
When is everyone telling their immediate families? Most of our families live far away. ILs are in town this Friday but it seems way early to tell anyone now and we won't see them for a while so we'll have to tell them on the phone. H and I discussed telling them around 6 weeks maybe, but now I'm feeling a bit conflicted, because it would be nice to tell them in person. Just curious what others were doing.
Post by ThankfulSnail on Aug 11, 2016 15:54:50 GMT -5
PirateCat, I will be telling immediate family- parents, siblings, etc- the first time we see them, which will be soon. It's a very long story, but I thought that I lost DD when I was pregnant with her and did tell immediate family about the loss, so I know who I would be comfortable "un-telling" so I'm ok with telling them early. I will probably tell a few very close friends before 12 weeks, too, if we see them.
It would be great if you could tell them in person when you're ready but I don't know what "far away" means or how long of a wait that would be. Skype or facetime would be a good alternative.
ThankfulSnail, I'll have to talk to H about it again. I feel comfortable telling his side of the family earlier and would probably want them to know if we had a loss. I'll tell my sister over the phone around the same time but my parents would not be able to deal with a loss and I don't want to deal with them so they'll have to wait longer.
No one is super far, but ranging from 5-8 hour drive, so we see them every couple months or so.
When is everyone telling their immediate families? Most of our families live far away. ILs are in town this Friday but it seems way early to tell anyone now and we won't see them for a while so we'll have to tell them on the phone. H and I discussed telling them around 6 weeks maybe, but now I'm feeling a bit conflicted, because it would be nice to tell them in person. Just curious what others were doing.
We told our families. Oh well. I can't keep my mouth shut.
I told my sister who lives across the country as soon as I found out. I've told 2 other friends as well. We'll tell the rest of the family and other close friends when we see them in the next few weeks. Will post to social media after the first tri.
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