What are you doing for birth control? Especially if you are done with kids. I know we have talked about this before but maybe your situations have changed. What is easier, tubal at delivery or vasectomy? what are you guys doing?
Post by summergirl1211 on Aug 11, 2016 10:41:10 GMT -5
Thanks for bringing this up. I haven't been on birth control in over 6 years, but we're done after this baby so it's something we should discuss. I did the pill pre-TTC but not sure if I want to do that again. I think H and I need to have a talk about plans, especially since there's a good chance I'll have a RCS with this one and it might be easier to just tie my tubes then.
I don't want to go back on hormonal because of the risks that come with it. Especially since I'm old now, 35. They can so a tubal easily after a vaginal delivery too and the recovery would be nothing extra since you are already recovering from childbirth. But I think the vasectomy is cheaper and more effective if what I read is correct. I don't know. Anyone's H have a V yet? Was it easy?
I am currently on hormonal BC, but H and I have had "the talk" about him getting a V. I used hormonal because I had no problems with it in the past (plus I was hoping my boobs would grow since they are non-existent now). We wanted to wait until Andrew was at least 18 months before we made a final decision. If H wasn't willing to get a V, I was going to look into Essure (sp?). However, I prefer a V since it is slightly more effective (and H's turn to deal with some discomfort). Now I just need to push H to actually schedule it.
My H had a vasectomy after Anna was born. No regrets. It was an in and out procedure for him with very little downtime after. He spent the afternoon on the couch and that was about it. It's nice not to have to fool with pills or anything else.
Post by britbratjf on Aug 11, 2016 12:02:53 GMT -5
I somewhat regret not getting a tubal when I had my csection. But I was paranoid about what if something god forbid happened and we wanted to try again? So I've been on the mini pill and H is going to get a V.
Post by xanthepants on Aug 11, 2016 12:05:53 GMT -5
My H had the V and it was like a man cold times 100 in the complaint dept. Though in reality he was well enough to go get beers and to do anything he wanted to do the next day. But to do anything he didn't want to do? A good 2 months. And it was completely his idea. You do have to sign paperwork that you are ok with it too, so if you emotionally aren't ready for it, know that you have to do that. It sucked for me.
xanthepants, my BIL was the same way and my H rolled his eyes about, shockingly. He said it was no biggie. The part that sucked for him was not having sex for a bit. Other than that, he had no complaints. He said the funny part was he was nervous and waiting for the doctor to start after giving him the local. The doctor had already started and H had no idea until the doctor told him.
My H has a Vasectomy so that is our permanent BC solution after Eliza. My H's recovery was horrible, but he was actually part of a small percentage that had 2 ducts to each testicle which took a lot longer and more painful apparently. He still complains that one ball is sore at times. The surgery was supposed to last maybe 20 minutes and he was in there for almost an hour. He was out of commission and bed ridden for a weekend and then still sore for awhile. He also took almost 4-5 months to get the go ahead that it was successful. xanthepants, That is odd about you signing something. I never had to sign anything for H's.
I'm currently on the nuva ring, not for BC obviously but for my hormonal issues and pre menopause. I am on 4 separate rings that last 3 weeks each and then 1 week of nothing and will get a period. So essentially I will have a period 3x a year. I love it personally, but if I didn't need it I wouldn't be on anything. So my vote is for the big V if your H is on board.
I have the Paragaurd (copper nonhormonal) IUD and I have mixed feelings about it. It's nice that I don't have to think about taking pills, I like the idea that I am not on hormones (I reacted poorly to a BCP change once and I am a bit timid about them now). I hate how intense my periods are - heavy bleeding, pretty bad cramps. I plan to discuss with my doctor about maybe changing to Mirena instead. I don't know.
My H is going to get a V when I tell him I'm ready for it. He would have gotten it by now, but I wanted to wait a little bit if God forbid anything happen to Amelia. He'll probably go around the beginning of the year. He can't wait lol
H is getting a V. He has an appt scheduled for October, but I'm nervous about it because God forbid something happens to one of my children. I don't know. Whaaaa Ugh such a downer thing to think off.
MH is she filed for the big V on the 26th. I have the Paragard IUD now and I hate how awful my periods are, plus I don't think it should be only my responsibility to handle BC.
You should check what your insurance covers--most cover a vasectomy but I don't know if rivals are always covered.
Also a vasectomy is reversible so if God forbid we would ever need to TTC again that's an option.
starfishy Not a downer, I thought the same thing. That's part of reason I wanted to wait until Maggie was a year old. Obviously something terrible could always happen (knock on wood) but for some reason I feel "in the clear" once she's 12 months.
starfishy Not a downer, I thought the same thing. That's part of reason I wanted to wait until Maggie was a year old. Obviously something terrible could always happen (knock on wood) but for some reason I feel "in the clear" once she's 12 months.
I agree &starfishy. That's why I didn't get a tubal done during my csection. A V is reversible. I know a tubal is too but it's easier to reverse a V
Post by sarahandeddie on Aug 15, 2016 8:13:33 GMT -5
I'm currently on the pill. It's working fine for us. DH plans on getting a vasectomy eventually. I'll still stay on some sort of bc because of my horrendous periods. He didn't want me to get my tubes tied because it is such a major surgery and they are now doing vasectomies with lasers. We will see if DH actually follows through with getting it done. I wouldn't mind a third but am pretty content with two.
I'm back on BCP. I'm really hesitant for any of the IUD's even though my doc was very confident it would be a good solution for me.
She put me on a new pill and surprisingly I actually got a period this month - just finished today actually, i'm shocked. It's the first real period I've had since before we conceived J, 4+ years ago! So strange... and it reminded me why I didn't miss them - the cramps were horrible.
Right now we're not doing anything permanent, yet. H is letting us wait until E is 2 or 3 before we decide for good. I really feel like maybe one more... he did feel that way until recently. Now he's being responsible and thinking about money, haha.
When the time comes we'll talk about it, but it hasn't really come up yet.
DH and I had decided during my pregnancy with Ellie that if I ended up with a second c section I would get a rival otherwise he would get a vasectomy. Well I ended up having an emergency c section but my OB was still ok with doing a tubal so we did it. I don't handle hormonal birth control well at all so for us it was a good decision.
I am on NuvaRing. I have had such issues with my periods/hormones on the regular pill in the past that I was straight-up refusing to even think about a hormonal option but the ring has been wonderful. My H refuses to get a V and I won't push it.
So what is the deal after a V? No sex for a certain amount of time, so many ejaculations before they are cleared? I am trying to get timing right so we could both be recovering at the same time. Tia
So what is the deal after a V? No sex for a certain amount of time, so many ejaculations before they are cleared? I am trying to get timing right so we could both be recovering at the same time. Tia
I'm pretty sure they have to ejaculate so many times. And they have to take their swimmers in to get tested to make sure they're shooting blanks
Post by mommymadness on Aug 24, 2016 11:22:42 GMT -5
I have the merina iud. Or however you spell it! Lol I've been getting super sore boobs and a bit itchy down there and I'm fairly certain it is hormonal from the iud. I don't really get sore breast before the iud or itchiness. I ask my doc and she just said it was hormonal. Any one else notice annoying changes like this with the iud?
So what is the deal after a V? No sex for a certain amount of time, so many ejaculations before they are cleared? I am trying to get timing right so we could both be recovering at the same time. Tia
MH just got the V yesterday. Doc said 25-30 ejaculations before he's clear and gave him a sample cup. He's supposed to bring a sample in in about 6 weeks to get tested.
So what is the deal after a V? No sex for a certain amount of time, so many ejaculations before they are cleared? I am trying to get timing right so we could both be recovering at the same time. Tia
MH just got the V yesterday. Doc said 25-30 ejaculations before he's clear and gave him a sample cup. He's supposed to bring a sample in in about 6 weeks to get tested.
Are you going to have sex 25-30 times in the next 6 weeks? If so, you are a better wife than I am.
Post by barefoot84 on Aug 28, 2016 15:28:29 GMT -5
I can't understand how a couple with young kids can have the energy to have sex four times a week. Add at least a week for recuperation... H had a hard recuperation, it didn't hurt but it took almost a month to stop bleeding and heal correctly. We're almost three months in and not at 25...
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