Post by creepyeyeball on Aug 15, 2016 8:33:28 GMT -5
Moving my complaint here. I have been awake for 2.5 hours and have:
-made breakfast for DH and saw him off to work -fed and watered chickens -made pancakes for children -nursed baby -cleaned puke off couch from 3yo -showered 3yo -did one load of laundry -harvested veggies from garden (had to get done while baby was napping) -cleaned puke off kitchen floor -showered 3yo -changed baby diaper
Finally just got dressed and brushed my teeth. Sitting down to eat some breakfast and drink the cold tea I made for myself two hours ago. What are the chances I make it through my meal without an interruption?
My morning started off swimmingly. It was storming like crazy here so DS woke up early. It was DH's first day back at work (teacher) so it was our first rushed morning of both of us trying to get out the door and get DS to my mom's house. Then I left my lunch on the kitchen counter, so I had to turn around to go get it after I had already left. And because of the storm the traffic was terrible so I was late to work.
Oh no creepyeyeball is your three year old okay? Sounds like the poor baby doesn't feel well.
At first I thought it was just a sour tummy. Sometimes the kids wake up that way and will throw up after drinking water first thing in the morning. They are usually fine after that. But she puked again, so IDK. No fever, but white as a ghost. She's sleeping now.
Taking MB to a funeral this morning. My coworker's dad passed away and I'd like to go support her. It's halfway between work and home, so I think I may go do a few more things in my classroom. Tomorrow is half day in service and I need to drop MB off with my mom in the morning. Wednesday starts full day in service and I'm just not ready Our transition is as ideal as it gets: one half day and two full days at home with my mom this week, and then he'll start childcare (where my mom works) the following week. I'm insanely grateful for the time I've had home with him. I'm just not ready to be away from him all day...
It is a holiday here and there is a big Mexico food festival going on today. Well, it has been all weekend. LO and I went yesterday and there was .... surprisingly little Mexican food.
Geez, a lot of us are having rough days. Stupid Monday.
Today is my first day as a temporary SAHM. H went back to work. The boys are crabby from not sleeping well last night and constantly fighting/crying. A is not feeling well. She has a slight fever and is generally fussy. She was up a few times last night.
I'm annoyed with my husband. He made a comment about me always waking him up at night to deal with DS. I don't think he was joking.
We both work and we FF so I think middle of the night should be equally divided. I try so hard for us to switch. It pissed me off because he's such a heavy sleeper that he has no idea how many times I had gone up or for how long. And I have to wake him up when it's his turn which means I'm awake.
It made me cranky all weekend.
I would be cranky too.
DH keeps suggesting that I get a job, he "doesn't want me to be out of the workforce too long" which is kind of BS in regards to our lifestyle (it's understood that spouses will have time off in between jobs anyways) but I don't think he realizes how much things will change when I start working. My understanding is there are no part time jobs here either so I would be working FT, which hasn't happened since before we had kids. He basically... does nothing around the house. Which works for right now because I stay at home and DD1 goes to school so I have plenty of time to get stuff done.
I'm cranky just thinking about how hard it'll be to get him to go halvesies on the chores.
Post by shananagins on Aug 15, 2016 12:32:29 GMT -5
@pennygirl2013, Thanks! I'm so sorry for your rough morning! I work an hour away, and my biggest fear is forgetting my pumping supplies buttercup, Crossing all my appendages that things work out! @east, abbeyd, Annoyed for you both.
I'm annoyed with my husband. He made a comment about me always waking him up at night to deal with DS. I don't think he was joking.
We both work and we FF so I think middle of the night should be equally divided. I try so hard for us to switch. It pissed me off because he's such a heavy sleeper that he has no idea how many times I had gone up or for how long. And I have to wake him up when it's his turn which means I'm awake.
It made me cranky all weekend.
Not cool, Mr. Abbeyd. Do your fair share! I hate the heavy sleeping sleeping excuse. H has been surprised before when I tell him I was up with a kid MOTN.
I'm annoyed with my husband. He made a comment about me always waking him up at night to deal with DS. I don't think he was joking.
We both work and we FF so I think middle of the night should be equally divided. I try so hard for us to switch. It pissed me off because he's such a heavy sleeper that he has no idea how many times I had gone up or for how long. And I have to wake him up when it's his turn which means I'm awake.
It made me cranky all weekend.
Not cool, Mr. Abbeyd. Do your fair share! I hate the heavy sleeping sleeping excuse. H has been surprised before when I tell him I was up with a kid MOTN.
I am in the hate on husband boat too. My H was in a crabby mood, saying how tired he was, and I couldn't breastfeed because I had taken some narcotics for an endoscopy that morning. Well, he got upset because she wouldn't take the bottle and he thrust it at me and said "I can't be the only one who knows how to bottle feed!"
I lolololololololed and was like "well I can't be the only one who knows how to breastfeed!" I woke up with his child 4 times the night before, had an invasive endoscopy that morning, suffered from heartburn the entire day and I needed to learn how to bottle feed? Lofuckingl
I went to daycare to feed DS at lunch. I had a blanket draped over me incase he spit up. Well he spit up, but managed to do it around the blanket, all down my shirt. I look like a gross slob now, when will I learn to bring a change of shirt with me to work.
DH was like that for a while. Luckily he has come around. If DS needs to eat, I will go nurse. Otherwise I'd it's been less than three hours, I wake up DH to go change his diaper and stick a paci in his mouth. I always have to wake DH though because he is a heavy sleeper.
Sorry to everyone dealing with jerk husbands. DH has taken to sleeping in another room while I bedshare with DS. It is frustrating, but since I am breastfeeding I am the one waking with DS anyways. I am just so tired, and am mad that he gets to sleep.
Post by craftcrazymama on Aug 15, 2016 14:27:37 GMT -5
Maybe this should go in the UO/FFFC thread but I don't subscribe to the whole DH works full time so I should be the only one getting up at night.
We made this baby together. We made the decision to parent together so we split whatever we can or support whenever we can at least. I also work full time. In the home. Looking after a baby for the 9 hours he's is at work. It's as busy and demanding if not more so. Very rarely am I napping on the couch and just lazing the day away. Yes, in the early days I did a little but I was also recovering from major surgery. I do fit in doing the majority of the housework while DH works. That I'm good with because I'm here and there are things he's does when he gets home that help in that area.
But at night, unless I absolutely don't need him (like LO falls straight back asleep and doesn't need a wee cuddle) I feed then wake DH to cuddle/burp while I pee, get a drink and stack up the fire (middle of winter here). He's usually only up for maybe 10 minutes. LO goes back down pretty easily.
We will also split who goes down to DD. Even though I'm awake anyway regardless.
DH is usually pretty good with the arrangement but has also been on thin ice lately. LO is still up every two hours and DD is waking in between so we're being tag teamed and it's so tiring. DH has been a bit arsey and grumpy and it's of course because he's tired. I'm tired too but I manage to avoid acting like a total witch towards him because of it.
I'm just imagining how this would all play out on a new dad forum.
"My wife woke me up 4 times last night to take care of the baby. Can you believe that?! I'm so tired."
"My wife had the nerve to ask me to give our baby a bottle the other day when she was hopped up on narcotics after a medical procedure. I thought we decided on breastfeeding so I didn't have to feed the baby!"
This is probably why there are so few dad forums.
Haha! My husband read my original post about this cause I accidentally left it up on the computer and he came to me and apologized! Lol, I think heartbots condemnation helped. A16 for the win!
I'm just imagining how this would all play out on a new dad forum.
"My wife woke me up 4 times last night to take care of the baby. Can you believe that?! I'm so tired."
"My wife had the nerve to ask me to give our baby a bottle the other day when she was hopped up on narcotics after a medical procedure. I thought we decided on breastfeeding so I didn't have to feed the baby!"
This is probably why there are so few dad forums.
Haha! My husband read my original post about this cause I accidentally left it up on the computer and he came to me and apologized! Lol, I think heartbots condemnation helped. A16 for the win!
Awkward!! I'm glad he apologized instead of getting mad that you were venting to us!
Haha! My husband read my original post about this cause I accidentally left it up on the computer and he came to me and apologized! Lol, I think heartbots condemnation helped. A16 for the win!
Awkward!! I'm glad he apologized instead of getting mad that you were venting to us!
He knows I vent on here but im surprised I'm the one that ended up with an apology. If he had a birth board, his venting would be a mile long. I have definitely not been pleasant these past few weeks.
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