But even then, sometimes a page of little more than I'm sorry I'm sorry I'm so sorry comes off as trite and unnecessary.
I feel the same way about labour threads, though: Good luck! Good luck! Good luck! Congrats! Congrats! Congrats!
I always feel like people are just trying to up their post count or something.
What you see as unnecessary, others see as support. Don't comment if it bothers you.
I guess insincere is a more fitting word. My bad.
Just to be clear, I was talking about 2-word replies not feeling supportive -- at least not to me. I take no issue with those threads themselves, just with the way a lot of people reply.
What you see as unnecessary, others see as support. Don't comment if it bothers you.
I guess insincere is a more fitting word. My bad.
Just to be clear, I was talking about 2-word replies not feeling supportive -- at least not to me. I take no issue with those threads themselves, just with the way a lot of people reply.
What if the poster has no advice or whatever advice/support they would have offered has already been said? What's wrong with a "good luck" or "I'm sorry" if they want to offer support? I see nothing insincere about that.
I regularly tell the overseer of self checkout to please clear my scale; I buy large amounts of groceries and they are always happy to do so. My Kroger has six self checkouts- and I can scan up to 5 items and hit "in cart" and the scale is not bothered. I pretty much consider myself the expert at this point.
Ok, mayo is good on fries (occassionaly) but Horsey sauce from Arby's is better!
Late, but Zaxby's sauce on fries trumps Arby's sauce for me.
I don't do mayo on fries at all. Mayo belongs a lot of places. MY fries is not one of them. If your fries is one of those places, I just say TETO.
What you see as unnecessary, others see as support. Don't comment if it bothers you.
I guess insincere is a more fitting word. My bad.
Just to be clear, I was talking about 2-word replies not feeling supportive -- at least not to me. I take no issue with those threads themselves, just with the way a lot of people reply.
Sometimes shorter is the best. Pretty sure if someone if going through some crap they don't want your fucking anecdotes about how it will all be better soon or some shit.
Just to be clear, I was talking about 2-word replies not feeling supportive -- at least not to me. I take no issue with those threads themselves, just with the way a lot of people reply.
But why? People express their sympathy in different ways. I am terrible at pep talks or finding the right words in difficult situations, but that doesn't mean I don't care about what the person is going through. So an "I'm so sorry" is no less genuine when I am truly sorry for the situation.
I agree. I don't always know what advice to give or just what to say to that person so I say I am sorry or that I will be thinking of them because I am and I will be.
Post by theseaword on Aug 18, 2016 10:33:15 GMT -5
I have only ever been sincere when I say "good luck" or "I'm sorry". The genuine support I receive from posters on this board is the reason I choose to hang out here.
seventythree, so what's the alternative, then? The first 5 people who respond and cover the variations of appropriate responses are the only ones who get to respond? If you have nothing further to say outside of the condensed version you should refrain from posting? I get that pages of those responses in the more random threads get lengthy, but especially when they're separate posts, I'm not sure how else people are allowed to respond?
Post by veganontuesdays on Aug 18, 2016 10:33:58 GMT -5
I guess the point is that support has a different definition for everyone. I don't foresee seventythree starting her own support needing thread anytime soon because she is looking for something more. I get it. I am also assuming that someone who starts a support thread here knows what they'll be getting and it's what they "want" so it's all good.
Post by rocksforludo on Aug 18, 2016 10:47:46 GMT -5
I understand where seventythree is coming from when it relates to congrats. Since it's happy, pep it up with a gif or something original.
Sympathy/support threads are different to me though. I doubt that someone would remember every single poster that just says "I'm sorry" but the cumulative effect of having that many people respond is probably heartening. I say probably because I haven't been in that position here yet.
And I'm going to WK for her (labor buddy and all) and say that maybe she meant "insincere" as not putting time into thinking of something meaningful to respond with. But sometimes I do sit and stare at the screen, trying to think of something insightful or that would help and all I can come up with is "I'm so sorry." So I don't judge the way anyone else responds.
What you see as unnecessary, others see as support. Don't comment if it bothers you.
I guess insincere is a more fitting word. My bad.
Just to be clear, I was talking about 2-word replies not feeling supportive -- at least not to me. I take no issue with those threads themselves, just with the way a lot of people reply.
I think words of support feel a lot less trite when they are coming from internet friends, rather than internet randoms. I know that support from these boards has made me feel loved and less alone during my struggles in the past, so if others are seeking support, I try to reciprocate.
I guess I'm wondering if you realize that many of the ladies here giving and receiving support have real friendships. It's more than just pages of I'm so sorries - it's real emotions.
I can count on one hand how many times I've made sure my bra and panties matched. They've all been super special occasions. So no, as a general consensus no they don't need to match.
I love online shopping except when it comes to jeans, fancy dresses, shoes, and underwear.
I hate self check out. I hardly ever use it.
I also like white jeans.
Mine: I love mayonnaise in my mac and cheese instead of putting butter.
I understand where seventythree is coming from when it relates to congrats. Since it's happy, pep it up with a gif or something original.
Sympathy/support threads are different to me though. I doubt that someone would remember every single poster that just says "I'm sorry" but the cumulative effect of having that many people respond is probably heartening. I say probably because I haven't been in that position here yet.
And I'm going to WK for her (labor buddy and all) and say that maybe she meant "insincere" as not putting time into thinking of something meaningful to respond with. But sometimes I do sit and stare at the screen, trying to think of something insightful or that would help and all I can come up with is "I'm so sorry." So I don't judge the way anyone else responds.
This. We were on birth month boards together so I guess I "know" seventythree a little bit more and know that she is incredibly genuine and supportive and has lots of feels. She definitely meant insincere but after reading everyone's responses I completely understand where everyone is coming from.
I can count on one hand how many times I've made sure my bra and panties matched. They've all been super special occasions. So no, as a general consensus no they don't need to match.
I love online shopping except when it comes to jeans, fancy dresses, shoes, and underwear.
I hate self check out. I hardly ever use it.
I also like white jeans.
Mine: I love mayonnaise in my mac and cheese instead of putting butter.
Post by Cherhorowitz on Aug 18, 2016 10:54:27 GMT -5
I just prefer separate threads for that kind of stuff because it tends to break the randoms. But I side eye anyone that thinks people do it to up their post account. There's a community here that cares about one another.
I guess the point is that support has a different definition for everyone. I don't foresee seventythree starting her own support needing thread anytime soon because she is looking for something more. I get it. I am also assuming that someone who starts a support thread here knows what they'll be getting and it's what they "want" so it's all good.
But what else is she looking for?
All I saw her say was that she didn't think it was sincere so I am not sure what is needed?
I can count on one hand how many times I've made sure my bra and panties matched. They've all been super special occasions. So no, as a general consensus no they don't need to match.
I love online shopping except when it comes to jeans, fancy dresses, shoes, and underwear.
I hate self check out. I hardly ever use it.
I also like white jeans.
Mine: I love mayonnaise in my mac and cheese instead of putting butter.
I prefer mayo on my corn on the cob over butter.
The correct way is with butter AND mayo. And add cheese, chili powder and lime.
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