I'm less ok with it than I thought I would be. The crying, I'm ok with. That only lasted 7 minutes. It's him being in his own room that's bothering me. He's been right next to our bed for 8 months.
I'm not the most sentimental person, but I'm looking at this rock n play next to the bed and I feel like crying.
Damn feels.
I totally get it. They aren't itty bitty anymore. It hurts me to the core of I think too much about it...
Hey y'all. Today has been better symptom wise. Thank God for medicine and antibiotics. DD and DS are healthy but now DH has the bug. I think the end is in sight though.
Post by silverspoon on Aug 27, 2016 6:37:09 GMT -5
Well it went ok. I got up 3 times to give him his pacifier when it seemed like he wasn't settling back down.
I put him on his belly. I know I should let him flip that way in his own. I really do know this, but at midnight after he had woke up and was freaking out I flipped him over and he instantly calmed.
dizzycooks and kcrkcs thank you guys. They really are growing up aren't they.
Post by NellieOleson on Aug 27, 2016 8:59:30 GMT -5
silverspoon - That sounds like a success to me! I'm glad both of you made it.
I totally know that feeling. I had a way harder time when I was trying to stop bedsharing with dd1 than she did. She'd be content and asleep in her room, and I'd be wide awake in my bed like "Maybe I should just go sleep in there...?"
I wouldn't worry about putting him on his belly or feel like you're doing something wrong by doing that.
kcrkcs - what have you been doing for sleep? I know it must be hard since you two are traveling so much it's impossible to have any real routine or consistency. I know you mentioned recently that you were watching her on the video monitor while she put herself to sleep. That sounds like sleep training to me?
Post by scorpioscuba on Aug 27, 2016 11:04:58 GMT -5
Yup, this sleep thing is so hard. And it's making it doubly harder that this is my last baby. I don't want her to grow up! I love night time cuddles in the bed and waking up together in the morning.
DD seemed to have a cold yesterday but seems nearly over it today.
H went on a motorcycle ride with a friend who is in town. I have major anxiety over this and just want him home safe already. We have DS's karate tournament practice today. DS is saying he is over karate. I don't know how to handle this. I want him to keep it up but don't want to make him miserable. I'm thinking that being in Kindergarten 5 days a week is a lot for him and is wanting more free time.
Post by scorpioscuba on Aug 27, 2016 11:07:45 GMT -5
I'm glad the night went well, silverspoon! FX he continues to improve and learns to love his crib! I agree, don't worry about putting him on his belly. You know he can roll around if he wants. If I put DD on her back she freaks out too so I am putting her on her belly as well. She prefers it.
I didn't do any planning at all kcrkcs! Probably not the best plan of action but I needed to just dive in headfirst otherwise I never would have done it. Good luck!
Off to a wedding today. I just learned that most of my dresses are too small. We've got about half an hour before we need to get the kids ready. H and S are just wearing jeans and dress shirts. The bride said that there was no need to get too dressy, so I decided not to bother buying S a whole new outfit. My mom is picking them up from the reception and keeping them over night, so I have to pack a bag for them.
For the first time in over four months, DD slept from 7:30-2:30 in her crib. She then got in bed with us. It would be great for this to happen again instead of our nightly routine of her getting in bed with us at 10:30/11! She ate 4 oz of purée before bed. Maybe that helped. She usually eats 1-2 oz.
I would love this schedule. It's kind of the best of both worlds! I hope it lasts for you guys.
Post by crimsonandclover on Aug 27, 2016 14:11:32 GMT -5
silverspoon, guess it's time to skip the IUD appointment and have another to fill up the RnP! (joking, joking) When we moved DD1 to her room when she was 8 months old I put a mattress on the floor to "ease her transition." She so totally did not care.
NellieOleson, that sounds so frustrating, I hope the GI specialist can give you some answers or that she really does grow out of it soon.
silverspoon, guess it's time to skip the IUD appointment and have another to fill up the RnP! (joking, joking) When we moved DD1 to her room when she was 8 months old I put a mattress on the floor to "ease her transition." She so totally did not care.
NellieOleson, that sounds so frustrating, I hope the GI specialist can give you some answers or that she really does grow out of it soon.
Thanks. I know you said your dd2 was a big spit upper - when did she finally stop?
NellieOleson awesome dress! Re sleeping for naps I put her down sometimes sleepy but awake but I have never done anything other than nurse her or hold her to sleep at night.
Post by scorpioscuba on Aug 27, 2016 20:58:11 GMT -5
So 2 completely unrelated questions:
1 - Moms of girls who use headbands. Do they leave marks on their head? I got them the right size but they still leave marks. I guess its like diaper marks? I mean they go away of course but it kinda bugs me.
2 - WHEN will she stop crying when I lay her down? I realize we aren't even a week into sleep training and she is falling asleep pretty fast. The crying IS reducing but its like immediate. Sometimes she even anticipates what is going to happen (especially for bedtime) and starts crying/whining during nursing. It is so hard to put her in her crib crying like that and kiss her and turn around and just LEAVE. I hate it. I'm grateful it doesn't last long but I need a light at the end of the tunnel. Will she ever happily go into her crib and just fall asleep?
Post by dizzycooks on Aug 27, 2016 22:39:33 GMT -5
scorpioscuba our headbands are just now a leaving marks. My other girls wouldn't leave them alone sometimes I not have itty bitty ones and clearly need to find bigger head bands. She's freaking Adorable in them, but I've stopped using them as much because it can't feel great. No solutions in other words. Re sleep and crying, my oldest cried every time for about 39 seconds and I remember saying repeatedly "why does she have to cry???" It is it hurt so bad and yet after 30 seconds she was firm, every.single.night. Until she was like 2. Seriously. Dd2 cried until this past spring, for hours. Now thank god she just goes to bed. Dd3. Is pretty chill so far no crying at bedtime, but I do t let her cry motn bc it's easier to feed her and she go back to sleep. Thankfully we are at a twice a night routine for the most part so it's tolerable.
Post by dizzycooks on Aug 27, 2016 22:41:40 GMT -5
Guys...we went to a new neighborhood today to check out a bakery for fun and then stopped at a farmers market and discovered an amazing park and wading pool. I'm in love. Dh and I feel like our world has been tipped over bc we were so set on one part of town to buy a house and now we are like "hmm maybe we should move to the city and quit the 'burbs". I'm distraught with what ifs and want to quit adulting. Too much work!!
Post by crimsonandclover on Aug 28, 2016 0:09:50 GMT -5
NellieOleson, the huge projectile spit-ups that soaked my entire shirt and the couch (if she was aimed at me) stopped when she started "snacking" every 20 min instead of drinking meals. She was about 4 months old. She still kept spitting up a lot, though. I remember it being a bit problem when we started solids because if she ate spinach or carrots/squash then we pretty much couldn't have her over any carpet for several hours afterward, and we didn't start her on solids until she was 6 months old, so I would say she was definitely around 8 months old before it calmed down significantly? Another mom on my other bmb has a serious spitter who still spits up quite a bit (he just turned 2), but he has other developmental delays as well. And my mom had a colleague whose daughter had serious reflux and as far as I know it never really stopped, the girl just learned to manage it (never going more than 2-3 hours without eating, for example), and she's in her teens now. She had no other issues, "just" that.
So there's no real telling when it could stop, although the general rule is that it usually gets better as more solids are introduced.
scorpioscuba I tried the cute headbands with DD but they always left marks and it bugged me so I never put them on her anymore. silverspoon hugs to you. Moving them to their own rooms is tough. I will say I think DD started sleeping somewhat better when she had more room to stretch out. Any tips on increasing supply- I currently make enough but my freezer stash is down to one bag of milk and it's been barely enough to leave on the days I work. Should I try to pump twice a day when I'm at home? (Currently just doing once a day at home on days off)
lucanjo14 I did find oatmeal to be helpful giving my supply a little boost. I don't know if you are doing any real food type meals/parts of meals yet, but dinner has also been a time where I could get in a good pump to help build up my stash again.
Post by silverspoon on Aug 28, 2016 12:42:12 GMT -5
I didn't know life could be this way again. He didn't make a peep from 8:00pm-5:30am. H have him pacifier and he went back down until 7.
I know every night is not going to go that well, but I now have proof we can have those nights. They do happen! The last two nights he hasn't been in our room I have slept so much better. I use the sleep tracker on my Fitbit and I was so restless every night. Now, there's actual hour long periods of deep sleep.
Post by tinydancer on Aug 28, 2016 13:57:09 GMT -5
silverspoon that's great! it's nice to know they can do it isn't it? I get you on the feels about moving him out of your room tho - that's going to be me in about 3 weeks.
AFM, I'm feeling like a terrible mom over here. I pulled LO in bed with me this morning to nurse and we dosed until 7:15 when we both woke up with him rolling out of the bed! I felt so so terrible. I can still hear him hitting the floor. He was fine, and he wasn't even that upset, but I just can't believe it happened! Usually I always have an arm around him or something
silverspoon that's great! it's nice to know they can do it isn't it? I get you on the feels about moving him out of your room tho - that's going to be me in about 3 weeks.
AFM, I'm feeling like a terrible mom over here. I pulled LO in bed with me this morning to nurse and we dosed until 7:15 when we both woke up with him rolling out of the bed! I felt so so terrible. I can still hear him hitting the floor. He was fine, and he wasn't even that upset, but I just can't believe it happened! Usually I always have an arm around him or something
Yikes! Accidents happen. It bothers the parent more than the kid 99% of the time I think.
kelltothekell hope your peanut feels better soon! I am dreading the back to school germs that are about to hit my barn. tinydancer what a crap end to a nice morning snuggle. AFM my potential deal fell through this AM. Happy Sunday. I have spent the entire day mourning the loss. I should really know better than to even care a little about anything these wishy washy wealthy people propose. On the positive side it opened up some knew thought avenues for me, and we are redetermined to build on our property sooner as opposed to later.
tinydancer, that's happened with both of my babies. It totally sucks but you are doing the best you can and accidents happen. NBD. scorpioscuba, the headbands left marks frequently on DD and we just avoided them. It just didn't look comfortable to me even though I could easily slip my fingers in between her head and the band. Maybe y'all can do a modified karate schedule that doesn't require as much commitment? dizzycooks, where to live is such a huge decision! I hope you find peace with whatever place you choose. I love where we live because it is in a quiet suburb but with very easy access to the highway and we can be in the city in half an hour. Lollipop, NellieOleson, hope y'all had fun! i missed the dress pic nellie, but i bet it was super cute. kelltothekell, fx your little girl feels better soon. it's so sad when they are sick. kcrkcs, im glad you have a new sense of fervor for the future! im sure things will work out.
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