Let's talk about sex, baby (now with things to click!)

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Slightly off topic.

Do any second time mom want same sex siblings but are getting shit for not wanting the opposite sex of what you have? Because this shit is getting tired.

[caer]

Aug 30, 2016 16:39:22 GMT -5 @priss08 said:

Slightly off topic.

Do any second time mom want same sex siblings but are getting shit for not wanting the opposite sex of what you have? Because this shit is getting tired.

I was actually thinking about this today. I have a son and would LOVE another little boy. I'll be fine either way but I definitely won't be disappointed if this one is a boy. But I'm kind of worried about the comments I might get. I hear about lots of people getting asked if "they'll try again for a girl" or things like that. I hate that there is this expectation that a "perfect" family includes a boy and girl.

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Aug 30, 2016 16:42:21 GMT -5 caer said:

Aug 30, 2016 16:39:22 GMT -5 @priss08 said:

Slightly off topic.

Do any second time mom want same sex siblings but are getting shit for not wanting the opposite sex of what you have? Because this shit is getting tired.

I was actually thinking about this today. I have a son and would LOVE another little boy. I'll be fine either way but I definitely won't be disappointed if this one is a boy. But I'm kind of worried about the comments I might get. I hear about lots of people getting asked if "they'll try again for a girl" or things like that. I hate that there is this expectation that a "perfect" family includes a boy and girl.

Yes. I have a son and want another. This is going to be my last pregnancy no matter what. Even one nurse at my Dr is beside herself that I want to boys. *eyeroll*

[mikaela20]

Aug 30, 2016 16:40:53 GMT -5 Fearsy said:

I thought this thread was about actual sex and all I could think was DNWWWWW sex right now.

Me too! I was peaking in to see how people are having so much or so little sex lately.

I have zero desire to have sex. I feel bad for my DH but he hasn't initiated either and just knows I'm not into it right now.

[bookish]

@priss08 YES! Everyone is giving me crap about preferring a boy over a girl. Everyone says "oh, but then you could get her Lilly dresses to match yours!" Yes, I could spend tons of money on Mommy and Me matches, OR I could have a boy and use DS's clothes and not have to deal with girl things or girl drama!!!

[heytheredelilah]

We are having a girl. We already have a DD. I actually cared less about the sex this time than last. I love my girl and am thrilled to have another. I would have been cool with a boy too.

When my husband told my FIL that I was pregnant he responded "That's great! Your getting clipped after this one, right?" (Not that it's any of his business, but all of the men in his family have after #2, but DH is not). My DH ignored the comment and said "It's a girl!" (And he actually wanted a girl). My FIL replied "oh, never mind then."

My FIL's comments don't really get to me because I know him well enough to know that he loves kids and would be happy if we decide to have #3, but if we decide to have another I don't think we will be trying for a boy. I would be happy with 3 girls...or 2 girls and a boy.

This was long. Hopefully it makes sense.

[mosdub]

Aug 30, 2016 16:40:53 GMT -5 Fearsy said:

I thought this thread was about actual sex and all I could think was DNWWWWW sex right now.

+1 aaannnddd +1 

[mosdub]

We are going to find out, but probably not until the anatomy scan.

Last time I didn't have a strong feeling boy or girl. This time I feel like it's a girl. I have a 50% chance of being right.

[mosdub]

Also the Chinese chart thingy said girl, and so did some other website that interprets heartbeat by gestational age. So, totes having a girl.

[moutonrouge]

I'm curious, if any STMs were team green last time: Was it easy to avoid knowing? Was there ever a scan, especially later, where you could see evidence either way? I like the idea of not finding out, but want to know how hard it is to stay in the dark about the sex.

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Aug 30, 2016 17:10:02 GMT -5 bookish said:

@priss08 YES! Everyone is giving me crap about preferring a boy over a girl. Everyone says "oh, but then you could get her Lilly dresses to match yours!" Yes, I could spend tons of money on Mommy and Me matches, OR I could have a boy and use DS's clothes and not have to deal with girl things or girl drama!!!

I'm still such a tomboy. I don't see myself buying matching dresses and such. I really would not know what to do with a really girly-girl. I mean, I'll be excited about either sex but a girl would be a different adventure ya know?

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Aug 30, 2016 17:46:44 GMT -5 mosdub said:

Also the Chinese chart thingy said girl, and so did some other website that interprets heartbeat by gestational age. So, totes having a girl.

What's the h heartbeat website? My Chinese gender chart also says girl but....it said girl with DS so. Lol

[mosdub]

Aug 30, 2016 17:54:47 GMT -5 @priss08 said:

Aug 30, 2016 17:46:44 GMT -5 mosdub said:

Also the Chinese chart thingy said girl, and so did some other website that interprets heartbeat by gestational age. So, totes having a girl.

What's the h heartbeat website? My Chinese gender chart also says girl but....it said girl with DS so. Lol

www.babybpm.com/

[cosmicav]

We are team GREEN. I will just be living vicariously through everyone finding out before birth. Lol. We ought to start an old wives tale thread so we can all speculate!

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Aug 30, 2016 17:58:35 GMT -5 mosdub said:

Aug 30, 2016 17:54:47 GMT -5 @priss08 said:

What's the h heartbeat website? My Chinese gender chart also says girl but....it said girl with DS so. Lol

www.babybpm.com/

This also says girl. Guess we'll find out in a few weeks. 😂

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Aug 30, 2016 18:43:25 GMT -5 cosmicav said:

We are team GREEN. I will just be living vicariously through everyone finding out before birth. Lol. We ought to start an old wives tale thread so we can all speculate!

Yes!

[kristhegirl]

Aug 30, 2016 17:51:59 GMT -5 moutonrouge said:

I'm curious, if any STMs were team green last time: Was it easy to avoid knowing? Was there ever a scan, especially later, where you could see evidence either way? I like the idea of not finding out, but want to know how hard it is to stay in the dark about the sex.

It was no problem at all for me. The office knew at the anatomy scan, but we were clear that we didn't want to know, so the tech turned off the monitor for that part. Then the doctor explained that they do not notate the sex anywhere in the main chart, it is only on the saved pictures from the anatomy scan and they'd have to go into that specific appointment from that day and find it. This way no one would accidentally ask us about our little boy/girl.

I'd ask what protocol is at your doctor's office, and make it clear with every MA, nurse, and doctor that you do not want to know until birth.

[kinipela7]

I have a girl and I want another! This will be my last pregnancy either way! I grew up with all sisters so I just think that would be more fun. It's funny because before my daughter I did NOT want ANY girls! Ha!

[kristhegirl]

I go back and forth - sisters! But then I'd never have a boy. A brother and a sister! But then my girl wouldn't have a sister and I love my sister.

So, happy and sad either way. We're team green, though, so we'll find out in the excitement of delivery!

[meggypoo1]

I have a girl not sure what I want this time. I think it would awesome to have another girl because my sister and I are really close but I would also like experience being a mom to a boy and a sister with a younger brother would be cute.
As for sex, I am just so tired right now but we try to have sex once a week. It has been about 2 or so now though. This is all I can do.

[Quinstar]

Can I go again?

We're team blue, and it's what DH and I were hoping for. I don't know why, it just seemed like we needed a boy first. MIL, and my mom both were convinced it was a boy. We're very, very excited.

We'll be doing a gender reveal to our friends in a few weeks. We have a name, but we're not going to be telling people IRL (Evil laugh because the curiosity is killing my mom). We told all the parents the sex already, but that's it for now.

Chinese chart: Boy, HR site: Boy, Genetic testing: Boy

I asked DH if he would be alright if we had just boys, and he said he'd like to have at least one daughter. I'd be alright with boys, I'm slightly terrified of girls.

[callmeKD]

Everyone at our house wants girls. So that means we will have boys. Lol

[daisylola11]

I felt soooo much pressure to have a girl, I have a DS. I wanted a girl because I wanted to experience both since this might be our last. But still loved the idea of DS having a brother relationship.

We had our gender scan and they said girl. I'm not gonna lie I'm ecstatic! I know it's early on but even before knowing I was accumulating girl cloth diapers and clothes "just in case."

[skk]

We won't know for a few more weeks, but DS has said he wants a baby brother. When I told my grandma we were expecting, the first thing out of her mouth was, "I hope it's a girl." My mom is convinced it's a boy because most of boy cousins of my generation have had girls while the girl cousins have had little boys...you know, scientific reasoning.

I'm not sure who we'll be able to please.

[heytheredelilah]

I just looked at the Chinese gender chart and heart rate site. Just for funsies:

Chinese chart: boy, heart rate site: boy, genetic test: girl.

[elsmom]

Aug 30, 2016 18:51:07 GMT -5 kristhegirl said:

I go back and forth - sisters! But then I'd never have a boy. A brother and a sister! But then my girl wouldn't have a sister and I love my sister.

So, happy and sad either way. We're team green, though, so we'll find out in the excitement of delivery!

We not only have the same taste in DD names, but this is exactly 100% how I feel (except for the team green part - I'm not patient enough for that!) Like no matter what I will maybe be a tiny bit disappointed bc I really want DD to have a sister but it would be great to experience a boy too!

[Quinstar]

Aug 30, 2016 21:47:07 GMT -5 @justinslovo said:

Quinstar Not telling the name IRL, but can we know?!! Pretty please?

Haha, sure. DH came up with it, it's after the main character in the Hatchet series by Gary Paulsen, his favorite books. The middle name is his grandpa's name. 

Brian Darrell Two-Syllable last name.  

Freaks me out to 'say it out loud'. 

[obi]

I had asked my Dr to order Panorama for me so we could find out the sex early and I see now that he didnt. I am a bit miffed because I feel like if I have to go through this extra testing and genetic counselling anyway (Im high risk) then you could at least throw a perk my way.
I see my OB for the first time next week so I am going to ask her to order panorama and hope she agrees. I kind of hate that they decide for you when it is the same damn test just with one extra bit of info. Its my blood, people!

Oh and my intuition says girl. I'd be happy with either and know DS will be an awesome big brother.

[amandamh2]

We were team green last time and will be again this time. Finding out in the delivery room was a wonderful experience for us. At the A/S, the tech asked at the end if there was anything else we wanted to see which was our cue to ask so we just said no. We didn't have any other scans so that was it.

I would be happy with another boy because brothers close in age would be a lot of fun (my own brothers are two years apart and really good friends/troublemakers) but I would also be excited to have a girl. We aren't planning on this being our last baby regardless of sex. At some point I think it would be cool to have a girl but I would also be happy with a house full of boys.

I think DH is kind of hoping for a girl and my gut feeling this time says girl. I was right with DS so we'll see! My family has also been joking that it's probably going to be a girl because I'm due about a year after my Grandma passed away and she would have been hoping for a girl.

[daisylola11]

Aug 31, 2016 13:30:04 GMT -5 Fearsy said:

Aug 30, 2016 20:14:12 GMT -5 daisylola11 said:

I felt soooo much pressure to have a girl, I have a DS. I wanted a girl because I wanted to experience both since this might be our last. But still loved the idea of DS having a brother relationship.

We had our gender scan and they said girl. I'm not gonna lie I'm ecstatic! I know it's early on but even before knowing I was accumulating girl cloth diapers and clothes "just in case."

Gender scan? I'm confused. How many weeks are you?

I was 13 weeks, baby measured 13+6. It was a private place you pay for outside the hospital for an ultrasound. They specialize in gender determination and 4D ultrasounds.