Due to R's impending surgery, DD hasn't been able to go to daycare (her getting R sick is a contraindication to surgery). Since his surgery is now bumped up to next week instead of October/November like we expected, I got back in touch with the preschools that DD is on wait list for. One had an opening in July that we couldn't take and doesn't anticipate having another opening until maybe 2017...same as another one we are on WL for. So now we registered her for a November 14 opening! It's still going to be tough handling both kids until then...especially one that is recovering from major surgery. I hate the daycare/preschool WL game!
I also dislike when other people make up nicknames for my kids. Some of them are so weird. It's sounds hypocritical because dh and I do it all the time!
Ugh, I also hate it. My sister's boyfriend says my dog's name in a weird high-pitched way and repeats it a bunch of times really fast when he sees her and it seriously makes me want to hit him - and I don't even dislike the guy. Also, a few days after he was born, she told me that he nicknamed DS "Benny". His name is Benjamin. Call him that, or Ben. Not Benny. Ugh.
As far as nicknames go, I find myself calling him Munchkin or Snugglebutt more than I use his actual name 😂
Add me to this list. My parents always want to come up with nick names for my kids but they never stick. My Inlaws so the same. Just call them by their names!
MIL also likes to compare everything my kids do to her kids. S2 likes preschool, so did her second child so clearly it's a family trait. X is just like grandma. Y is just like Hs cousin. Argh just stop comparing my kids to everything! Let them just be!
We call DD bug no names for the boys yet well besides hungry hippo for the bigger one lol and worried will for the other (he rarely smiles always looks overly concerned)
Due to R's impending surgery, DD hasn't been able to go to daycare (her getting R sick is a contraindication to surgery). Since his surgery is now bumped up to next week instead of October/November like we expected, I got back in touch with the preschools that DD is on wait list for. One had an opening in July that we couldn't take and doesn't anticipate having another opening until maybe 2017...same as another one we are on WL for. So now we registered her for a November 14 opening! It's still going to be tough handling both kids until then...especially one that is recovering from major surgery. I hate the daycare/preschool WL game!
Ugh that's tough. I'm sorry you have to wait so long. Can you maybe pay a high school student to come over a few days a week after school to help give you some relief since you won't be paying tuition?
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Post by coffeequeen14 on Sept 2, 2016 15:59:17 GMT -5
S1 had had frequent urination since a few days before M was born. It has been getting worse by the day. Just got back from the doctor and thankfully everything checked out fine so it's probably just stress induced.
You know what's not fun? Having blood work done on a high stress four year old. Heart breaking and so much screaming!
S1 had had frequent urination since a few days before M was born. It has been getting worse by the day. Just got back from the doctor and thankfully everything checked out fine so it's probably just stress induced.
You know what's not fun? Having blood work done on a high stress four year old. Heart breaking and so much screaming!
coffeequeen14 aw, hope he gets better soon! Do they think stress induced because of the new baby or?
I am looking to see if there are any in-home daycares that are flexible and could take DD for several days a week just until she starts at preschool, but we will have to see. It is stressful to think about sending her to someone else's home that I don't know just for that period of time. Her former caregiver retired at the end of the school year so we don't have her anymore. I know it'll be okay, I'm just so tired.
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Post by bocaburger on Sept 2, 2016 16:28:53 GMT -5
So it turns out 2 newborns and just one adult is HARD.
That being said, we are surviving! For the moment they are both asleep. I pulled something in my leg/butt getting up off the floor with a baby in my arms and walking is now quite painful, so that's not great.
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Post by coffeequeen14 on Sept 2, 2016 16:36:29 GMT -5
shanny yes the doctor assumes it's the stress of the new baby. Him and I are very close so it's been particularly hard on him. She said it would go away in two to three months 😳 He goes maybe four to six times an hour some hours. Luckily it seems to be better at school because his teachers haven't complained yet.
It's stressful with two kids, particularly one used to daycare full time and then is suddenly home. I hope you find a solution that works for you!
Ok STM and TTM please tell me the mommy guilt gets easier and right now it's just the PP hormones. Since I'm BF a lot of his care falls on me which means DD gets neglected and DH has to handle her care. So I feel guilty as I hear her crying for me. Then I feel guilty that DH is doing extra work..which is silly bc I'm doing just as much work just with the DS. With one it was so easy to take turns, with two it's a learning curve with tag teaming. So basically tell me it gets easier.
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Post by gratefulgirl on Sept 2, 2016 18:13:40 GMT -5
Worst evening ever. DH was holding DD3 upright with DD2 also in his lap. DD2 fell suddenly. He lunged to grab her instinctively and DD3 slow motion fell down his lap to the floor.
I discovered that out on call pediatrician line is for other doctors only according to the voicemail, freaked out, and called 911. The person they sent said he couldn't really assess her but based on what he saw we could wait and see.
SIL is a pedi, but not local. She reassured me quite a bit. But DD3 is fussy whenever I go remotely near the bump on her poor head.
My poor babies. My poor H. He thinks now social services is going to suspect us. I sure hope they don't. Plus he clearly feels awful.
Ok STM and TTM please tell me the mommy guilt gets easier and right now it's just the PP hormones. Since I'm BF a lot of his care falls on me which means DD gets neglected and DH has to handle her care. So I feel guilty as I hear her crying for me. Then I feel guilty that DH is doing extra work..which is silly bc I'm doing just as much work just with the DS. With one it was so easy to take turns, with two it's a learning curve with tag teaming. So basically tell me it gets easier.
So much easier. I have my big two on the same schedule, so the work is about 1.2 times the work of one kid for them instead of 2. It takes time and it happens in increments but you get there.
Worst evening ever. DH was holding DD3 upright with DD2 also in his lap. DD2 fell suddenly. He lunged to grab her instinctively and DD3 slow motion fell down his lap to the floor.
I discovered that out on call pediatrician line is for other doctors only according to the voicemail, freaked out, and called 911. The person they sent said he couldn't really assess her but based on what he saw we could wait and see.
SIL is a pedi, but not local. She reassured me quite a bit. But DD3 is fussy whenever I go remotely near the bump on her poor head.
My poor babies. My poor H. He thinks now social services is going to suspect us. I sure hope they don't. Plus he clearly feels awful.
Oh how awful!! Poor kids, and I bet your H feels terrible. So sorry that happened, huge hugs
My kids all have nicknames that just kind of happened organically, but really DH and I are the only ones who use them. DS1 is Toodles, DS2 is Squish, and DD has become Tink, as in Tinkerbell
That's how DD got her nickname..but only I use it. I call her pumpkin. I know DS will end up with one soon enough. Neither of my kids names lend itself to real nicknames or shortened versions.
coffeequeen14 Aw, that's rough that he's experiencing stress from the changes and I hope that everything will resolve soon.
gratefulgirl Accidents happen, though I'd still be mad at my H, and I don't think that DCF is going to come call you!
If you were a toddler...where would you put your iPad? I haven't been able to find DD's iPad (which really was mine before so she got a hand me down for educational apps) for several days and when I realized it was "missing," the battery had already run out so I couldn't use Find my iPad.
gratefulgirl, your poor DH and poor kiddo! Guarantee DD3 feels better before your H does. I remember the first time my DD1 fell from the low futon onto the floor, maybe 8 inches. Far enough to scare me good, upset DD a lot, and make me question my fitness for motherhood quite sincerely. She was fine, it was probably around 4-5 months old. I felt the guilt like crazy.
Nowadays, she flings herself off the couch for funsies. Weirdo.
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Post by annbuhdan on Sept 2, 2016 19:01:45 GMT -5
shanny I am likely to find DD's stuff hidden in random dresser drawers if we lose it. Good luck finding it... I'm sure you have plenty of time to search for it, right?
If you were a toddler...where would you put your iPad? I haven't been able to find DD's iPad (which really was mine before so she got a hand me down for educational apps) for several days and when I realized it was "missing," the battery had already run out so I couldn't use Find my iPad.
I generally find DDs ipad stuck in the couch coushins .
annbuhdancountrycotton I tried both those places! I feel like I've looked everywhere. My mom asked if maybe DD put it in the trash. I don't think she did...we may look in our garbage bin just in case. Yuck.
gratefulgirl I know plenty of people whose babies fell off couches, laps, etc onto the floor (including hardwood) and like others said, the babies were okay and it's more traumatic to the parents. I hope you guys don't feel too hard on yourselves. Before R was born, we had visited a couple friends and my H held toddler DD and their babies...when DD squirmed, he kind of went for her, forgetting about the other baby's lack of head control such that the other babies (this happened with two different families) face planted. Of course the babies were okay, but it happens...I was mad at H, but mostly because it was someone else's baby so it looked bad.
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Post by gratefulgirl on Sept 2, 2016 20:28:33 GMT -5
After lots of snuggles and comfort nursing, DD3 seems sore but OK. She's behaving normally and the goose egg on her little head has gone down quite a bit.
After lots of snuggles and comfort nursing, DD3 seems sore but OK. She's behaving normally and the goose egg on her little head has gone down quite a bit.
You probably already know this, but arnica gel is amazing for bumps and bruises
gratefulgirl, I'm so sorry that happened. Accidents happen b fell off the bed when she was tiny. I felt terrible, but she was fine. I didn't tell DH until a few weeks later after a few drinks.
LO had a docs appt today. He has "penile adhesions" and we have to take him to a pediatric urologist. She said his reflux and gas issues are most likely overactive letdown/he eats so fast. He's up to 9lbs 15oz, so even with him throwing up he's gaining weight. She said his weight gain is "tremendous". It's all in his chunky cheeks!
@suesposa, hugs. I honestly love the squishy baby stage, but my older DD is just so much more expressive, so much more able to give back the emotional input, that it is a whole other world. Tiny babies have no experience other than themselves, but the older they get, the more fun if is. Until they are teenagers, at least, I hear.
On the other hand, I asked my mom today if I could keep DD2 3 days old forever. I got laughed at.
gratefulgirl I hope your LO is feeling better! I have been petrified one of my girls will drop the baby. Your poor H. I doubt social services would even be called. Most offices are to overloaded in cases to follow up on things like this.
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