Still feeling blue?

[ahayden1230]

LO will be 6 weeks saturday and I'm still having bouts of unexplained tears...... Feeling lonely at home all day by myself with LO. Don't get me wrong I love him more then ever and feel extremely blessed. I'm not sure why I still feel sad?? It's making it tough because I have anxiety when my husband has to work late and is gone for 12 hours..... Anyone else feel this way or is it time for me to talk to my MW about this?

[josephssweetie]

I would talk to your midwife. You don't have to feel that way! Are there any new mom groups in your area or early childhood programs that would get you out of the house and talking to other moms at least once a week? Good for you for recognizing your feelings so early. It took me a lot longer with my first.

[elleno95]

I still feel that way. Actually it sounds as if we're almost in the same situation. FI works all day, it's just me and LO here, and right now we aren't in the financial situation to buy me a car so I feel really lonely. Also a lot of anxiety but I had issues before I was pregnant. Hoping it passes soon, but I have my six week appointment Tuesday and see if she thinks it's normal.

[jenh524]

I would talk to your midwife. They usually say by 2 weeks postpartum the baby blues should be starting to disappear. I would also suggest trying to get out of the house every day, even if it is just a trip to the store. Leaving the house is a good thing.

[littlelion]

At 5 wks PP I was still feeling blue. I wouldn't cry all day or anything like that. But occassionally cried esp when dh worked late or went out. And he never understood why taking care of our baby would stress me out. We had problems having a baby so he thought I should be happy/grateful.

I talked to my dr and she wasn't too concerned. And then I talked to my sisters. They encouraged me to go out even if just to their house for a short visit. And one sister told me it was ok to want a break from baby and ok to vent. That helped me alot. And I chose her to confide in since dh just couldn't understand.

Talk to your mw and find someone a friend or family to talk to as well. And like others said, find a reason to leave the house it does wonders. Now at 11 wks PP I feel completely back to normal. And I still make myself leave the house at least every other day.

Hope you feel better!

[lasawyer91]

I'm in the same boat. My husband has been really helpful but I'm going to make an appointment if it doesn't get any better soon. I randomly cry, I feel inadequate. Being so tired doesn't help at all. I find it easier if I take some time for myself every day, even a shower can make a girl feel completely different

[elleswarth]

It's ok to feel this way ladies. Your life just completely changed. You're responsible for another life, which adds so many new thoughts and emotions. Just take it day by day and remember that if you are able to wake up every morning, then you're doing it right Take walks, talk to family/friends, have them over or go see them. Having things that break up your day of sitting at home with baby help. Once LO gets on a sleep schedule and you're getting more sleep yourself, that will help as well. I think I started to feel like "myself" again around 2-3 months with our first. And it's okay to feel sad or cry once in a while. Those are valid emotions that you shouldn't feel bad or ashamed for having them.

[dashook]

So sorry you're feeling this way and you are definitely not alone. My "blues" have eased up tremendously from the first few weeks, but at 5 weeks pp I am still having difficult moments at least once a week. I recognize that my breakdowns are triggered by particularly sleepless nights as well as my husband working late (which is pretty much every night) which sometimes gives me crazy anxiety about how I am going to handle DS for that many hours without a break. For me, getting out of the house really does help, as does talking to others going through similar things (my new mothers group IRL, or Facebook/this forum for online support).

It's really good to recognize your feelings and it certainly can't hurt to talk to your MW about it. Even though I'm fairly certain that what I'm still going through is normal and not PPD, I am still going to mention it to my doctor at my 6 week checkup.

[4littlebears]

For me, they're getting worse. Maybe it's since my mom left. But I just couldn't do anything yesterday outside of holding and caring for S. Now I just had a flashback to an embarrassing situation that I totally handled the wrong way and I want to cry about it all over again even though it was 6 years ago. I'm not doing too well this week. DH and I are fighting all the time. He just made me a lovely breakfast this morning and I couldn't even kiss him. And I yelled at him for leaving his magazine in the wrong place (mostly yelled because he was upstairs from me, but still) ugh. I'm not sure if it's good to unload that or not.

[grommom]

Feb 11, 2015 9:36:00 GMT -5 ahayden1230 said:

LO will be 6 weeks saturday and I'm still having bouts of unexplained tears...... Feeling lonely at home all day by myself with LO. Don't get me wrong I love him more then ever and feel extremely blessed. I'm not sure why I still feel sad?? It's making it tough because I have anxiety when my husband has to work late and is gone for 12 hours..... Anyone else feel this way or is it time for me to talk to my MW about this?

I still well up when I see a picture of my sweet doggie that passed on in October but the majority of the sobbing is over now that dh parents have left, they were seriously crappy to him growing up and really don't seem to care about him or his sister, eg dh sister came over and brought her puppy because my son loves her puppy and their mom stayed in the bedroom and refused to visit with her own daughter who she rarely sees because she thought it might upset her Pomeranian to be near the puppy. Seriously that woman only loves her dogs and I hope they're able to care for her when she gets old because I'm not doing it. I get that she was helpful in watching ds when we were in the hospital but she shows no love for her kids and it made me cry daily to think about what an awful childhood dh had and the disappointing relationship they've had as adults. My parents are super loving and really care about dh. Dh's step Dad was saying how he was a great parent because he controlled his temper and never hit dh with a switch...yeah that sounds like A+ parenting right there. I guess he was better than his own Dad but I can't even imagine growing up like that.