Post by theotherjacobsons on Sept 11, 2016 13:56:51 GMT -5
Baby still showing no signs of arrival. Yesterday was my due date. I went to a baby shower instead. The mom to be is carrying differently than me, but I carry "small". People were like, oh are you due at the same time? Nope, today! It's super awkward when people talk about size, but they still do it! Seriously, stahp.
Post by singingsea on Sept 11, 2016 14:35:07 GMT -5
I'm having a really rough day. Between hormones and pain from tearing I'm all over the place.
Since we brought the baby home DS has been seriously acting out. I mean he's great with R. He hugs and kisses him all the time and wants to be around him. It's with us that's the problem. Not listening and disobeying. I feel like my relationship with my first born has fundamentally changed and he can feel it too and we're both grappling with it. I got them both down for a nap and instead of sleeping I'm ugly crying. Yay hormones! I know this is temporary and we'll all adjust but right now it just hurts because this is supposed to be a happy time and it's all so bittersweet. I never realized how many different emotions were going to come into play and I'm overwhelmed.
Anyway sorry to be a buzz kill. Second and third time mom's please chime in. I need hair pats. And wine. Which I have but it's only 3:30.
Post by theotherjacobsons on Sept 11, 2016 14:39:01 GMT -5
singingsea I have no actual experience as I don't have a 2nd outside baby yet, but I do remember that it doesn't take much to cry in those first few weeks. I'm sure things will normalize soon. Im sorry that it sucks right now.
theotherjacobsons, I also hate the comments about belly size, especially comparisons
6 days past my due date and I'm so sick of texts/emails/phone calls from everyone we know asking if I'm in labor or if the baby is here yet. I've been contacted in some way by 7 people so far today. Yesterday 13 different people reached out to ask. I'm tempted to post on Facebook that we are not responding to any more messages and no, it does not mean the baby is here or that we are at the hospital.
Me: 28, all tests normal DH: 34, very low count, motility, morphology DX - MFI 11/14/09 - Married 01/01/14 - TTC #1 01/06/15 - Started working with RE 04/06/15 - Recommendation - straight to IVF w/ICSI 09/04/15 - Started working with new RE Nov/Dec 15 - IVF w/ ICSI #1 - 11R/8F - 1 transferred, 3 frozen
Post by lovetruly2015 on Sept 11, 2016 14:54:48 GMT -5
Just found out my SIL is apparently so comfortable with baby jack that she has repositioned his head and nose prongs on occasion. I know I should just be happy that they are paying attention to things like that when they come to see him. But all I can think is please don't touch my son you don't know what your doing. Sometimes I really dislike how mean my thoughts sound.
LadyNymeria, the best part is half of the people reaching out are friends who I have assured each time will know when the baby is here. They also have their own babies and know how uncomfortable it is at the end and how annoying it is to have people constantly asking. I just don't get it.
Me: 28, all tests normal DH: 34, very low count, motility, morphology DX - MFI 11/14/09 - Married 01/01/14 - TTC #1 01/06/15 - Started working with RE 04/06/15 - Recommendation - straight to IVF w/ICSI 09/04/15 - Started working with new RE Nov/Dec 15 - IVF w/ ICSI #1 - 11R/8F - 1 transferred, 3 frozen
Post by jennybeans on Sept 11, 2016 15:07:40 GMT -5
Everyone including the dog took a nap today at the same time. It was glorious.
We went to the playground this morning and a Mexican restaurant for lunch. I nursed in public for the first time with E and it wasn't terrible. She got frustrated and didn't eat a ton though - I've got to get used to doing that again so it's easier and less awkward!!
Me: 28, all tests normal DH: 34, very low count, motility, morphology DX - MFI 11/14/09 - Married 01/01/14 - TTC #1 01/06/15 - Started working with RE 04/06/15 - Recommendation - straight to IVF w/ICSI 09/04/15 - Started working with new RE Nov/Dec 15 - IVF w/ ICSI #1 - 11R/8F - 1 transferred, 3 frozen
MIL leaves today after being here for the week. While I totally appreciate all the help, I totally can't wait until she's gone and we can just be our family. I had a meltdown on Thursday and these last couple of days with her here have been almost painful. I just want our privacy and to enjoy our 3 girls without someone hovering.
Post by merryrissmas on Sept 11, 2016 16:10:07 GMT -5
singingsea, big hugs. I remember it being heartbreaking to not be able to give my DD enough attention when DS1 was a newborn, and her behavior definitely showed it, which was so hard to deal with. The best advice I got at that time was from my boss (a father of 4), which was to minimize your reactions to your older child's "bad" behaviors (as much as possible anyway) and just heap on the praise and attention when he's showing good behaviors, especially those related to the baby. It's really hard, for sure. You'll find your new normal, but until then, big hugs to you.
Post by merryrissmas on Sept 11, 2016 16:14:31 GMT -5
mc13, I felt that way with my mom and MIL both times. It's so hard to have someone else in your space when you're trying to reach equilibrium, no matter how much you love that person, it's totally normal to just want them to leave.
lovetruly2015, I think your reactions to your SIL touching Jackson are totally understandable! I would feel the same way!
Post by beckyrosen on Sept 11, 2016 16:33:24 GMT -5
singingsea we are struggling with DD too after coming home with the baby. It's been 2 weeks now, and it's gotten better, but she's still acting out more than she used to. I assume it's her way of getting attention. I'm sure it will get better, but it's hard right now. Just wanted to let you know I understand what you're going through.
Post by beckyrosen on Sept 11, 2016 16:33:56 GMT -5
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As for me, contractions have tapered off, though they were fairly hot and heavy for a bit. Never got more frequent than 6 minutes apart and never lasted the full minute. But I did find that counting how long they lasted helped me get through it, so I'll be utilizing that when the time comes.
For now, just getting a pedicure. Also did a quick Target run to buy a new pair of stretchy pants for comfort.
lovetruly2015 I'd feel the same way. Are you going to mention it to her?
pismoduo yes, she's totally waiting so you could get a pedicure. Good luck tonight!
So I finally got bit by the nesting bug. I've been dusting and reorganizing like crazy. I made room in a couple drawers in my room for extra onesies, blankets, diapers and burp rags. The boys will be sharing a room so I want to have extra things in my room and downstairs. I'm resting right now while I'm on hold with our stupid, soon-to-be former cable company. Then I'm going to rearrange the pantry and boil the bottles and nipples.
lovetruly2015 I'd feel the same way. Are you going to mention it to her?
pismoduo yes, she's totally waiting so you could get a pedicure. Good luck tonight!
So I finally got bit by the nesting bug. I've been dusting and reorganizing like crazy. I made room in a couple drawers in my room for extra onesies, blankets, diapers and burp rags. The boys will be sharing a room so I want to have extra things in my room and downstairs. I'm resting right now while I'm on hold with our stupid, soon-to-be former cable company. Then I'm going to rearrange the pantry and boil the bottles and nipples.
This was me yesterday. But MIL has been nesting for weeks now, so aside from finally finishing the nursery there wasn't much to do.
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