Post by xoxolicia on Mar 14, 2015 14:00:28 GMT -5
At this point, it's not about sleep. He thinks he doesn't have to get up with the baby because he works. I try to be nice and let him sleep, but If I ask you to get up and get a bottle, do it. Don't be a jerk by asking why I can't do it myself when I have an inconsolable baby in my arms while you're just lying there. I will cut you mister.
This. I am very kind to my DH and he has never helped with a MOTN feeding. I make him very aware of how fortunate he is and to be grateful. Although, some nights I just let LO scream it out for a minute because I am frustrated and I want DH to wake up and see what I deal with. It's cruel but, it's necessary.
I had a breakdown with DH last week. He always says invite my mom over more so you can get stuff done. I explained to him that having his mom come over is not getting him out of dealing with LO when he gets home from work. I made it clear that he needs to deal with LO for at least an hour when he gets home. Not only for my sanity but, hello bond with your own damn child every day!!!
He used to come home and say in a sarcastic tone "looks like you got a lot done today." Argh, that would get my blood boiling especially on days where LO had to be in my arms the entire day. He does not say that anymore since he takes care of LO every night.
All of this. I give him 30 minutes when he gets home to get himself together. By the time he gets home I need to eat, use the bathroom, and shower. DD is a good baby, but she doesn't like to be too far from me. I find it hard to even eat because by the time I set foot in the kitchen, she's crying.
DH will maybe hold her for about 10 minutes also. He then puts her in her swing or cosleeper. Of course she starts crying and he tries to hand her off to me with the "she must be hungry" ploy. I guess it's because I'm sleeping So much during the day that I forget to feed my child... Stupid me.
Then he makes comments like, "Oh, you must be tired from napping all day." I didn't have the energy to defend myself this morning mostly because I wanted to physically hurt him. I just put the screaming baby right next to his face and hid in the bathroom. He's lucky I did that because He could have had to explain to his boss why he has a black eye today. I'm not a violent person normally.
I don't think he understands that he's sucking right now. I'm trying to be understanding and accommodating, but he needs to step it up for real.