NellieOleson I am so glad you have a great relationship with your in laws. Do they live quite far from you?
They live in northern Minnesota, winter in Florida. We live in Oregon, so yes - pretty far!
I mean, I'm sure they would drive me crazy if we lived close to them, too, but in a normal family-drives-you-crazy way, if you know what I mean. They have three kids - my H is the youngest, and it's always so nice hanging out with all of them together. They are a good example of how to be parents to adult children.
They will actually be out here at the end of next week and I'm super excited to see them. My MIL is so great with kids and they will watch the girls so my H and I can get some alone time.
The only thing I'm worried about is keeping the political talk to a minimum. I'm afraid I will say something I might regret if my FIL starts in on BENGAZI! EMAILS! Blah blah blah. We are completely opposite politically.
Post by sjames2015 on Sept 13, 2016 23:50:30 GMT -5
scorpioscuba DD1 did that all the time as a baby and now she understands the camera so she will stare at it and talk to us. DD2 appears to stare at it too. I'm guessing it's the light that they stare at.
Post by crimsonandclover on Sept 14, 2016 0:42:02 GMT -5
scorpioscuba, once when DD1 was a baby and crying I turned on the video and just saw a huge eye. It made me jump At the time she was still pretty immobile and we had the camera in the crib with her for lack of a better place, but I moved it out after that! I definitely think it's the light.
Yeah, my parents are/were awesome, but they're across an ocean. My ILs are well-meaning whack-a-doos, and my MIL has no filter and no concept of boundaries when it comes to other people (her own for her are just fine). I'm sure I told you all how she was on-call to watch BIL/SIL's DD1 while SIL had her DD2, and she found that too stressful not knowing when she would have to be there. So she told us she would not be available for emergencies and we shouldn't even call her (like: ever in the future, not just at that time), and then when I was pregnant with DD3 said clearly several times without us having asked that she would not be willing to watch DD1+2 for the birth. Sigh.
I am reading the book Real.Baby.Food. It's actually really good but kind of making me anxious and overwhelmed about feeding my kid. haha true story. :/ I never cook. I did make a squash purée this weekend. LO won't eat it!
Just keep trying. J usually doesn't like things the first night. The second night he will eat it right up.
Post by silverspoon on Sept 14, 2016 4:23:31 GMT -5
crimsonandclover I hope you get more sleep tonight. It sounds like she basically just didn't sleep last night.
Your MIL sounds fun. I can't even imagine our parents telling us they would be unable to ever help in an emergency especially unprompted. It's an emergency. No one plans to have one.
scorpioscuba - I already had my first cup of coffee - now I'm on to herbal tea!
Although my Mom is a whack a doodle, my Dad is awesome - and I'm so thankful for him. They are still together because we are devout Catholics. My ILs are ok. Just like NellieOleson - they drive me crazy but it's in the way that family members just drive you crazy. I had to have a Come to Jesus talk with my MIL when she took it upon herself to clean out our master bathroom, without asking, when we were not home. I took it as a huge invasion of privacy and told her she couldn't stay with us for a year. Now we are ok - she has major boundary issues but she's learning to respect where my boundaries are.
Post by sjames2015 on Sept 14, 2016 9:56:19 GMT -5
My parents were the most awesome parents/friends up until DD1 was born. And they haven't ever gone back to being great parents/grandparents. My in laws are decent people. For the first year of DD1's life they lived in another state so we rarely saw them. Then they moved 10 blocks away from us. We have good times and bad times. Mil can be super helpful and nice and then the next day be super judgy and then she seems to have a memory problem or a listening problem. On her annoying days she asks the same question 10 times in a few hour period then asked it 20 different ways. (Ex curtains in DD2's room....... Mil Are you leaving those curtains in her? Me no not sure what we will put in here yet. I'm thinking pink curtains. Mil Are you changing the curtains? ...... Mil those curtains don't match the room, are you changing them? Mil what are you doing with the window? ). And it goes on and on. I think that type of conversation usually takes place within 2 hours. All of her kids know she either has a memory or listening problem but if you say something she gets butt hurt and won't talk to anyone. Just like my h. Hahahaha. Sadly mil is more helpful than my own mom so I call her for help more often. Such a cutie silverspoon!
Post by dizzycooks on Sept 14, 2016 10:40:40 GMT -5
scorpioscuba I could drink all the coffee every day. 545 here and while feeding dd3 I see dd1&2 get up to go potty. Of course they heard me leave baby's room and that was it for the night. Funny anecdote: dd1: if you go potty I'll give you your acorn back. Dd2: ok! (Pees) dd2: my acorn? Dd1 snuggle me? Dd1: ok but it's bedtime we have to sleep... Me in the other room laughing for days....
Post by NellieOleson on Sept 14, 2016 10:54:38 GMT -5
14joa31 - oh man. I forgot about your MIL and her crazy cleaning and post it notes. That's completely whack-a-doodle in my book, but I admire your handling of it and that you stand up for yourself!
crimsonandclover - Ugh to your MIL. That's got to be even tougher since your family is so very far away. Also, inquiring minds want to know... What kind of slippers do adults show up to your house with?
I am reading the book Real.Baby.Food. It's actually really good but kind of making me anxious and overwhelmed about feeding my kid. haha true story. :/ I never cook. I did make a squash purée this weekend. LO won't eat it!
Just keep trying. J usually doesn't like things the first night. The second night he will eat it right up.
Post by tinydancer on Sept 14, 2016 12:12:57 GMT -5
It's our moving day today. Everything is in chaos. H and I are adjusting to being back together, and of course the chaos is not helping. So I'm with those of you having trouble with your Hs. Hopefully time will help.
On a different note, I prefer to have no outdoor shoes inside the house, and I wish more people had indoor slippers like in Germany. A lot of Asian households do this too and I just think it makes so much sense.
Im so sick. I need my bed. Im waiting for my mom to come this afternoon. kids are fussy, im not tolerating shit, and it's getting cold outside. Over today. End rant, sorry girls.
14joa31 - oh man. I forgot about your MIL and her crazy cleaning and post it notes. That's completely whack-a-doodle in my book, but I admire your handling of it and that you stand up for yourself!
crimsonandclover - Ugh to your MIL. That's got to be even tougher since your family is so very far away. Also, inquiring minds want to know... What kind of slippers do adults show up to your house with?
Either they bring their regular ones from home or they bring "travel" ones, which are basically the same as a lot of people have in their house as extras for guests:
I don't like that they're pretty much just hardened felt and the bottoms are very slippery. I've almost wiped out on the stairs at my ILs before when I've forgotten my slippers and borrowed their guest ones.
icequeen - so sorry that you are feeling so crappy - hope that your Mom gets there soon! crimsonandclover - it's 3pm here, and I'm fighting the urge to pop open a bottle of blush ... tinydancer - GL with moving day! That has got to be such a lot of work!!
I usually never whine about being sick and always just suck it up with no meds but this is just crazy. Ive been sick more times this past month than i have been in 10 years.
Post by crimsonandclover on Sept 14, 2016 14:18:16 GMT -5
icequeen, I suppose since your DD just started preschool it's a bit early, but the first year or two the DDs were in daycare / preschool I got sick so. much. We had the stomach flu in the house 4 times in one year. The first time we all got it, the next time it was me and the girls, the third time just the girls, and the fourth time only DD2. It was like watching our immune systems get stronger. In general stress and a lack of sleep make my immune system crash and I get sick, so basically me + babies = me getting sick all the time.
I hope your mom gets there soon and you can get some rest to feel better!!
tinydancer - good luck with the move! Moving is the worst, and moving with a baby is a special kind of suckiness. We moved when dd1 was 5 months old and everything took about three times longer than usual.
Lollipop - where you at, woman? I hope all is okay and your ds is enjoying kindergarten.
My stress and anxiety level has been at an all time high lately. I had an annual GYN exam this morning and talked to the nurse practitioner about it. She gave me some ideas on how to deal and just saying it out loud made me feel a little better. I'm telling MH tonight that I'm carving out some "me" time every week to go to yoga or Pilates.
Post by NellieOleson on Sept 14, 2016 18:52:04 GMT -5
My big girl is getting her final molars in, so that must explain the ultra fussy toddler times lately. She also is sick, but I'm not sure what's wrong. Her lips are super chapped and she has a few little red spots around her mouth - is this how hand foot and mouth starts??!
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