I have a swaddling question too. DD doesn't seem to like being swaddled, but she doesn't sleep well if we don't. We've been using a muslin blanket to swaddle her and it helps her sleep as long as she is mostly asleep with we put her in it. But sometimes she gets annoyed (usually around 3 AM) and fusses and wriggles around until her arms are free. She hates the Velcro swaddle we have, she kicks her legs around and gets agitated trying to free herself from it. when we tried putting her to sleep unswaddled she flails her arms and legs around and constantly wakes herself up.
Is there something else I can try or will she eventually get use to the swaddle? Or is the nightly wrestling with the swaddle something I will have to put up with until the startle reflex is gone?
I have a swaddling question too. DD doesn't seem to like being swaddled, but she doesn't sleep well if we don't. We've been using a muslin blanket to swaddle her and it helps her sleep as long as she is mostly asleep with we put her in it. But sometimes she gets annoyed (usually around 3 AM) and fusses and wriggles around until her arms are free. She hates the Velcro swaddle we have, she kicks her legs around and gets agitated trying to free herself from it. when we tried putting her to sleep unswaddled she flails her arms and legs around and constantly wakes herself up.
Is there something else I can try or will she eventually get use to the swaddle? Or is the nightly wrestling with the swaddle something I will have to put up with until the startle reflex is gone?
DD seems to get fed up with the swaddle in the early am too. I just let her have one arm free and don't tuck the blanket under her legs. She'll go from her 4am feed till about 7 or 8 am like that so I don't fight it. She gets a tight swaddle at bed time (8pm) and again at her midnight feeding, but by 4 she's done lol.
Post by lennonkdc on Sept 12, 2016 14:52:25 GMT -5
DH stayed home from work today, he claimed it was because of a stomach ache, but I think he needed a mental health/ bond with daughter day. We *ahem* had words yesterday because he basically played video games and ignored us all weekend. His side was that if I needed help all of had to do was ask, that I was just sort of 'taking over' and that until he can give her a bottle there isn't much he can do. So today I backed off and just stepped in for feedings. They've done activity time, he's practiced carrying her in the ring sling, and he's currently hanging out with her while I play with my phone in the bath lol. Tonight he gives her her first bottle and I'm excited for them to bond, but also a little sad that she's taking another step towards independence. But it means I can sit in peace and pump with a glass of wine, so at least I have that as a consolation lol
I have a swaddling question too. DD doesn't seem to like being swaddled, but she doesn't sleep well if we don't. We've been using a muslin blanket to swaddle her and it helps her sleep as long as she is mostly asleep with we put her in it. But sometimes she gets annoyed (usually around 3 AM) and fusses and wriggles around until her arms are free. She hates the Velcro swaddle we have, she kicks her legs around and gets agitated trying to free herself from it. when we tried putting her to sleep unswaddled she flails her arms and legs around and constantly wakes herself up.
Is there something else I can try or will she eventually get use to the swaddle? Or is the nightly wrestling with the swaddle something I will have to put up with until the startle reflex is gone?
Try the Woombie. DD3 is the same but actually seems to like the Woombie. We have the cheaper Comfort and Harmony one.
Post by dc2london on Sept 12, 2016 15:52:25 GMT -5
I have never seen my DD pitch a fit like she did the time I tried to swaddle her after a bath. She is a very chill little girl but she got PISSED when I swaddled her and fought that thing like crazy. It's strange. My kids love to be swaddled for about 5 days, and then they want no part of it anymore.
Post by bocaburger on Sept 12, 2016 16:55:42 GMT -5
1 month pediatrician appointment today and I can't believe how much they've grown! G has grown more than 2 lb since birth and M has gained 3 lb! Little chunkers!
Sooo baby that's lactose intolerant is a nightmare. I had him on soy switched to lactose free formula and oh my god he is miserable in so much pain it seems so back to soy we go.
Does anyone have a baby who arches when they cry after eating? Could this be silent reflux or am I looking at cp or something??
1 month pediatrician appointment today and I can't believe how much they've grown! G has grown more than 2 lb since birth and M has gained 3 lb! Little chunkers!
I swaddle to start the night, but around 4 am I hear him grunting to be free. Unfortunately at 4 he's up more frequent, but that happens swaddle or no swaddle.
Sooo baby that's lactose intolerant is a nightmare. I had him on soy switched to lactose free formula and oh my god he is miserable in so much pain it seems so back to soy we go.
Does anyone have a baby who arches when they cry after eating? Could this be silent reflux or am I looking at cp or something??
Arching is a symptom of silent reflux, or gas. I'm new, what is cp?
I suspected silent reflux with LO because of the arching after feeds. He never spit up, but was visibly uncomfortable. I did the usual--pace the feeding with frequent burps, holf upright after eating, etc with no change. He's on zantac now and I've seen a big improvement.
Cerebral palsy someone mentioned to me arching is a symptom.
And oh I'm so glad to hear that! Does your lo sleep flat at night?
Sooo baby that's lactose intolerant is a nightmare. I had him on soy switched to lactose free formula and oh my god he is miserable in so much pain it seems so back to soy we go.
Does anyone have a baby who arches when they cry after eating? Could this be silent reflux or am I looking at cp or something??
Arching is a symptom of silent reflux, or gas. I'm new, what is cp?
I suspected silent reflux with LO because of the arching after feeds. He never spit up, but was visibly uncomfortable. I did the usual--pace the feeding with frequent burps, holf upright after eating, etc with no change. He's on zantac now and I've seen a big improvement.
Cerebral palsy someone mentioned to me arching is a symptom.
And oh I'm so glad to hear that! Does your lo sleep flat at night?
All 3 of mine have arched and cried after eating and nobody has any signs of CP, if that helps at all
Cerebral palsy someone mentioned to me arching is a symptom.
And oh I'm so glad to hear that! Does your lo sleep flat at night?
Oh wow I had never thought about that. He sleeps mostly flat? Sometimes he sleeps on his side, but more often he's been making it onto his belly. Idk if you're asking about a RnP or something but he only sleeps in my bed or his PnP, so both flat surfaces. No incline.
Awesome thank you! Yes I've been sleeping him In a swing or bouncer and it seems to help but heading to the doc tomorrow to beg for some drugs!
Hi. Thanks for all the well wishes Day 1 survived. I am so tired and fighting back sleep while I hold a very fussy DD. My first class of the day is so nice and then it goes downhill from there. They are not bad kids but it's a lot of big personalities all together so it's hard for them not to distract each other.
I'm ready for some ice cream then bed (neither happening yet!)
Post by lennonkdc on Sept 12, 2016 18:17:23 GMT -5
So 30 sec after I posted DH came into the bathroom with a crying baby...then tonight's attempt at bottle feeding wasn't great. DH is now frustrated and annoyed bc DD just gets fussy and cries whenever he holds her. They had a good morning, but this afternoon she's back to fussing every.damn.time. he holds her. Tonight I passed her off after a feeding, she was out cold. I went to the kitchen to finish dinner and she starts crying. I wanted to give him space to sooth her and figure it out. I went back when it was quiet, and he was so annoyed and frustrated that he gave up and put her in her swing. He told me "hes done with bonding for the night." I'm so worried that because he had to go back to work when she was 5 days old that they have missed some critical bonding window. I don't know what to do to encourage their bonding, or if I should just let it go and stop forcing the issue. Having him take more time off work isn't an option (no paid paternity leave, FMLA isn't financially viable). I'll have him keep trying with a bottle but other then that I'm at a loss...
So 30 sec after I posted DH came into the bathroom with a crying baby...then tonight's attempt at bottle feeding wasn't great. DH is now frustrated and annoyed bc DD just gets fussy and cries whenever he holds her. They had a good morning, but this afternoon she's back to fussing every.damn.time. he holds her. Tonight I passed her off after a feeding, she was out cold. I went to the kitchen to finish dinner and she starts crying. I wanted to give him space to sooth her and figure it out. I went back when it was quiet, and he was so annoyed and frustrated that he gave up and put her in her swing. He told me "hes done with bonding for the night." I'm so worried that because he had to go back to work when she was 5 days old that they have missed some critical bonding window. I don't know what to do to encourage their bonding, or if I should just let it go and stop forcing the issue. Having him take more time off work isn't an option (no paid paternity leave, FMLA isn't financially viable). I'll have him keep trying with a bottle but other then that I'm at a loss...
No, I don't think they missed a critical window or anything. As chill as my baby is, in the evening, she only wants me. My H adores her and is a seasoned baby-soother, but she will often fuss and fuss at this time of day until she is snuggled up to me.it just happens that way with some kids. And dads, IME, really "click" with kids on a whole new level around 18 months and then it is all daddy, all the time. They will find their groove. And I am super proud of you for givimg your H space to sink or swim with her. As a FTM, I was not so wise
lennonkdc your DH might just be the kind who will bond more as LO gets older. I'd back off for now. Or you might have to leave the house for him to feel more confident in his care of LO.
Post by lennonkdc on Sept 12, 2016 19:15:13 GMT -5
Thanks dc2london and meagpt22, I feel better knowing they probably haven't missed some critical window. I'll back off for now, maybe we'll even postpone the next bottle attempt for few days. And as for giving him space, it was hard to not rush in to the room and try to 'save' him. But he's her parent too, he'll figure it out and if he needs help he'll ask.
So 30 sec after I posted DH came into the bathroom with a crying baby...then tonight's attempt at bottle feeding wasn't great. DH is now frustrated and annoyed bc DD just gets fussy and cries whenever he holds her. They had a good morning, but this afternoon she's back to fussing every.damn.time. he holds her. Tonight I passed her off after a feeding, she was out cold. I went to the kitchen to finish dinner and she starts crying. I wanted to give him space to sooth her and figure it out. I went back when it was quiet, and he was so annoyed and frustrated that he gave up and put her in her swing. He told me "hes done with bonding for the night." I'm so worried that because he had to go back to work when she was 5 days old that they have missed some critical bonding window. I don't know what to do to encourage their bonding, or if I should just let it go and stop forcing the issue. Having him take more time off work isn't an option (no paid paternity leave, FMLA isn't financially viable). I'll have him keep trying with a bottle but other then that I'm at a loss...
So DH did not bond with DD2 I was freaking out because he had/has a very close bond with DD1 and he didn't bond with DD2 for months. There were lots of factors. So I figured that DD2 would never be bonded with DH and I was a mess.
Fast forward to sometime around when DD2 turned one (yes, that long), and something clicked. Part of it was DD2 becoming much more lovable - she was a miserable infant for the entire year pretty much and pretty hard to love. And now they are buddies.
Some of my friends have made the claim that dads bond when kids hit about age 3. It's hardly universally or even totally true, but I do think there's a grain of truth to it.
kaitkat if the incline was helping I would definitely think reflux. The meds may not be the magic that fixes the problem, but it certainly doesn't hurt to try. My pedi doesn't like to prescribe but I demanded it and I'm glad I did. I think it was @gratefulgrl that had mixed results with her babies.
Good luck
I had mixed results with one kid. The medicine helped some - we noticed a difference. But honestly DD2 was just fussy until she could walk. I seriously think she spent her entire infancy being ticked off that she couldn't walk on her feet. Even crawling didn't make her happy.
That said, she was less miserable on the meds than off of them for the first 6 months.
Post by lennonkdc on Sept 12, 2016 19:18:41 GMT -5
@suesposa, I think I'll plan a quick outing for this weekend. She's less fussy in the morning so maybe I'll run out to get us coffee and pastries, give him a chance to figure her out.
Sooo baby that's lactose intolerant is a nightmare. I had him on soy switched to lactose free formula and oh my god he is miserable in so much pain it seems so back to soy we go.
Does anyone have a baby who arches when they cry after eating? Could this be silent reflux or am I looking at cp or something??
I'm sorry you're dealing with this especially with another newborn and a toddler to care for!
DD2 has a smallish mouth and doesn't like to open it terribly widely to eat. Then, she sometimes eats in a 5-10 minute window then is done for that 3 hour chunk. I was starting to be concerned whether she was eating enough, especially paired with fairly outstanding sleep at night (for a newborn).
We had her 2 week checkup today, and my worries were totally put to bed. Not only is she back to birthweight, but she is comfortably over. She was 8lb11oz at birth, 8lb1oz 3 days later, and today at 13 days old, she is 8lb14oz. I am thrilled! I guess she is just really efficient at the boob, lazy mouth and all.
DD1 took awhile to get back to birthweight, and despite being a totally average 8lb at birth, she fell off the growth chart curve from 50% down to about 10% until fairly recently. She is edging back into average size territory again, but was such a petite little thing. Little Sister might end up Bigger Sister later in life, lol!
I am loving having my sister here with us, she has taken a huge load of daytime stress off me. We have had real dinners, my dishes keep getting washed, DD1 has gotten out to play or go for walks several times... she tried to let me nap today but DD1 had other ideas, so I am just enjoying a bit of quiet alone time and considering a shower. I am going to hate it when she goes home next week!
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