PGAL/PAIF Check-In (9/13-9/19)

[caer]

Pregnant After Loss / Pregnant After Infertility (PGAL/PAIF) check-in is posted once a week (generally on a Monday) for those of us who have unfortunately experienced a loss or a history of infertility and are now pregnant. Anyone who participates may start the thread each week.

Out of respect to all the ladies here, please add a trigger warning or spoiler if you decide to talk about any living children.

PGAL Mantras

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Today I am pregnant and I love my baby.



I am pregnant until someone tells me otherwise.



My past does not dictate my future. A previous m/c does not mean I will have another m/c.



Just because something sad is happening to another poster, does not mean it will happen to you. We all know m/c and complications are not contagious!



Hope does not make bad things happen" You cannot jinx your pregnancy by creating a ticker, getting excited, or telling someone. Live in the positive!



There is nothing I can do to prevent a m/c from happening. Worrying yourself sick doesn't prevent a m/c. And if (God forbid) it were to happen again, I know I will survive"

How far along are you?

How are you doing Physically/Emotionally?

Any upcoming appointments or tests?

Updates/Questions/Rants/Raves:

GTKY: What was your wedding like? Any regrets? If you're not married, what would you like your wedding to be like?

[kinipela7]

How far along are you? 13 weeks

How are you doing Physically/Emotionally? pretty okay but I don't feel pregnant at all which is kind of awesome but also annoying!

Any upcoming appointments or tests? Oct 4 regular check up - too far away

Updates/Questions/Rants/Raves: Nothing right now

GTKY: What was your wedding like? Any regrets? If you're not married, what would you like your wedding to be like? We got married at a nice mansion that had a really gorgeous outdoor set-up in April. Weather was perfect! I don't regret anything but I wonder if I had to do it over if I would just have our immediate families with us and go to Aruba. I'm so jealous of people's gorgeous beach wedding pics with crystal blue water in the background!

[erinshelley21]

How far along are you: 13 weeks today
How are you doing? Not well emotionally. I was ordered to take it easy this weekend and this week, so Dh has been holding down the fort and it makes me feel guilty. I'm also worried about the bleeding and cramping. My mc last year was very uneventful with only brown spotting for 4-5 days. It even stopped during the limbo period between ultrasounds. OTOH, I had full on bleeding with ds due to a previa so I feel like things could go either way.
Upcoming appointments or tests? Ultrasound tomorrow afternoon to check on things.
Updates/Questions/Rants/Raves: I liked my first pregnancy better because I was so naive and I was pretty clueless.
GTKY: our wedding was wonderful. Ceremony in h's dads backyard and the reception in the yard of the house where I grew up. It was the best day. Everyone wants us to have our wedding again lol. This is probably because we had a full open bar complete with 4 kegs. 3 were floated and only half was left in the 4th.

[caer]

kinipela7 - continuing to think of you. Your wedding sounds lovely.

Thinking of you today erinshelley21. Sending lots of good thoughts your way.

[caer]

How far along are you? 11w6d

How are you doing Physically/Emotionally? Most of the time I'm ok. The one thing that has surprised me is that I still sometimes struggle with announcements, pregnancy talk, etc. I thought getting pregnant again would kind of cure me of all the bad feelings. I mean, I'm much better, but I've just been surprised at how the bad feelings have lingered.

Any upcoming appointments or tests? I had the panorama test done on Monday. They said it would take about 2 weeks for results.

Updates/Questions/Rants/Raves: I need to start pulling out my maternity clothing.

GTKY: What was your wedding like? Any regrets? If you're not married, what would you like your wedding to be like?
We were married in November and got really lucky with an 80 degree day! I loved my wedding but I regret not taking time to eat any of the food. Everyone told me how great it was but I barely tried anything. (Of course, that's probably my pregnant self talking. Give me all the food!)

[sms2524]

erinshelley21 so sorry for all the worries, good luck with your appt today!

caer I am totally with you on telling people. Every time we tell someone new I get a little flutter in my stomach about possibly having to un-tell them. PgAL brain can be tough, all we can do is take it one day at a time! Also, I did Panorama and had my results back in 6 days! Hopefully you'll get yours early too!

How far along are you? 12w2d

How are you doing Physically/Emotionally? Pretty good. Starting to feel like this pregnancy is real, but still scared about something going wrong.

Any upcoming appointments or tests? Next OB appt Oct 4th. Thankfully I have my Doppler to keep me sane!

Updates/Questions/Rants/Raves: Panorama came back normal and we're team pink!

GTKY: What was your wedding like? Any regrets? If you're not married, what would you like your wedding to be like? Absolutely loved my wedding, was at a mansion in RI in the Fall. Biggest regret is not having a videographer, and we tell that to everyone planning their wedding. We love photos and thought that would be enough, but wish we had video of church, speeches, first dances, etc.

[caer]

sms2524 - do you mind if I ask where you are geographically? I'm in PA and they told me that most of the wait time is because my sample has to go to California.

[sms2524]

Sept 14, 2016 7:44:30 GMT -5 caer said:

sms2524 - do you mind if I ask where you are geographically? I'm in PA and they told me that most of the wait time is because my sample has to go to California.

I'm in South Florida. When I initially logged on to the website it told me I'd have results by Tues Sept 6 (11 days after my blood draw, with Monday being a holiday) and I ended up getting them the Thursday before (Sept 1). I've seen others with quicker than expected response times, maybe they're not too busy right now.

[caer]

Sept 14, 2016 10:01:54 GMT -5 sms2524 said:

Sept 14, 2016 7:44:30 GMT -5 caer said:

sms2524 - do you mind if I ask where you are geographically? I'm in PA and they told me that most of the wait time is because my sample has to go to California.

I'm in South Florida. When I initially logged on to the website it told me I'd have results by Tues Sept 6 (11 days after my blood draw, with Monday being a holiday) and I ended up getting them the Thursday before (Sept 1). I've seen others with quicker than expected response times, maybe they're not too busy right now.

Thank you! That gives me hope!

[kinipela7]

erinshelley21 - hope your appointment went well!

[kinipela7]

So I posted a thread about this but my bloodwork came back really wonky and they ordered me to do the Materniti21 test which I got done today but I will have to wait until at least late next week for the results. They said 8-10 business days but I am hoping they will call me by next Friday.

The results from the NT bloodwork gave me a 1:5 chance of having trisomy. My doctor called and talked to me about it and he said that he has only seen 2 people actually have it in the past 30 years. He also said that yes the risk is 1:5 but another way to look at it is there's an 80 percent chance everything is just fine - it's just kind of a we have to wait and see thing. Of course we just had to get these results a day after I told my parents we were pregnant....now i wish I would have waited! Anyway thanks for letting me blab here - this is going to be the longest week of my damn life!

[erinshelley21]

Appointment went well! Baby looks great and no visible bleeding on the vaginal u/s. She saw some during the abdominal one. The placenta is kind of low, so I am on complete pelvic rest, which is more than just no sex. I'm incredibly relieved!!

[callmeKD]

yay erinshelley21!

[glb30]

How far along are you? 12+4

How are you doing? Okay- I'm battling bad headaches that really make it hard to go to work, eat, be normal. Emotionally, I feel like I am getting more worried instead of less. Of course, this is the longest I have gone without an appointment. (I'm on the normal 4 wk. schedule now.) I thought I'd tell people at this point, but I am so scared the heart isn't beating and I just don't know. My husband is anti-Doppler, but I might order one anyway. I'm afraid of not being able to find the HB though.

Upcoming appointments? Not til 9/27. Just a regular OB appointment.

Updates: The genetic testing came back normal- we have a healthy baby GIRL!

GTKY: Our wedding was pretty old fashioned- full mass, reception at my parents country club, band, 300 plus people. In my hometown. I wish we had done the wedding video. I don't know why I thought those were dumb and I'd never want to watch it.....

[glb30]

erinshelley21 great upstate!!!

kinipela7 huge, huge (((hugs))) I hope the results come quickly and this is just a scare!

[madameovary]

12w5d

Things are going well. I had an appointment this morning and he found the hb instantly. I had blood drawn for verifi, and results should be ready in 10-14 days. I was hoping for sooner since I see my side of the family next weekend. I think it's a girl, which would make my mom super excited. I bought a little girl sleeper and was going to wrap it up for her as a surprise, but chances are slim it will be ready by then. If it is a boy I was just going to add it to an upcoming shower gift. My mom will be super bummed I'll be missing my brother's wedding though.

Next appointment just a regular visit in 4 weeks.

One thing that did piss me off is that insurance wants me to pay for my portion of the delivery (normal vaginal, no complications) in full by mid December. Excuse me? Can this two time loss mom get out of first trimester before you start badgering me for money? It's spread out over 4 payments of 65 dollars. This does not include ultrasounds, epidural, etc. Jerks.

My wedding was so fun! It was at a winery and we had minimal decorations but it was still nice. Our ceremony was less than 10 minutes long, and we only left the party for about 20 min to take a few more pictures thend it was eating time. In theory. Other people ate. We kept getting interrupted. Then the best man gave a power point presenation about bonobos. It was....memorable.

[glb30]

madameovary I'm so glad the appointment went well! FWIW, I got my harmony results in 5 days. And K would be super uncomfortable if I had to pay for my delivery before it happened....wtf?!

[callmeKD]

It's almost the due date for my angel baby. And I am having some bright red spotting this morning. Somebody hold me.

[glb30]

callmeKD I'm so sorry you are dealing with spotting, and a loss anniversary at the same time. Remember, spotting can be completely normal. Huge, (((hugs))). Thoughts and prayers the spotting goes away quickly and doesn't come back!

[callmeKD]

I'm at the ER per my OB's instructions.....

[sms2524]

Sept 16, 2016 7:40:34 GMT -5 callmeKD said:

It's almost the due date for my angel baby. And I am having some bright red spotting this morning. Somebody hold me.

Oh no!!! So sorry! Let us know how you make out at the ER!!!

[glb30]

callmeKD glad you are getting checked out- I hope everything is just fine.

[caer]

Thinking of you callmeKD. Please update us when you can.

[skk]

callmeKD Hugs. Sending good thoughts to you!

[skk]

I'm off to my NT scan and am a huge ball of anxiety! I found the HB on the doppler last night, but am still worried about getting bad news. It's DH's birthday and he wasn't able to get off for this appointment so I'm especially scared to face bad news alone...

[caer]

(((Hugs))) skk. Lots of good thoughts being sent your way.

[glb30]

skk I hope the appointment goes well, and you are able to enjoy celebrating your DH's birthday tonight!

[callmeKD]

I'm still here waiting to be seen. Going on 3.5 hours.....

[caer]

Omg callmeKD. That's ridiculous. I hope you got in by now.

[callmeKD]

I'm in a room. Saw a doctor but waiting for a u/s.