I don't think there is anything more frustrating than a DH telling us the baby is hungry. I always tell DH he's not allowed to say it.
We just got a pretty good stretch. She never goes down for more than an hour after her first wake up. I always pull her into bed with me after that because I know she will go right back to sleep. I'm trying to cut that because I don't want her to get used to it... but I really love sleep!!
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Sorry so many are having rough nights! @jerzeygirl329, those MOTN wake-ups that last for hours are the worst. LO seems to alternate between those and refusing to go down at the beginning of the night.
jennybeans, I think I'd be less frustrated if I felt DH was doing better with DD (who is 3 years old and doing fantastic with this transition). He isn't a morning person, so I used to get up with her & let him sleep in. Now that's his job since I do all night wakings for LO. DH is short with her from the second she gets up (which isn't until 7-8 am) & then spends most of the day on his phone seemingly annoyed when she asks him to play with her. She's at DC M-F, so he only has to really deal with her on weekends. Plus he's getting a full night's sleep every night, only working 2-3 days a week for the next few weeks, and gets time to himself at the gym almost every day. I would very happily trade with him so that I was on toddler duty, but he can't feed LO (or settle him most of the time), so that's a no-go. Often that means I'm nursing LO & engaging with DD because I'm sick of DH snapping at her when it's totally unwarranted. Sorry for the novel!
We are up for our first feeding due to a giant poop. She's been waking up at 2-3am for her first feeding lately so I have a feeling I'm going up to be checking in again in a short while. I hope everyone is sleeping soundly!
Post by jennybeans on Oct 24, 2016 23:46:55 GMT -5
E didn't want to take an evening nap so she was up for about 3 hrs before bedtime and now he first wakeup is 2 hrs earlier than typical. olive, I think inwill be keeping you company this evening.
LO fought going down again, cluster feeding and being super cranky for around 2 hours, but then he slept for almost 6 hours! We're up now for what will probably be a long BFing season, by I'm cool with it as long as he goes back down easily when he's done.
I'm entertaining myself while nursing for this wake up reading threads on other bmbs about sleep training and thinking about how 2 years ago at this time, we were sleep training our may baby and daddy was putting him to bed at night.
LO fought going down again, cluster feeding and being super cranky for around 2 hours, but then he slept for almost 6 hours! We're up now for what will probably be a long BFing season, by I'm cool with it as long as he goes back down easily when he's done.
I think our LOs are around same age so I'm hoping its a short lived phase. This was night two of my normally easy going baby turning into crazy, angry baby around 6pm. DS1 definitely had his "witching hour" for several weeks, I really don't want to go through that again!! DD seemed like she wanted to nurse but not actually have milk come out? So frustrating when your newborn gets mad at the one thing that calms them the most!
danizee, my LO turned 3 weeks on Saturday. He had been going down super easily at the beginning of the night but now does seem to be turning cranky during the stereotypical witching hour. I'm with you in hoping its just a phase. DD had a period of a month or so where it would take hours to get her down at night. DNW.
danizee, E was doing the same thing last night before bed - she wanted to nurse but was mad that milk was coming out. Finally I gave her my finger to suck on and she calmed down and got drowsy enough for me to get her to sleep.
caz1221 same exact age! 10/1 baby. She made up for it last night though. She finally fell asleep at 9, woke at 1:30 (with a blow out diaper, yuck!) and then didn't wake again until 6.
jennybeans that's exactly what I did although she just got drowsy enough for me to switch sides to let her nurse before she popped off on her own and fell asleep.
Last night was another rough one. R is waking up on the hour. His gas was so bad. He spent yesterday screaming and he hardly slept. He's 6 weeks so I don't know if he's going through a growth spurt or what. He sounds so congested at night too. This morning his little nose was crusted in boogers so now I'm worried he's getting sick.
Post by LadyNymeria on Oct 25, 2016 23:48:01 GMT -5
R just slept for 4 1/2 hours. First I didn't sleep because no way can I go to bed at 8pm. Then I didn't bother laying down assuming he was going to wake up soon to eat. Guess I need to just go to sleep next time because now I'm feeding him at almost 1am and I haven't fallen asleep yet tonight.
R just slept for 4 1/2 hours. First I didn't sleep because no way can I go to bed at 8pm. Then I didn't bother laying down assuming he was going to wake up soon to eat. Guess I need to just go to sleep next time because now I'm feeding him at almost 1am and I haven't fallen asleep yet tonight.
Ugh I hate it when they're asleep for the night and I'm not. It feels so wasteful, even if it is 8pm. I wouldn't know though. It's a fight to get A down every night. Last night we finally managed a little after 10.
At least she slept 4h. That's a good night for us. That 5.5hr night has only happened once
At this point, I'm in bed within about 20 minutes of LO going down regardless of what time it is. I'm really looking forward to the time when I can stay up for an hour or two after the kids go to bed to spend time with DH, but right now getting some sleep is most important.
LO went down easily (a nice change from the last few nights) but is doing shorter stretches (~3 hours between feedings, which translates the about 2 hours of sleep for me). We're up for the second time now. Luckily DH isn't working today.
I'm in bed within about a half hour of E as well. I did that with DS too until about 4 months when his sleep evened out and got more consistent (at least on most nights).
If it helps, a coworker told me when I got back to work after DS to remember that at first every night is rough and you have occasional stand out good ones, soon you get to the point where you have mostly good nights and maybe 1 bad each week, and there comes a point when almost all are good and you have a stand out bad night. That was probably about 6 months with my son. Hopefully we can all look forward to getting much better sleep by February/March!
jennybeans that's so true!! Around six months we sleep trained. A very special sleep training because he had rally bad reflux. It worked though and nights got so much better with the occasional bad night! I really look forward to putting both kids to bed around 7 and having a few hours to myself! Anyways, we are up for our first feeding. She woke around 11 after I had put her down at 10 but I was able to rock her back to sleep without feeding. I've had to pop her paci in a few times and DH came home around 1:20 from the bar. It was his birthday so not a usual thing but he woke me up so I'm tired!!
R just did a 5 hour stretch in his swing. I'm in shock. After the last few crappy nights we really needed this morale boost Just got done changing and feeding him and put him in his crib. Really hoping for at least 2-3 hours.
Well, it looks like the 3 am fussiness is back. We've been up for over an hour - I thought LO would go back to sleep after eating, but he started hiccuping as soon as I lay back down and then got upset. Now he's screaming if I try to feed, swaddle, etc. I'm definitely looking forward to the more consistently good nights!
DS woke up screaming while I was nursing E so DH is in sleeping with him (that should be interesting...) and E is having a hard time going back to sleep in her crib. I think tonight is going to be a rough night all around in this house.
My toddler hadn't pooped in 5 days. This has never happened. So we loaded him up on pear juice this morning. Wellllll he pooped. So he was up 12. Of course A slept until 3:45!! This whole wake up every hour one night and then sleep six the next is killing my boobs. I really should get up an pump on nights she sleeps a lot to avoid the frequent clogs I get but I love sleep so much it's hard!
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