I'm so sorry kinipela7. I don't think there is a right or wrong answer in this situation. Whatever you decide will be the right decision for your family. I hate this so much for you. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
I am so sorry you are dealing with this unimagineably difficult situation. Whatever your decision is you are doing what is best for your family. All the hugs and love being sent you way, friend.
Post by moutonrouge on Sept 21, 2016 17:31:55 GMT -5
I'm so sorry kinipela7 and I'm thinking of you. I hope your doctor can give you some guidance about what the procedure would be like and the risks if you wait or if you don't. But I know it's a very difficult choice either way - big hugs. We're here for you.
kinipela7, I am so sorry. Had we discovered the triploidy before the loss we would have been faced with the same decision, and I'm so sorry you may have to make it. Even knowing that the diagnosis is incompatible with life doesn't mean it makes it easier. I am still hoping that this is all just a horrible mistake, but if it does come to it I thought I would share my anecdotal story regarding a late loss in hopes to alleviate some of your fears.
We discovered the triploidy and loss at my 20 week appointment, along with the suspected diagnosis of a partial mole. The baby had stopped growing around 17 weeks but due to the partial mole the placenta continued to grow so my uterus was really large and filled with tissue. I had a D&C (he gave me the option of being induced and delivering, but I chose the D&C. That is a very personal choice. If it is a choice given to you make sure you understand the pros and cons of both). My D&C went as smoothly as possible, and I was recovered and able to return to work within 2 days (Physically, that is). I had a higher chance of hemorrhaging but that was ONLY due to the partial mole/massive placenta, not because I was necessarily later term. You shouldn't have a reason to worry about that part of it. Of course make sure you make a list of questions and concerns to ask your doctor. I wrote mine down because I was in such a fog I knew I would forget them.
Again I am so so sorry and have been thinking of you often
kinipela7, I am so so sorry you are going through this. Especially being in limbo and having to wait for definitive answers. I really hope that you are located in a state that gives you easy access to the care you need if you end up needing to terminate. You are in my thoughts.
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