It's Friday - Fess Up!

[thebanich]

Ugh. Wrong post. Sorreh

[whoopster]

I always get double chicken at Chipotle and they forget to charge me quite frequently, but I always correct them. 95% of the time, they end up not charging me for it because they're shocked I point it out.

[ajcr]

I can't stop buying these cheap, tacky-but-really-cute holiday sweaters off of amazon. When, if ever, is it appropriate to wear Christmas attire, aside from Christmas Day/Eve?

Also, I use to love both Chipotle and Target. I dislike going to either stores now.

[helenahhandbasket]

Sept 23, 2016 11:21:06 GMT -5 humpty said:

Sept 23, 2016 9:32:20 GMT -5 @sterling said:

I was a visual specialist at The Gap in high school and college. That's fancy talk for bitch that had to work all night setting up the displays.

 I have an AA in Fashion Merchandising because I wanted to do visual merchandising. I haven't done anything in the related field since graduating except work retail. lol

Me too.

I do work in fashion, but on the wholesale side.

[ajcr]

Sept 23, 2016 11:42:08 GMT -5 @ftwr said:

Sept 23, 2016 11:41:24 GMT -5 ajcr said:

I can't stop buying these cheap, tacky-but-really-cute holiday sweaters off of amazon. When, if ever, is it appropriate to wear Christmas attire, aside from Christmas Day/Eve?

The month of December? At holiday parties?

So what you're saying is that it's too early to wear them now?

[whoopster]

Sept 23, 2016 11:41:24 GMT -5 ajcr said:

I can't stop buying these cheap, tacky-but-really-cute holiday sweaters off of amazon. When, if ever, is it appropriate to wear Christmas attire, aside from Christmas Day/Eve?

Also, I use to love both Chipotle and Target. I dislike going to either stores now.

Grandma?

[Deleted]

Sept 23, 2016 11:42:08 GMT -5 @ftwr said:

Sept 23, 2016 11:41:24 GMT -5 ajcr said:

I can't stop buying these cheap, tacky-but-really-cute holiday sweaters off of amazon. When, if ever, is it appropriate to wear Christmas attire, aside from Christmas Day/Eve?

The month of December? At holiday parties?

Yeah Christmas attire is ok the whole month of dec leading up to Christmas or at least the last two weeks before. I hate to get Christmas stuff on Christmas cause it's like you wear it xmas day and then can't wear it again for a year lol

[whoopster]

Also, the 1-3 days that you're in the hospital after having a child feels like one really long day.

[veganontuesdays]

Sept 23, 2016 11:35:01 GMT -5 readyornot said:

Sept 23, 2016 11:08:26 GMT -5 @amypond said:

I know I'm anxious af, but when my kids were just born the last thing on earth I wanted was for someone hovering over me waiting to hold my kid. Like, I waited so long to meet my baby. Back off.

I have no idea if your SIL is like that, but someone sitting and staring at me would've made me incredibly ragey. This could just be me.

Nah it wasn't like that. Baby was born late Wednesday night & this was at like 6pm on Thursday, so it wasn't like she JUST had her. Also I had 3 of my kids sitting quietly in the only avaliable chair, so I had to stand. And lastly we were actually talking/having a conversation while the baby laid peacefully in her arms. I wasn't actually staring her down or anything

Wait whaa? That is JUST having her IMO. If my vagina is still on fire or my incision is fresh that is JUST having. 

[Emmentaler]

Sept 23, 2016 11:43:13 GMT -5 ajcr said:

Sept 23, 2016 11:42:08 GMT -5 @ftwr said:

The month of December? At holiday parties?

So what you're saying is that it's too early to wear them now?

I feel you.

I bought our Halloween costumes in August.  I was tricked by the displays and had a late night shopping frenzy.  

Now I feel blue-balled because I blew my load too quickly and have nothing left to do.

[zombiewasabi]

Sept 23, 2016 11:43:43 GMT -5 @juliagulia said:

I judge that many people visiting when the new parents and baby are still in the hospital. That's a big DNW to me. Family or not.

God I wanted everyone to go away. And I didn't even have that many visitors.

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Sept 23, 2016 11:39:59 GMT -5 @hilarityensued said:

Sept 23, 2016 11:35:01 GMT -5 readyornot said:

Nah it wasn't like that. Baby was born late Wednesday night & this was at like 6pm on Thursday, so it wasn't like she JUST had her.

Not sure if srs? Because, yes, in FTM land, this is literally JUST having the baby. The baby isn't even 24 hours old yet. She's still in the hospital.

I shift all my initial judgment of her onto you. This is insane.

 I don't know if I didnt want to let someone hold or visit my baby I wouldn't have let them visit me in the hospital.

Unless readyornot invited her self and her children and showed up unannounced I would have expected a turn to hold the baby.

[Justbecause]

Sept 23, 2016 11:43:13 GMT -5 ajcr said:

Sept 23, 2016 11:42:08 GMT -5 @ftwr said:

The month of December? At holiday parties?

So what you're saying is that it's too early to wear them now?

Yes but Halloween socks, sweaters and pumpkin earrings are fine!

[Justbecause]

I once went shopping with my mother and we bought a ton of stuff. Including a nice pea coat.
Drive 1.5 hrs home and discover the coat was not rung up at all.
So I always check before I leave because the chances of me returning aren't great.

[Justbecause]

Sept 23, 2016 11:47:13 GMT -5 zombiewasabi said:

Sept 23, 2016 11:43:43 GMT -5 @juliagulia said:

I judge that many people visiting when the new parents and baby are still in the hospital. That's a big DNW to me. Family or not.

God I wanted everyone to go away. And I didn't even have that many visitors.

Exactly two people visited me in the hospital each time.
And I only allowed the second person because she brought food.

[Deleted]

Sept 23, 2016 11:43:43 GMT -5 @juliagulia said:

I judge that many people visiting when the new parents and baby are still in the hospital. That's a big DNW to me. Family or not.

I agree with this. We literally didn't have anyone visit in the hospital with DD because we didn't have any family in the state and our friends waited until we were home and settled. We had a very, very small group of family visit the hospital when DS was born and it felt like too much.

Wait until I'm home, showered, and somewhat sane please. And don't judge any of my reactions re: my brand new baby. FTM or not.

[McBenny]

I didn't really want people holding my baby. I also didn't allow it if the baby was sleeping peacefully. I don't fuck with sleeping babies. I don't get the allure of passing around a sleeping baby just to hold it. So, I didn't really go there. You had to come out and ask, I didn't offer and even then you might get told no.

If you woke my baby you got cussed the fuck out usually.

I have several pictures of people standing around the crib in the hospital room with baby sleeping in it.

[helenahhandbasket]

Sept 23, 2016 11:44:44 GMT -5 humpty said:

Sept 23, 2016 11:42:31 GMT -5 helenahhandbasket said:

Me too.

I do work in fashion, but on the wholesale side.

I've been thinking about how now I'd somewhat be interested looking into being a buyer. But I dunno. 

That was my first job (Retail asst buyer).

If there are opportunities in your area and you are looking for a change you can make a lot of money if you are good at it.

I was...not good at it. So I'm much happier in the other side of the biz.

[Deleted]

Sept 23, 2016 11:50:09 GMT -5 @juliagulia said:

I can't think of a single person I would visit in the hospital after having a baby. I imagine my SIL might invite me and I will have a very upfront conversation with her about not needing to feel obligated and to only invite me if it will somehow help her and make her super happy. I will arrange for her to have flowers and champagne there but I don't need to be physically present.

So much this. Maaaybe my sister if/when she has a baby, but only if I'm expressly invited. Otherwise, it's flowers/booze/food being sent and I'll see you when you're home and ready.

[Deleted]

Sept 23, 2016 11:50:36 GMT -5 @hilarityensued said:

Sept 23, 2016 11:47:16 GMT -5 @meggriffin said:

 I don't know if I didnt want to let someone hold or visit my baby I wouldn't have let them visit me in the hospital.

Unless readyornot invited her self and her children and showed up unannounced I would have expected a turn to hold the baby.

This isn't the situation we're talking about really.  The new mom felt like the baby was fussy and she wanted to hold her.

Also, if Ron rolls in wiht all her kids, I'd probably be wanting to hold the kid as well because as a FTM I was definitely not going to be chill about tons of germy hands touching my fresh-out-the-oven kid.

Obviously the second time my older kid shared a paci with my younger kid within a mere 36 hours of birth, so thhings change.

I am picking up what you are putting down.  I did catch the fussy part in the OP, but I had already let that fact erase from my mind.

[Deleted]

Sept 23, 2016 11:51:28 GMT -5 misspatty said:

Stupid question: how long are you in the hospital after you give birth typically? I am aware this is not a confession, but I really want to know.

5 days for me- which is routine with a c-section.

[McBenny]

I was in the hospital for 5 days with DS after my C-section. It was the standard at the time I believe.

With DD, I was in the hospital 3 days, she had jaundice so that was the reason for the additional day.

[helenahhandbasket]

Sept 23, 2016 11:37:59 GMT -5 @ftwr said:

Every time one of my friends/family has a baby and I visit them in the hospital I immediately break down into tears upon holding said baby. I just get so overwhelmed by new babies.

I do this when I'm attending weddings and the bride is descending down the aisle. Even if I've never met the bride or I barely know her, for some reason that moment gets me.

[bunnyfungo]

Sept 23, 2016 11:52:29 GMT -5 @hilarityensued said:

Sept 23, 2016 11:51:28 GMT -5 misspatty said:

Stupid question: how long are you in the hospital after you give birth typically? I am aware this is not a confession, but I really want to know.

Vaginal birth is typically 1-2 days.  C-section is typically 3 days.

It depends on when you went in for birth and had the kid, so the technicalities can change.

That is just what's typical.  

DD3 was born at 11:30 pm, so that counted as my Day 1. They asked if I wanted to stay an extra day or be discharged the next day. Lolol. BYE! I hated being trapped in the hospital.

[readyornot]

OMG at y'all. Lol I said in my OP that I didn't say shit to her & kept my mouth shut bc I KNOW HOW IT IS, & I am confessing it in the FFC bc as a not FTM some of it is eye roll worthy. But I'm saying that HERE. Not to her. I didn't touch her baby until she handed her to me. Kids didn't hold the baby until mom offered. We were there bc she said "bring the kids to meet their cousin!" I did not just bust up in there all "give me your baby!"

I'm not forgetting shit. Even with my 4th kid nobody was holding her until I was ready. I followed the rules & then LOL'd about some of it here. Sheesh

[Deleted]

Huh. I've visited people in the hospital, always to drop off snacks or gifts. I don't do it for everyone, just the extroverts or the FTMs without family in town.

I swoop in, drop off gifts of breastpads and cupcakes and a white noise machine, and swoop out.

[McBenny]

Sept 23, 2016 10:38:44 GMT -5 @amyg said:

TIC confession
The planner thread is no longer my happy place.
Instead of being all about organizing yourself and getting shit done
It's alllll about buying more stickers and washi tape.
And decorating stuff.
If I got into that kind if decorating my planner
I would spend all my time playing around with it
No actual cooking and cleaning
Or other shit would ever get done.

I think I have said I don't washi or decorate my planner like others do. I feel part of the allure of the planner is to do what you want to do in it or not.

Some people draw.

Some color.

Some use stickers.

Some don't.

I know for me, I stopped posting how I use my planner cause I thought it would be boring, repetitive, and mundane.

I agree with @aditi be the change you want to see!

[veganontuesdays]

I went home the very next day after having E. I needed like 23908234 signatures and to basically sign away my life in order to leave that soon but I did it. All I wanted was to be home, getting my own routine, and doing our own thing. Will do again.

[McBenny]

I don't go to the hospital to see anyone unless explicitly asked and even then I will verify again.

[ghostmonkey]

Sept 23, 2016 11:59:37 GMT -5 readyornot said:

OMG at y'all. Lol I said in my OP that I didn't say shit to her & kept my mouth shut bc I KNOW HOW IT IS, & I am confessing it in the FFC bc as a not FTM some of it is eye roll worthy. But I'm saying that HERE. Not to her. I didn't touch her baby until she handed her to me. Kids didn't hold the baby until mom offered. We were there bc she said "bring the kids to meet their cousin!" I did not just bust up in there all "give me your baby!"

I'm not forgetting shit. Even with my 4th kid nobody was holding her until I was ready. I followed the rules & then LOL'd about some of it here. Sheesh

#youmustbenew If you think FFFC are actually FF.

You are being a bitch about it and mocking her. Knock it off.