GKU IF Check-in **9/27/16**

[jense927]

Hey Everyone! I haven't posted in a while due to being on a treatment break and needing time away from all things TTC. We started an IVF cycle at the end of August with BCPs and I started stimming on Friday Sep 15 with menopor and gonal f. I had reallly bad anxiety over the stabbing with needles part. I literally stood there on the second day for 2 hours too nervous to actually do it. It was such a mental mindfuck. Somehow though I got through and it got so much easier. I responded well and got the go ahead to trigger this past Sunday. Then on Monday I got a call from my RE saying she wants to turn the cycle from a fresh to frozen because she is concerned about my c section scar. Apparently with the extra estrogen it has been getting bigger and she is afraid if I get pregnant it will rupture.

So now I have to go see a surgical specialist to evualte it and have a surgery to hopefully fix it before I can even think about doing a transfer. Too say I am bummed is a complete understatement. I finally allowed myself to have some hope (first IVF cycle) and now this...

Today was the egg retrieval and that went well at least. They got 12 eggs. I will find out how many fertilized tomorrow.

QOTW: today is actually our anniversary. Not exactly the way I envisioned spending it but what can you do.

[teachermomtobe]

jense927, I'm sorry your may need to have surgery to fix your scar before proceeding. I can imagine how frustrated you must be. Try to remember that a frozen cycle allows your body to be fully prepared to give your embryo(s) a home so it can be a good thing! And happy anniversary to you.

[thechickencoop]

wannabmama and @yaga, Good luck on Friday guys!

ironbaby, daisy818, & PepperPottsJ interesting acupuncture talk! It's been on my list of things to look into so...yea. just interesting new info.

butlerfan eesh homestudy time! I actually was talking with someone (at a friend's baby shower this past weekend...how fitting) about adoption; she said they have a homestudy coming up and should be approved for a placement by the end of the year. She was so SO excited, you could feel it. I mean, I didn't ask why they were adopting or anything but she mentioned they don't have kids. I just can't imagine seeing that light at the end of the tunnel...almost there!!!

@samrs22 waiting is the worst. I hope you get your result back soon; the genetic results can take for.ev.er.

BurritosAtEveryMeal Good luck tomorrow!!

[thechickencoop]

AFM, well, CD1 and we're back to the drawing board. I just finished my 4th cycle supplementing progesterone with no results (obvs). Our RE wanted us to call after the 3rd cycle with no BFP but we gave it one more.

So I have a call in to the nurses, I'll speak with then in the morning and we'll figure out what the next step would be. I'm. ..ugh. Not sure where we'd go. I can GET pregnant, I just can't STAY pregnant so, what's next? And our insurance coverage is pretty much done so anything moving forward is OOP.

QOTW: Our wedding was in June, we knew we wanted it warm so we could have it outside BUT we ended up with a tropical storm :/

It ended up being BEAUTIFUL, just...rainy and indoors lol.

[lilsneezy]

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wannabmama Yay! I'm so excited for you. Good luck on Friday!
@yaga I get what you mean about people minimizing your experience. I've felt that way before and it sucks. I think it's just how some people cope in uncomfortable situations unfortunately. Sorry you had to go through that. Good luck on Friday! Oh and happy anniversary! I live in the Poconos (I think we've talked about this before) and fall is definitely the best time of the year here!
ironbaby FX'ed for you!
daisy818 FX'ed!
PepperPottsJ Good luck with all the shots!
butlerfan Hope you feel better soon!
@samrs22 Hugs! You have nothing to be embarrassed about. IF is not easy to deal with.
cheezee I hope you can figure out your baseline for your next cycle!
akraus2015 FX'ed for you!
BurritosAtEveryMeal Good luck tomorrow!
teachermomtobe Keeping everything crossed for you!!

AFM, I saw my RE last week and she recommended that we move on to IVF. I wasn't expecting that answer and I'm super confused about what to do. I don't really want to jump to IVF just yet but I also don't want to waste my time and money on IUIs if they're not going to work. I'm still waiting to hear back on prices, which is probably going to be my deciding factor. If my insurance covers the medication for an injectible IUI cycle then I might give that a try before I take the plunge into IVF. I'm just beyond overwhelmed at this point.

QOTW: We got married in June. I picked June because we got married in Mexico and I wanted to make sure we were clear of hurricane season. I graduated from college in May so that only gave us a couple of months to choose from before hurricane season started. There was still a tropical storm on the day of our wedding anyway. Whatevs.

[lilsneezy]

I'm sorry for CD1, thechickencoop. Sending you hugs!

[mill23]

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I really liked the article daisy818 - I shared it with my H as well. Trying to give him some insight into what it's like. Thanks for sharing.

Happy Anniversary @yaga !

Yay for doing something! FX for you wannabmama

Good luck today BurritosAtEveryMeal!

Hugs jense927, I hope the business with your scar gets figured out soon. And that you got to do something fun for your anniversary despite the news.

So many of us in the TWW! I hope we all get some good news. Keeping everything crossed for all of you akraus2015, teachermomtobe, ironbaby!

Sorry for CD1 thechickencoop. Big hugs.

AFM, just hanging out at about 6dpo on a natural cycle. We have an appointment with the RE on Friday morning to talk about moving forward with IUI. I was hoping we could start on the next cycle but the nurse said that would be too quick to get moving, so now we may have to wait until December due to a big work trip I have in November. Sigh.

Re: Acupuncture, I spoke to my RE about it after hearing some success stories here on GKU, and he said the research has not definitively shown a benefit but that basically it couldn't hurt, and may help. I was thinking of trying it out anyway since what do I have to lose, right?

[BurritosAtEveryMeal]

mill23 waiting so long stinks. Did the nurse say why it would be too quick? It's just bloodwork and ultrasounds.

[ceejay]

This has been a crazy busy week and I will try to come back and tag later!

AFM, I'm pretty sure today will be CD1 and if it is, I will call my RE and confirm that I will start BCPs today or tomorrow. After about 2.5 weeks on BCPs, I will have my IVF baseline appointment and start stims! I'm excited to get started, but a little nervous about the timeline of everything given some of the uncertainties in our foster care case. I'm just hoping and praying everything works out, and I know that if things get really crazy, I could always do a freeze all cycle and plan for a frozen transfer sometime next year.

QOTW: We were both in grad school when we got married so we had very limited options for dates given our different school schedules. We picked the one weekend in June that allowed us to go for a honeymoon the week after the wedding before H started his summer classes! I had always wanted a fall wedding, but our date is June ended up being perfect weather and a beautiful day.

[cheezee]

wannabmama yay for moving on to round 2! Hope those shots are done soon!
@yaga sorry you've had to deal with some shitty comments. All the hugs.
@samrs22 Glad all your testing is done!
teachermomtobe glad the transfer went well! Everything crossed for you!
jense927 so sorry you may have to have surgery. Glad the ER went well and FX'd for a good report today!
thechickencoop sorry for CD1. Hope you can get a good plan together with RE.
lilsneezy that is a lot to digest I'm sure. Hugs.
mill23 hope you can move on to IUIs soon!

Question....talk to me about testing out your trigger shot. Do you do it? Is it a waste of tests? All I know is not to pee on anything too early!

[thechickencoop]

Sorry for the shit day @yaga

[cheezee]

Sept 28, 2016 10:54:09 GMT -5 @yaga said:

cheezee, I tested out my trigger shot the first time I did it. I wanted a baseline of how late after trigger I would still have a false positive test. I don't think I'll test it out again, though. Seeing the positives go to negative and never go positive again was really disappointing.

Also what I was afraid of. Not sure how my brain would process seeing a positive test.

[thechickencoop]

So I spoke with a nurse this morning, our RE is apparently out of the office through next week so we can't meet so set up a plan. BUT the nurse didn't want us to waste the cycle so I'm going in on CD11 for a monitoring u/s and will do progesterone again after O.

Good news too, hopefully...fingers crossed, is that any monitoring ultrasounds can be billed under diagnostics vs treatment so hopefully they will be covered through our insurance.

[♪♫choppinbroccoli♫♪]

Great article, daisy818! And we'll be optimistic for you. FX!
YAY for finally moving forward, wannabmama
Sorry for the shit day, @yaga. Hopefully you can still enjoy din din.
PepperPottsJ, hi love! Hope your appt went well today.
@samrs22, when the feels get triggered talking about IF, the waterworks soon follow. You're not alone! And it's certainly not being dramatic. This is real life shit that fucking sucks!
BurritosAtEveryMeal, I hope today's IUI went well!
teachermomtobe, Yayay! PUPO! So glad you're feeling positive! FX so hard!
jense927, I totally hear you on the frustration of setbacks. I had a looooong wait between my failed 1st fresh transfer and my upcoming 1st FET. I had to have a cervical dilation surgery in between. FX surgery takes care of everything! And yay on 12 eggs!!
lilsneezy, did RE say why she recommends that you go straight to IVF? Hugs for the unexpected info. It can be a punch in the gut.
thechickencoop, sorry for CD1. But FX for billing to go in your favor!

cheezee, I never tested out trigger shot. At this point, I am of the "what's the use?" mindset.

[♪♫choppinbroccoli♫♪]

AFM, I have a mid-cycle monitoring appointment today, and as of now, FET is still scheduled for next Friday. I really, really hope I don't hear any bad news today. I need this to go smoothly.

QOTW - 6/25 is our wedding anniversary. I was pretty laid back on when to have it. I knew I wanted it in the summer, though. It was a beautiful day, but I was hot as balls in that gown! LOL. I think the weather was okay for everyone else, though.

[BurritosAtEveryMeal]

Good luck today! ♪♫choppinbroccoli♫♪

[lilsneezy]

cheezee If you want to test out your trigger, start early (like 5 or 6DPO when it's impossible to get a BFP) so you don't get confused over a false positive. I made that mistake once (I tested at 12DPT/10DPO) and got a squinter. I wasn't sure if it was the trigger or an actual BFP until the next day when I tested negative. And that sucked.

♪♫choppinbroccoli♫♪ She recommended IVF because she said I responded really well to clomid and had four mature follicles at my last IUI. I guess she thinks if the IUI didn't work last time with four eggs then it's probably not going to work at all. Good luck at your appointment today! FX'ed everything goes as planned!

[teachermomtobe]

thechickencoop, I'm so sorry for CD1. I don't remember if you've had the following: RPL testing? HSG or SHG to check for uterine abnormalities? Chromosomal testing? If getting pregnant isn't the issue it could be something related to implantation and/or the quality of the embryo. Just some thoughts.
lilsneezy, While IVF is more expensive it does have a much higher success rate generally, especially if you have already been doing medicated IUIs. For what it's worth I did 4 medicated IUIs before going on to IVF because my RE didn't feel the injectables with IUI would really give me that much of an increased chance of success.
mill23, did your nurse say why you couldn't start with IUI next cycle? Is it an insurance approval/med ordering issue or do you need more testing?
ceejay, It's so exciting to be so close to starting!
cheezee, I never tested out my trigger because I thought it would make me obsess. It also forced me to wait to test.
@yaga, sorry for the rough day. I hope you can enjoy your anniversary with your H tonight.
♪♫choppinbroccoli♫♪, I hope everything goes well today!!

[thechickencoop]

teachermomtobe yes, yes, and yes to all. I've had CD3 and 7dpo testing, an HSG, and an endo biopsy. H had an SA, and we both had full karyotyping. Oy. And all was normal except for my *ever so slightly* low end of normal progesterone.

[mill23]

teachermomtobe, BurritosAtEveryMeal, - the nurse didn't say why it wouldn't be possible but I suspect it's due to them being booked up for next month? I am expecting to find out on Friday.

I also forgot the QOTW! We got married at the end of August. It was awesome, but in hindsight I wish I had switched to an April date (because Tulips) or in the fall/winter.

[butlerfan]

Update: we got a call today...there are two kids that need to be moved into a different foster home (reasons I can't disclose) and if we feel we can have our stuff done in the next week to week and a half. Our licenser will get the paper work done quickly and rush and remove red tape so we are licensed and approved in the next two weeks so we can take in the 2 kids.

GUYS THIS IS ACTUALLY HAPPENING!!!!!!!

[cjchio]

butlerfan that is soooo exciting! I'm so happy for you guys!

[ceejay]

Sept 28, 2016 22:42:13 GMT -5 butlerfan said:

Update: we got a call today...there are two kids that need to be moved into a different foster home (reasons I can't disclose) and if we feel we can have our stuff done in the next week to week and a half. Our licenser will get the paper work done quickly and rush and remove red tape so we are licensed and approved in the next two weeks so we can take in the 2 kids.

GUYS THIS IS ACTUALLY HAPPENING!!!!!!!

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! SO EXCITING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! FX your licensing worker can get everything done! Would they move in 2 weeks from now if everything is approved? Can you share their ages (or approximate ages if you can't give too many details)?

So happy for you!!!!!!!!!!!

[thechickencoop]

butlerfan OMG OMG OMGOMG!!!!!! Wait, wait, wait, and GO! Lol.

Ages?? What do you need for them?? Do we need to have a GKU baby crap drive? Because holy shit you have TWO WEEKS!

[wannabmama]

butlerfan omg omg OMG!!! I'm so excited, I hope it all works out and I can't wait to hear more as you move toward the placement, etc.! I'm so excited for you!!!

[teachermomtobe]

butlerfan, ahhhhhhhh so exciting!!

[mill23]

Ahhhhh butlerfan that is such incredible news!!! So excited for you and your H!

[ironbaby]

butlerfan, That is SO exciting! Please let us know what you need.

[butlerfan]

Sept 28, 2016 23:29:50 GMT -5 ceejay said:

Sept 28, 2016 22:42:13 GMT -5 butlerfan said:

Update: we got a call today...there are two kids that need to be moved into a different foster home (reasons I can't disclose) and if we feel we can have our stuff done in the next week to week and a half. Our licenser will get the paper work done quickly and rush and remove red tape so we are licensed and approved in the next two weeks so we can take in the 2 kids.

GUYS THIS IS ACTUALLY HAPPENING!!!!!!!

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! SO EXCITING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! FX your licensing worker can get everything done! Would they move in 2 weeks from now if everything is approved? Can you share their ages (or approximate ages if you can't give too many details)?

So happy for you!!!!!!!!!!!

Ages are a 2 year old boy and a 9 month girl siblings. Mom is in the picture so most likely this is a 6-12 month placement so we had to talk about that as well. There is a court hearing in about 1 1/2 weeks that determine if this will really happen-other family in another state but really hard for mom to do reunification if the kids are moved away. So by showing the courts that there is/will be another home in the area the kids can go to it is very likely that in about 2 weeks they will be placed with us.

So basically we thought we had a month to finalize everything for the home study and then have up to 2 months before it was "approved" and then be allowed to get placements. Now it is 2 weeks!!!!!  Our worker is dropping as much other stuff/rearranging stuff to get her end done now as well. 

We are excited, nervous, overwhelmed, scared, etc that this is really happening. I was so shocked to be getting the call and getting everything moved up that I couldn't think of what to ask for. 

[butlerfan]

Sept 29, 2016 5:16:50 GMT -5 thechickencoop said:

butlerfan OMG OMG OMGOMG!!!!!! Wait, wait, wait, and GO! Lol.

Ages?? What do you need for them?? Do we need to have a GKU baby crap drive? Because holy shit you have TWO WEEKS!

Ages are 9 month little girl and 2 year old little boy-see more details on my reply to ceejay.

This still is very surreal and crazy.  I mean I knew once we are licensed this could happen but not going from possibly November to December (or into January) having a placement to having 2 in in 2 weeks.

Links are below if anyone is interested in registries (I still feel weird doing this...fyi:...)  there are wants on the list because we thought we could pick up some more toys as they went on sale, holidays, etc.  

Things needed more than anything is more sheets, waterproof pads for changing table and crib(s), and more toddler sippy cups and plates.

We have car seats but will verify I don't need a second rear facing infant car seat for the 2 year old.  I'm ordering the second convertible crib today.  I think parents are getting us the double stroller. 

This is nuts people! 

Toys R us:

www.toysrus.com/registry/link/index.jsp?overrideStore=TRUS&registryNumber=58502516

Target:

www.target.com/gift-registry/registry/1t58HJ57rTZ1t4Cf63vyaA?ref=registryCopiedLink