SAHM advice with little one - what do you do when you get sick? I woke up with a headache & stomachache combo. We took DD1 to school in an Uber and DH is going to come home early today but he can't come home every time I catch something.
I hope you're feeling better! I stay home part time. When I get sick, it's mostly survival mode. Whatever keeps the kids entertained and quiet is what I'll do. For my big one I'll do movies or put him in the bath since he'll play in there for awhile and I can bring in a couple pillows and blanket and sit down in there with him (I don't lay down or sleep, obviously). I also will have my in-laws take them if possible.
Also, tell me more about this sending DD1 to school in an Uber? How old is she? Like, you just call and Uber and put her in it and have them take her to school?
SAHM advice with little one - what do you do when you get sick? I woke up with a headache & stomachache combo. We took DD1 to school in an Uber and DH is going to come home early today but he can't come home every time I catch something.
I hope you're feeling better! I stay home part time. When I get sick, it's mostly survival mode. Whatever keeps the kids entertained and quiet is what I'll do. For my big one I'll do movies or put him in the bath since he'll play in there for awhile and I can bring in a couple pillows and blanket and sit down in there with him (I don't lay down or sleep, obviously). I also will have my in-laws take them if possible.Â
Also, tell me more about this sending DD1 to school in an Uber? How old is she? Like, you just call and Uber and put her in it and have them take her to school?
We went with her! I don't think I'd trust an uber driver alone, she is too young and doesn't really even speak Spanish. Usually we walk though, it's just over 1.5 miles round trip and I wear LO so I was totally not up for the walk.
I hope you're feeling better! I stay home part time. When I get sick, it's mostly survival mode. Whatever keeps the kids entertained and quiet is what I'll do. For my big one I'll do movies or put him in the bath since he'll play in there for awhile and I can bring in a couple pillows and blanket and sit down in there with him (I don't lay down or sleep, obviously). I also will have my in-laws take them if possible.
Also, tell me more about this sending DD1 to school in an Uber? How old is she? Like, you just call and Uber and put her in it and have them take her to school?
We went with her! I don't think I'd trust an uber driver alone, she is too young and doesn't really even speak Spanish. Usually we walk though, it's just over 1.5 miles round trip and I wear LO so I was totally not up for the walk.
I am feeling tired and broken. This is so dumb of me, but someone posted a cute feel good video. It was a mom who had recently gone back to work, and she had a "performance review," and they showed her videos of people in her life and at work, all complementing her on how amazing she is for doing it all. It was really sweet, but for some dumb reason it made me feel worse, like that is great that some people can do it all, but I am failing at it all. I don't blame the video at all, this is obviously my issue. I just wish I felt better about myself.
Why do you feel like you are failing at it all?
I remember feeling with D that there was so much pressure to act like I had it all together. In reality, we all are barely getting by.
I mostly feel like I am failing at work. I just can not concentrate, and am just kind of sliding by. It is hard because I really do like my job. I work with a lot of really smart people, that are big go getters, so just getting by feels so lazy, and like I am really letting people down. I am given a lot of freedom in my job because it is expected that I will do my best work that way, so taking advantage of that freedom to not be as productive as I would like to be feels relly shitty. I don't want to be like that at work, I just don't have the energy to be the emploeye I want to be, if that makes sense.
Then with the kids, I only get a short time with them during the week, so all the working mom guilt there. My house is a messy disaster. We don't eat as healthy as we should. I don't work out very often at all. My to do list is a mile long, and it just gets longer, while nothing gets checked off.
I know I am not the only one with these issues, it just seems to be hitting hard right now.
Sorry for the mile long reply.
Thank you to everyone for your kind words, they did make me feel better. And while it stinks that so many of us feel, or have felt this way, it is good to know I am not alone.
I left my hotel room so they could clean it. They threw away the membranes for my pump (the parts were all on a towel to dry) and the tops to my contact lens case. I'm so happy I brought a bag of extra pump parts or I would be scrambling right now.
Courtniko - can you meet with your supervisor for maybe an improptu performance review and level setting to see whether you're actually under-performing? And if you are, where you can boost?
I can try to do something like that with my 2 project leads, that could help give me a good push.
heartbot, sorry he is sick. I can give you the antidotal thought that while daycare kids are often sick while they are little, once they get to school age they don't get as sick as their peers. So while it is awful now, hopefully it will be better later. I am sure that does not make you feel much better now, but I guess that is a silver lining to not being able to afford a nanny?
I left my hotel room so they could clean it. They threw away the membranes for my pump (the parts were all on a towel to dry) and the tops to my contact lens case. I'm so happy I brought a bag of extra pump parts or I would be scrambling right now.
Why would they throw away a bunch of stuff? Even if they didn't know what the pump parts were, the top of the contact lens case should be obvious?
I have no idea why they would throw stuff out. It wasn't a mess. So weird.
MH had to pick DS up from daycare and take him to the ER this morning. He's had a cold for several days. I've been worried about it the last couple of days, and today daycare called to say he was having a hard time breathing. We called to set up an appt w/ the pedi but she sent us on to the ER. So...his o2 is a little low, especially sleeping, and they're doing some mist thing now. Don't think they're going to admit him, but T&P would be appreciated.
Hoping your lo is doing a little better now! T&P heading your way
I accidentally whacked my kid's head on the car door tonight. I was holding him and opened the door and it swung back and got him. He started crying and I feel like the worst mom in the world. He seems to be ok but I still feel horrible.
I accidentally whacked my kid's head on the car door tonight. I was holding him and opened the door and it swung back and got him. He started crying and I feel like the worst mom in the world. He seems to be ok but I still feel horrible.
I did something like that to LO when she was about 5 or. 6 weeks old. My mom and I had just been talking about how hard it is to adjust everything to suddenly try compensating for the extra like 2 inches of head that sticks out when she was in my arms and like the next day I thumped her head on this weird giant wine rack they had near the family room door.
heartbot I hope everything goes well tonight with him being home. ETa I was out at ladies' night and got a text that LO was freaking out at like 940. She is wide awake. She is never so awake this early. I feed her and she goes right to sleep. Not working. I'm sleepy!
Courtniko you are definitely not alone feeling that way. I've only been back at work three days and I can see it's going to be insanely hard to be the employee I want to be and a good mom.
I mostly feel like I am failing at work. I just can not concentrate, and am just kind of sliding by. It is hard because I really do like my job. I work with a lot of really smart people, that are big go getters, so just getting by feels so lazy, and like I am really letting people down. I am given a lot of freedom in my job because it is expected that I will do my best work that way, so taking advantage of that freedom to not be as productive as I would like to be feels relly shitty. I don't want to be like that at work, I just don't have the energy to be the emploeye I want to be, if that makes sense.
Then with the kids, I only get a short time with them during the week, so all the working mom guilt there. My house is a messy disaster. We don't eat as healthy as we should. I don't work out very often at all. My to do list is a mile long, and it just gets longer, while nothing gets checked off.
I know I am not the only one with these issues, it just seems to be hitting hard right now.
Sorry for the mile long reply.
Thank you to everyone for your kind words, they did make me feel better. And while it stinks that so many of us feel, or have felt this way, it is good to know I am not alone.
You are likely doing much better than you think you are doing at work. I find it helpful to focus on a couple of key things at work rather than try to do it all. Focus on what will have the most impact.
I feel the same way on most of what you wrote. Working out and eating well have gotten low on my list. I have deferred major house cleaning. Luckily my husband likes to clean. Can others help you with your to do list?
Luckley, we are fortunate enough that we can afford to pay someone to clean every other week, which helps a ton. It does means that the night before they come I get less sleep because I have to go around picking everything up around the house, but at least it gets done. DH is great about cooking dinner, but with 2 kids, he also does not have much time, so we basically live on Trader Joes food, that is partially prepared already. It is just hard not being able to get things done to the standards that I would like, and still feeling like I have no time to myself. But it comes with the teritory
So glad I am not the only one who has whacked their kid's head on something!! Thanks for making me feel better guys
Oh, I've been there. Let me tell you a little story that will make you feel MUCH better about yourself. When L was a couple weeks old I was sitting on my bed feeding her. I was so tired and must have fallen asleep. I woke up when i DROPPED her off the bed in between the bed and nightstand. Thankfully she was fine. I felt so horrible.
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