The weekend!

[coffeequeen14]

What's going on ladies?

Question: if you live in the same city as your parents or inlaws, do you:
1. Knock when showing up or walk right in?
2. How often do you sleep there?
3. How often do you eat there?

[redhead610]

My parents live about 12-15 min away and my in laws, about 2 min.

We don't knock, but we don't really visit unannounced either.

We don't really sleep at either place often since we live so close Sometimes ds1 will sleep over at my parents if we are doing a date night or something.

We probably eat with one set of parents once a week. Occasionally both on a weekend.

[redhead610]

We are going apple picking later today! We usually go earlier in the season but haven't had a chance when it isn't raining.

[shehulk723]

Oct 8, 2016 9:05:30 GMT -5 coffeequeen14 said:

What's going on ladies?

Question: if you live in the same city as your parents or inlaws, do you:
1. Knock when showing up or walk right in?
2. How often do you sleep there?
3. How often do you eat there?

I knock if my mom is home, but sometimes I use her house for other things (laundry, internet, pool, etc.) And she's okay with me just going in if she's not there. Since my parents divorce finalized and my dad moved out, we're over there a lot. It seems like at least once a week we're at her house for dinner or parties or watching football. The only times I've slept there in recent history was when we house/dog sat for her when she went out of town and one night I needed to be away from DH. My mom is super involved in our lives but she's sooooo helpful with the girls and really fun to hang out with. We have a ton of friends in common and I honestly consider her one of my best friends. We also see her twice a week at church.

DH's dad lives two hours away and my H usually just walks in his house. We go out to dinner a few times a year but he's never cooked for us at his house. We used to stay at his house one night every week before our first was born, but that was for business.

[hrushka]

DH works today, so our weekend doesn't really begin until tomorrow. We have no family plans, so I'm going to sneak off for a mani-pedi tomorrow. And perhaps a massage on Monday. I have a membership to a massage place, but I've been so bad about going that I have 12-plus hours banked that I need to use!

QOTW:
1. Walk right in
2. They only live about 10 minutes away now, so never. When they lived 45 minutes away I'd occasionally stay there.
3. We have dinner with them about once a week, maybe less. But sometimes they come here, and sometimes we go out. So we eat there maybe twice a month.

Oh, and that's for my parents. My in-laws live in Eastern Europe so we only see them about once a year.

[meagpt22]

Feeling much better today, thanks to all who commented. DH took DS for first shift and gave him a bottle. The baby wouldn't settle so he brought him in and DS just slept with me.
I think my biggest problem is expecting DS to be like his sister at this age. DD was a great sleeper by herself early. However once regressions hit they hit her hard. I need to realize DS is still a good sleeper but may just need to co sleep. At least he's sleeping, he only gets up to eat at 2 and 5, and isn't awake until 7ish.
So instead of trying to get DS to do something my way I need to change my expectations. I also need to pay attention to his cues. Today I'm keeping a log of his habits to see if there's a pattern. Maybe by doing that I'll feel better.

QOTW:
1. Walk in but we never go over unannounced. My mom lives 1.5 hr away and FIL lives 45 min.

2. I rarely sleep at my moms and with kid (s) I haven't. It's too small and not child friendly. We used to stay at FIL pre kids once in awhile but can't remember if we've stayed there after kids.

3. We go to my moms for some holidays and special events. But with kids it's easier for her to come here. Same with FIL.

[joy]

Question: if you live in the same city as your parents or inlaws, do you:

1. Knock when showing up or walk right in? Walk right in. But, they know we're coming. If they didn't, I'd knock.

2. How often do you sleep there? Rarely.

3. How often do you eat there? When invited.

[dc2london]

I didn't answer your questions, coffee, bc we live several hundred miles away from our parents. I like it that way though

[hannahbear]

We live 1,000 miles away from my ILs and 2,000 miles away from my family. Sad face!

[hannahbear]

Little dude was up every 1.5 hours last night. Noooooooooo

[remylove1011]

So DD sleeps for long periods (3-5hrs at once) but for some reason won't start any of these until very late. The earliest we can typically get her to bed is 11pm. Last night she cat napped at 10 for 30 minutes and then wanted to eat again. So by the time we got her settled it was 1am. What am I doing wrong?


We live 8hrs from my parents and 12 hrs from MHs parents. I'd love if my parents lived closer since I'm close with my mom and we would see them often, but I'm happy with the distance for MHs family.

[joy]

Oct 8, 2016 15:08:19 GMT -5 remylove1011 said:

So DD sleeps for long periods (3-5hrs at once) but for some reason won't start any of these until very late. The earliest we can typically get her to bed is 11pm. Last night she cat napped at 10 for 30 minutes and then wanted to eat again. So by the time we got her settled it was 1am. What am I doing wrong?

Bedtimes for newborns are often late.  My kid doesn't really settle in for bed until about 10 or 10:30pm. 

I've been reading The Baby Sleep Site quite a bit to see how badly I'm doing at this :-)  My kid's longest stretch of sleep happens to be from 12:30pm to 5:30pm. SIIIGH.

www.babysleepsite.com/schedules/newborn-sleep-feeding-schedule/#schedule

www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-needs/baby-toddler-bedtime-chart/

[meagpt22]

Oct 8, 2016 14:58:56 GMT -5 hannahbear said:

Little dude was up every 1.5 hours last night. Noooooooooo

Oh no! Hopefully a fluke!

[elm1214]

Yesterday my mom watched the two littles while DD1 was at preschool, and I got my hair cut and eyebrows done. I haven't had my hair cut in a really long time. I feel so much less frumpy.

Today we went to the pumpkin patch. DD3 slept almost the entire time, and was super happy at lunch afterwards.

Pdq
Poof

[elm1214]

Oh and to answer the question..
1. Walk right in. But they know we're coming.

2. We never really sleep there. We probably only would if we lost power or the AC broke or something.

3. The girls and I eat lunch over there maybe once a week. Dinner over there.. maybe once a month.

[gratefulgirl]

Oct 8, 2016 15:38:07 GMT -5 joy said:

Oct 8, 2016 15:08:19 GMT -5 remylove1011 said:

So DD sleeps for long periods (3-5hrs at once) but for some reason won't start any of these until very late. The earliest we can typically get her to bed is 11pm. Last night she cat napped at 10 for 30 minutes and then wanted to eat again. So by the time we got her settled it was 1am. What am I doing wrong?

Bedtimes for newborns are often late.  My kid doesn't really settle in for bed until about 10 or 10:30pm. 

I've been reading The Baby Sleep Site quite a bit to see how badly I'm doing at this :-)  My kid's longest stretch of sleep happens to be from 12:30pm to 5:30pm. SIIIGH.

www.babysleepsite.com/schedules/newborn-sleep-feeding-schedule/#schedule

www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-needs/baby-toddler-bedtime-chart/

I always say there is a sleep method for every baby. My first fit that site pretty well. DD2 was another book entitely. The only right answer is what keeps your kid from getting overtired.

[gratefulgirl]

Oct 8, 2016 14:58:56 GMT -5 hannahbear said:

Little dude was up every 1.5 hours last night. Noooooooooo

Rough! Hope it ends soon!

[remylove1011]

elm1214 love the Halloween outfit and what a cutie!

[bocaburger]

remylove1011 That has been happening to us recently too! I'm so grateful for the long stretches though, it makes the late nights easier to handle.

[remylove1011]

Oct 8, 2016 18:52:00 GMT -5 bocaburger said:

remylove1011 That has been happening to us recently too! I'm so grateful for the long stretches though, it makes the late nights easier to handle.

I totally agree with this. I'm getting some sleep it's just weird times!

[dc2london]

elm1214 she is so cute!!!!

[steph]

My sister came over today. She had to make a cake and I told her I'd help and my kitchen is way more convenient. I thought jt came out great. i snapped a pic while we were working on it.

[venyia]

Question: if you live in the same city as your parents or inlaws, do you:

1. Knock when showing up or walk right in? Its my mom who lives about 20 minutes away. I only walk in if she knows I am coming and she doesn't answer my knock. I also only visit if my mom's husband is not home.

2. How often do you sleep there? Do naps count? Haha never overnight.

3. How often do you eat there? If I visit, it is usually for a whole day with my kids, so we will feed the toddler and my mom will usually make us dinner. Nothing fancy. So... at this point, maybe a few times a year.

[meagpt22]

steph that's great! She do cakes professional?

[hannahbear]

steph that cake looks awesome!

I had such a lovely evening. Our friends came over and brought a delicious meal from an awesome vegan restaurant- it was totally healthful and really yummy. We chatted, ate, and even played a board game! Little dude slept in the baby carrier the entire time.

PDQ
Snoozing while we played!

[bocaburger]

Oct 8, 2016 23:19:39 GMT -5 hannahbear said:

steph that cake looks awesome!

I had such a lovely evening. Our friends came over and brought a delicious meal from an awesome vegan restaurant- it was totally healthful and really yummy. We chatted, ate, and even played a board game! Little dude slept in the baby carrier the entire time.

PDQ
Snoozing while we played!

AW man I missed the picture!

[elm1214]

DD3 slept from 10:30-8! Second time in a week that she has STTN, with some rough nights in between. But I'm hopeful that we are moving in the right direction.

Today we are going with my ILs to a fall festival at a small amusement park. Should be pretty fun.

[pttomato]

We don't live near family. SIL does and she and her kids sleep at her parents house when BIL is out of town. I find it a little odd. I feel like that's one of the benefits of living close by, you can visit while still being able to go home to sleep.

I had a lady ask me yesterday if DD is a good baby and I didn't know what to say. I love her and think she's great but I'm assuming she really meant 'does she sleep a lot.' She is not the best sleeper but I don't think that makes her a 'bad' baby. It's not like she doesn't STTN out of some malicious intent to make me tired. IDK I'm probably overreacting because of my tendency to personalize things so I feel like I am a bad person, but I don't really like idea of labeling babies good or bad.

[meagpt22]

pttomato it really is a mixed bag about what makes a "good baby". And such a individual parents bias. Like a good night time sleeper can require a lot of attention during the day and vice versa. My response is usually "For the most part, but it can always be worse." Or "There's good days and rough days."

[hannahbear]

All of a sudden (coinciding with E's terrible week of napping and night sleeping), E is refusing the pacifier. It's weird. I wonder if it's related.