So my question is does it seem like they enjoy it (like a man) or are they just exploring it? I'm totally ignorant to this
For us it's like when he's naked from potty training, he's messing with it. Gets the boner accidentally, and then doesn't recognize what it is but knows it's weird. Hence why he said it hurt. He doesn't keep touching it once it's like that and then it goes away within a few seconds. I think it's a purely stimulation thing right now- like if someone ran their finger nails up your arm and gave you goosebumps. You can't help the goosebumps but you also don't know how to create them yourself.
So my question is does it seem like they enjoy it (like a man) or are they just exploring it? I'm totally ignorant to this
I think I learned in psychology that it does feel good to them (boys and girls) and that's partially why they keep doing it. We just try to help him understand what is/isn't appropriate i.e wrapping a slinky around it in the bathtub, lol.
We just get the "morning wood" around here usually. He also pulls it as hard as he can at every diaper change with a death grip while making this weird face and laughing. Boys are weird.
I think girls would be the same except for that theirs doesn't hang out externally where it's easier to see and touch and accidentally make something happen.
I'm not sure how many of you can answer this question, it may only apply to becole and maybe mrscatfarmer13 IIRC. I'm thinking about fully weaning Z in the next couple of months. My goal was to make it to 2, but I'm just not that into it anymore. His teeth really annoy me when he's latched and even though we're down to only 1-2x/ day I seem to dread it. He's also started pulling at my shirt and hitting my chest and I just can't deal. There's more, but that kind of sums it up. Anyway, my question is whether anyone regrets weaning when they did. I feel like once I work him away from it, there will be no going back. He's pretty independent so I know once I get him there, he'll be fine. Am I going to be upset down the road? I'm really struggling with the decision.
Post by mrscatfarmer13 on Oct 10, 2016 12:55:47 GMT -5
dogmama22 Around 15mo I was ready to be done, and have no regrets about weaning at that point. It was weird, like a flip switched in me and I was suddenly so annoyed by nursing. My supply was pretty much zero and we were only nursing 1-2x a day.
dogmama22 Around 15mo I was ready to be done, and have no regrets about weaning at that point. It was weird, like a flip switched in me and I was suddenly so annoyed by nursing. My supply was pretty much zero and we were only nursing 1-2x a day.
It's so funny that you say that because I think that's right around the point that the switch flipped for me too. He's had teeth for a while, but something changed and it's just not enjoyable anymore. I'm glad to hear that you have no regrets about it.
No regrets dogmama22. I could have continued to allow him to nurse for as long as he wanted and I doubt he would have ever stopped on his own. I cut the morning feed about 15 months I think - H would get him out of bed and take him straight to breakfast- he wouldn't even see me before he was eating the first few days. Then that just became a new habit. Then he wanted to nurse at night still and I was fine with that. He was still able to go spend the night at my parents or I could be gone and he would be fine and still go to sleep. So I stopped that at 18 months. Again, H just took over bed time until nursing was a distant memory. For yourself, I would pick a "last nursing session". Mark the date and enjoy the last snuggles, cry afterwards, and then move on. Even if he winds up asking randomly when sick or out of town or something, I would let him latch but there was no milk so seconds and then he would unlatch. If you're still getting a good letdown, you might take some Decongestants to dry yourself up quicker. I was not by the end so I didn't have any discomfort drying up. I only had about 2-3 months before I was pregnant again. So I was happy I stopped when I did.
Those are our two nursing sessions as well becole. He's also totally fine to go to sleep at night when I'm not around, I think we'll just have to change up the routine for a few days until he catches on. I think morning will actually be the hardest because he usually wakes up around 5:30/6 and then will go back to sleep for a bit longer if I nurse him. We'll just have to work out what the new routine will be as far as that goes. I'm glad to hear that you have no regrets either. Now I just have to decide when to bite the bullet. I may work towards getting him to 18 months, drop 1 in November and then the other in December. I think this will really be a positive change for us all around. Even though it's so little, it's still really messing with my hormones.
Post by babylove518 on Oct 10, 2016 14:10:08 GMT -5
DD self weaned (with my encouragement, if that makes sense) around 14 months. I did don't offer, don't refuse. And she eventually stopped wanting it. I was comfortable with it at first, then I was sad, then I felt free, then I missed it. So definitely expect mixed feelings! There are still days I miss it (like when I see pics of tiny squish's nursing. My heart), but I know it was the right time for us.
Post by babylove518 on Oct 10, 2016 14:12:52 GMT -5
So my friend and I are planning a trip to NYC for her bday in Dec. So it will be all lit up for Christmas (the main reason we are going, honestly). I've never been (she went in HS), and we only have a long weekend to work with (leaving very early Fri morning, get there late afternoon, leave to come home Monday morning sometime). So spam me with what we must do with our limited time there. Obvs times square/Rockefeller is a must.
So my friend and I are planning a trip to NYC for her bday in Dec. So it will be all lit up for Christmas (the main reason we are going, honestly). I've never been (she went in HS), and we only have a long weekend to work with (leaving very early Fri morning, get there late afternoon, leave to come home Monday morning sometime). So spam me with what we must do with our limited time there. Obvs times square/Rockefeller is a must.
I've been once and it was so weird. The places look huge on tv, but they really aren't. Also, there are no public bathrooms so don't drink a ton of liquid before you walk around.
9/11 Memorial (there's also a museum but again no time to go in); Wall Street (there's a big bull statue); You might get to see the Time Square New Year's ball being assembled and put onto the poll.
Didn't make it to the Statue of Liberty or Empire State Building but I would have wanted to see those if I had more time. You can also walk past The Tonight Show theater.
Post by vlagroupie on Oct 10, 2016 14:34:21 GMT -5
babylove518 ohhhh fun! If you want to do a show, got to the tkts in Times Square to get discounted tiks. Do Empire State or even the top of the rock-not as high but great view of the Empire State Building and probably not as crowded. I honestly enjoyed just walking around different neighborhoods and Central Park and seeing what I came upon. Little Italy is fun, there are some great bakeries to stop for coffee and sweets. Sounds like a fun trip!!
Post by mrscatfarmer13 on Oct 10, 2016 15:46:30 GMT -5
babylove518 that sounds like fun. Since it's December, I would try to snag tickets to see the rockettes Christmas show at Radio City. Top of the rock is good. I would probably skip a show on Broadway fo4 such a short trip. Class is starting so I'll try to think of more things later.
babylove518 ohhhh fun! If you want to do a show, got to the tkts in Times Square to get discounted tiks. Do Empire State or even the top of the rock-not as high but great view of the Empire State Building and probably not as crowded. I honestly enjoyed just walking around different neighborhoods and Central Park and seeing what I came upon. Little Italy is fun, there are some great bakeries to stop for coffee and sweets. Sounds like a fun trip!!
This is me. I like walking and exploring cities and wandering. But NYC can be sketch and there are pick pockets and all that jazz- so having a plan and knowing the general layout of the city and where you are is a good idea. It really just depends on what you like to do. Obviously, Times Square and Madison Ave, the 9/11 monument, Central Park, and the big museums are good places to generally map out a plan, but then maybe just wander in between.
dogmama22 I finally pulled the plug on nursing on Friday. I didn't really plan on it, but had been saying I wanted to be done for a long time. So far it's been 4 days and she's asked for it during our nursing time, and I tell her "Milkies are all gone." and she moves on. I don't regret it, we had a long run at it, much longer than I would have hoped or planned. IMO the sweetest nursing memories were when she was younger, bc she really only was nursing for 5 mins once a day the last couple of months.
dogmama22 I finally pulled the plug on nursing on Friday. I didn't really plan on it, but had been saying I wanted to be done for a long time. So far it's been 4 days and she's asked for it during our nursing time, and I tell her "Milkies are all gone." and she moves on. I don't regret it, we had a long run at it, much longer than I would have hoped or planned. IMO the sweetest nursing memories were when she was younger, bc she really only was nursing for 5 mins once a day the last couple of months.
I knew you were thinking about it, but I wasn't sure if you had stopped completely yet. I definitely agree that the best memories are when he was younger and I already miss those, so I may not be as sad as I think. I'm not sure if he's old enough to totally understand, but I think he should be able to be distracted with a change of routine.
I'll put it out there that I think it's awesome some ladies don't wean until 2, but that absolutely was not a possibility or option for me with DS. He is so tough, so rough, so big, heavy, and long- he would have killed me. At two he was 30 Lbs and 33 inches- I don't even know how I could have laid him down. At 18 months, he was already hanging off my lap and when his molars were coming in, he was not very nice. I just don't even see how people make it that far honestly. And it was tough to take the paci away at 2. I can't imagine his defiance and personality and wanting to control things and trying to wean at the same time.
I'll put it out there that I think it's awesome some ladies don't wean until 2, but that absolutely was not a possibility or option for me with DS. He is so tough, so rough, so big, heavy, and long- he would have killed me. At two he was 30 Lbs and 33 inches- I don't even know how I could have laid him down. At 18 months, he was already hanging off my lap and when his molars were coming in, he was not very nice. I just don't even see how people make it that far honestly. And it was tough to take the paci away at 2. I can't imagine his defiance and personality and wanting to control things and trying to wean at the same time.
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