What's up F13?

[singingsea]

Kind of slow around here so I just wanted to see how everyone was doing. What's new with your kiddos? Any fun fall plans?

[brachysira]

Ack, posted and then saw your post!

[brachysira]

@uncaripswife, oh no! DS had that last year and cried for many days. Pumpkin or apple picking? Maybe a nature center, farmer's market, or other place is having a Halloween event or harvest festival. Zoo Halloween?

[colinsfebmommy]

We have just started our fall activities. We went to pumpkin patch this weekend and got ours, he had a blast. He picked out one that weighed more than him I think LMAO Oh and he went with his Grandma to our Scarecrow fest and he had a blast.

We are FINALLY, FINALLY over the surgery recovery and I have my kid back. Ugh I wish that upon NO parent (or kid).

We leave for vacation is 3 weeks and this will be my nov15 first time on a plane....She is so busy and when she is not happy she yells like a crazy person so I am not looking forward that plane ride.

[pinkie]

Oct 10, 2016 13:53:07 GMT -5 @uncaripswife said:

Our whole house has been felled by HFM. K got it first and then shared her germs. I hope we're all better by Saturday because I'd like to do something fun and fall-like. No idea what though.

Oh no I'm so sorry!!! I hope everyone has a mild case.

[dc2london]

Oct 10, 2016 16:30:50 GMT -5 colinsfebmommy said:

We have just started our fall activities. We went to pumpkin patch this weekend and got ours, he had a blast. He picked out one that weighed more than him I think LMAO Oh and he went with his Grandma to our Scarecrow fest and he had a blast.

We are FINALLY, FINALLY over the surgery recovery and I have my kid back. Ugh I wish that upon NO parent (or kid).

We leave for vacation is 3 weeks and this will be my nov15 first time on a plane....She is so busy and when she is not happy she yells like a crazy person so I am not looking forward that plane ride.

Poor baby, that was a really lengthy recovery

[beenandgone]

Life is falling apart over here, honestly. Literally. Non stop car repairs we can't afford, our garage door broke last night, my husband's wages have been garnished for the past six weeks, so we are now several months behind on every bill with no chance of getting caught up, and worst of all, my husband has been drinking again.

I just don't know where to go or what to do any more. Gave my husband an ultimatum tonight, but the kids and I are probably leaving tomorrow. I'm pretty much buried so far down the rabbit hole of shit piled up here, I can't see the light of day.

[mishka29]

Oct 10, 2016 19:46:44 GMT -5 beenandgone said:

Life is falling apart over here, honestly. Literally. Non stop car repairs we can't afford, our garage door broke last night, my husband's wages have been garnished for the past six weeks, so we are now several months behind on every bill with no chance of getting caught up, and worst of all, my husband has been drinking again.

I just don't know where to go or what to do any more. Gave my husband an ultimatum tonight, but the kids and I are probably leaving tomorrow. I'm pretty much buried so far down the rabbit hole of shit piled up here, I can't see the light of day.

I'm sorry you are going through such a difficult struggle.

[brachysira]

beenandgone, I'm sorry it's such a bad time. I think ultimatums may be necessary in some cases, but as long as you aren't in danger, take it day by day, get a plan if you need to leave, and celebrate every day that everyone survives.

[mishka29]

We were at my ILs this weekend which was fun. But the behaviour we got this afternoon was the worst ever. Just when I think wow she's really growing up then we get a day like this. I was beyond frustrated today. Not gonna lie, kinda wanted to hit my kid. I didn't but I wanted to. As I was carrying her to a timeout she kicked LO in the head on purpose and she thought it was hilarious of course. Ugh

[wineandcake]

We're finally getting married on Saturday so this week is full of last minute prep and travel. Mac is pretty excited for it, mostly because he gets to see nana and papa again.

Otherwise life is just busy as usual. The boys are great and loving the cooler weather. Hunter has his first cold and isn't handling it very well, but it should pass quickly, I hope.

[brachysira]

mishka29, I mutter words of violence towards my children once they are away all the time. I'm not close to hurting them and it's probably not good for me, but there's only so much screaming a person can take.

[beenandgone]

Oct 10, 2016 20:32:02 GMT -5 wineandcake said:

We're finally getting married on Saturday so this week is full of last minute prep and travel. Mac is pretty excited for it, mostly because he gets to see nana and papa again.

Otherwise life is just busy as usual. The boys are great and loving the cooler weather. Hunter has his first cold and isn't handling it very well, but it should pass quickly, I hope.

Congratulations! I hope everything goes calmly and smoothly for you.

[seadragon2013]

beenandgone, I'm sorry that life is throwing so much at you right now. I agree with OPs - just take it day by day and do the best you can to take care of yourself and the kids.

[colinsfebmommy]

beenandgone I'm so so sorry. You do what's right and healthy for you and your littles. Hugs and more hugs

[colinsfebmommy]

Oct 10, 2016 20:31:35 GMT -5 mishka29 said:

We were at my ILs this weekend which was fun. But the behaviour we got this afternoon was the worst ever. Just when I think wow she's really growing up then we get a day like this. I was beyond frustrated today. Not gonna lie, kinda wanted to hit my kid. I didn't but I wanted to. As I was carrying her to a timeout she kicked LO in the head on purpose and she thought it was hilarious of course. Ugh

I have been there we all have our breaking parenting point some days. Hugs!

[singingsea]

I'm so sorry beenandgone sending positive thoughts towards your family. I hope your husband gets his shit together but if not keep doing what you need to do for yourself and your kids. All the hugs!

[singingsea]

Congratulations wineandcake!

[singingsea]

Hi guys! Currently still in newborn survival mode. R is one month old. He's starting to be more alert and I've already gotten a few smiles K loves his brother but we've definitely dealt with some behavior issues which is to be expected. K has been a huge help with the baby. I'm half way through my maternity leave. It's going so fast. So far this fall we've taken K to the renaissance festival. Next week we're taking the kids to the pumpkin festival.

Hope everyone is doing well!

[summer]

beenandgone I'm so, so sorry. Make the best decision for you and your kids. Screw everyone else. My heart breaks for you.

wineandcake congratulations! Have a wonderful, beautiful weekend!

[summer]

We are on week 3 of our three week trip to Italy. The first two weeks were amazing, and then my friends' house (where we are staying) got hit with norovirus. It took out one kid at a time, then when they were better, hit all four adults at once on Sunday. I have never been so sick in my life. But we survived, took the train to Milan yesterday for a quick overnight stay, and will head back to Florence tonight for the rest of our trip. We fly back Monday, then start packing to be out of our house in a week and a half. I'm trying not to think about it too much...

[dc2london]

beenandgone I'm so sorry. Relapses are common, unfortunately, especially in the first 6 months. Is he going to meetings?

[beenandgone]

Oct 11, 2016 8:15:30 GMT -5 dc2london said:

beenandgone I'm so sorry. Relapses are common, unfortunately, especially in the first 6 months. Is he going to meetings?

Apparently no. :mad:

[dc2london]

wineandcake congratulations!!

[kleigh926]

So sorry beenandgone, that all sounds incredibly frustrating and stressful.

Things are okay around here. DD starts preschool next week and I'm hoping she enjoys it. I just got the newsletter about it today and it sounds like a lot of fun, but she does have some separation anxiety and until she gets used to it she may be throwing some fits. DS is progressing slowly but surely. Still trying to find an effective treatment for his seizures as they have been more frequent over the past couple months. DH's job is extremely mentally taxing and by the time he gets home he is exhausted and very short on patience. He has a hard time dealing with our kids and sometimes I end up taking them somewhere just to keep them away from him. It sucks, there is so much tension in our house when he is home most of the time. Things should get better eventually but it'll be tough until then.

We're looking forward to trick-or-treat, carving our pumpkins, and our church's fall barn party at the end of October. Enjoying the cooler weather here too!

[colinsfebmommy]

summer, super jealous of your trip!!! Just not the sick part that sucks.

beenandgone, So you doing ok?

[expatmama]

I'm 2 months into my new, 'dream' job and it's been really amazing, but also a lot to juggle with keeping kids where they need to be and also finding time for myself. So far so good, but we will see if I need to bring down my hours a bit to make it all work or not -- but so far we are doing well.

DS1 started real school so our morning logistics are tricky, but he loves it. He's learning a 3rd language there and floors me with how fast it is going. DS2 has moved up to the big kids group at day care and likes it but finds the big kids a bit much at times. We are doing swimming twice a week this semester which is intense, but both kids LOVE it so even if we are exhausted, they are in such great spirits it is fun. DS1 and I also do a riding lesson back to back once a week and then there are scouts, which here is mostly hiking in the woods with other families. So yeah, we are full swing crazy here.

summer -- Glad you are enjoying Italy even if Novovirus is a bitch. In the local language here they just call it 'winter puking disease' which I think sums it up well. At least you will be in the clear by flight time. Had friends that got stuck in Japan when they got it the night before they were flying home.

beenandgone -- Much love to you. As the child of an alcoholic, please please keep in mind that your kids know and understand more than you will ever want to know. And please try to protect them even if it means taking a step away from your husband. I am sorry if this is obnoxious, this remains my biggest struggle a grown child of an alcoholic. My alcoholic parent is in recovery and has been for years. I understand their addiction. I don't understand how my sober parent didn't get us the fuck out of there. But we are mostly good now. They are still married. And they are close to my kids. But if there are any signs of relapse I will be out of BOTH of their lives so fast the door would hit them on the way out.

[beenandgone]

colinsfebmommy Honestly, not great. I'm so overwhelmed by evening that is happening, I don't know where to start trying to fix things, and I just feel like I'm suffocating most of the time. To compounds things, I can't sleep because I'm so worried about things.

[sagen]

HFM sucks I am sorry @uncaripswife. Good luck on the plane and have a fun trip colinsfebmommy.

I feel sick every minute, so I am wishing fall away. I am enjoying the nice weather though. We have stayed busy with soccer, tutoring, scouts, guitar, my husband having a minor surgery tomorrow, then a big test in November. I can't wait till life calms down just a little. All I want to do is sleep

[colinsfebmommy]

Oct 11, 2016 15:56:01 GMT -5 beenandgone said:

colinsfebmommy Honestly, not great. I'm so overwhelmed by evening that is happening, I don't know where to start trying to fix things, and I just feel like I'm suffocating most of the time. To compounds things, I can't sleep because I'm so worried about things.

Oh hun! you need to take care of yourself first so you can concentrate on your little ones then. I am so very sorry for all you are going through. Wish I could help.