Welp, I'm pretty sure that the peanut was hungry and that's why he wouldn't sleep! I fed him every two hours yesterday and also gave him a few bottles of 15mls in the evening - and he slept from 9pm - 2am. Whoah!!
Welp, I'm pretty sure that the peanut was hungry and that's why he wouldn't sleep! I fed him every two hours yesterday and also gave him a few bottles of 15mls in the evening - and he slept from 9pm - 2am. Whoah!!
That's frustrating that the LC previously told you that 2oz during a breastfeeding session was enough & discharged you. Sounds like your gut was right all along. Sorry you have had so many feeding challenges! I have been having several feeding challenges myself with LO but of a different sort. She's now 12 weeks and finally starting to get better with latch (after 2 tongue tie revisions & a lip tie revision)
I'm starting to doubt myself a lot. I've been spending the majority of my day convincing the baby to nap and then several hours in the early morning holding her up so she can sleep. I know sleep is so important for her and I feel like I've failed her by not figuring it out. And when I'm not thinking about her sleep I'm stressed about milestones and what she is or isn't doing yet and what things I should or shouldn't be doing with her.
I'm starting to doubt myself a lot. I've been spending the majority of my day convincing the baby to nap and then several hours in the early morning holding her up so she can sleep. I know sleep is so important for her and I feel like I've failed her by not figuring it out. And when I'm not thinking about her sleep I'm stressed about milestones and what she is or isn't doing yet and what things I should or shouldn't be doing with her.
Oh hugs! The sleep books put so much stupid pressure on. My first two were awful sleepers until we Ferberized them (which, for our family, was a good choice). They are both doing great at 4.5 and 2.
I read a great article lately that said just doing life lovingly and patiently with your young kid was shown to build the brain better than any enhancement activity.
hannahbear woot! Hooray for a longer stretch! pttomato don't be so hard on yourself. You're doing a fantastic job. Your DD is still really little and she might not even know what she wants. I know everyone says it, but it's true - eventually she will fall into a routine and sleep will get better. DD1 slept in the swing for the majority of her first 2 months. You do what you have to do!
Paw Patrol is parenting for a few and DS is napping in the bouncer. He barely slept yesterday and I think he's exhausted. I'm having some much needed caffeine - hot coffee is such a treat nowadays.
We're going to take the plunge and attempt to potty train DD2 this weekend. The prospect of having her out of diapers is too tempting right now. I know she's ready, but she's also really stubborn so this could go either way.
ETA this article. I'm sure many of you have seen this, but I love it and it's a good reminder that all the advice is just that - advice, and won't work for everyone. Not to mention all the conflicting opinions out there making you feel like you can't do anything "right".
I'm starting to doubt myself a lot. I've been spending the majority of my day convincing the baby to nap and then several hours in the early morning holding her up so she can sleep. I know sleep is so important for her and I feel like I've failed her by not figuring it out. And when I'm not thinking about her sleep I'm stressed about milestones and what she is or isn't doing yet and what things I should or shouldn't be doing with her.
Oh hugs! The sleep books put so much stupid pressure on. My first two were awful sleepers until we Ferberized them (which, for our family, was a good choice). They are both doing great at 4.5 and 2.
I read a great article lately that said just doing life lovingly and patiently with your young kid was shown to build the brain better than any enhancement activity.
This. Talk to them, look at them and make faces, sing to them, etc. All the gimmicks are just extras there to make money
Thanks for the reassurance. The sleep deprivation combined with not having much to do outside of taking care of DD is hard. I should probably take a break from parenting books/sites and find something else to take some of my focus off the baby. I just haven't figured out how to accomplish that yet.
Welp, I'm pretty sure that the peanut was hungry and that's why he wouldn't sleep! I fed him every two hours yesterday and also gave him a few bottles of 15mls in the evening - and he slept from 9pm - 2am. Whoah!!
That's frustrating that the LC previously told you that 2oz during a breastfeeding session was enough & discharged you. Sounds like your gut was right all along. Sorry you have had so many feeding challenges! I have been having several feeding challenges myself with LO but of a different sort. She's now 12 weeks and finally starting to get better with latch (after 2 tongue tie revisions & a lip tie revision)
Thanks, friend. Professionals keep telling me - he's ready for breast only! When it seems like he really isn't. So, I'll just keep chugging along. It seems like he really just needs a few extra ounces each day to make a difference for both sleep and weight gain - and that's really not so bad!
Also, whoah, 2 tongue tie revisions??? Did it grow back or something? Gosh, that's a pain. I'm glad things are finally on the up and up for you both!!
I'm starting to doubt myself a lot. I've been spending the majority of my day convincing the baby to nap and then several hours in the early morning holding her up so she can sleep. I know sleep is so important for her and I feel like I've failed her by not figuring it out. And when I'm not thinking about her sleep I'm stressed about milestones and what she is or isn't doing yet and what things I should or shouldn't be doing with her.
I totally relate to this. I have spent so much time trying to figure out how to get this kid to nap! I'm kind of trying to just go with it - if I've been trying to get him to sleep for a long time and it isn't working, I do something else. Go for a walk, put him in the baby carrier, whatever. Half the time he ends up falling asleep then anyways.
Post by gratefulgirl on Oct 11, 2016 10:50:04 GMT -5
Since her shots DD3 has been increasingly pacifier averse (except MOTN). This is new to me. Both older girls would always take it for sleep if offered.
I am having so much fun getting baby dressed each day. I love revisiting all of DD1's cute clothes. Then I'm like, ok spit up or drool or something so we can get out a new outfit! Clearly I have problems haha!
Since her shots DD3 has been increasingly pacifier averse (except MOTN). This is new to me. Both older girls would always take it for sleep if offered.
Well, on the bright side maybe you won't have to transition her away from it if she just gives it up on her own. Both my girls haven't really been into a paci, so I just looked at it as a blessing in disguise.
pttomato I'm not good at my own advice with #2. But nothing you do or don't do will predict future sleep habits. I do feel kids reach sleep milestones at their own pace despite what parents do. DD was an awful napper from 3 months until 1.5 years. Like only napped 20 minutes, 3 times a day. She was pleasant though. When she transitioned to 1 nap she started napping for 2-3 hours! There was nothing I did to impact her longer naps. You are doing a great job! Parenting his hard. I second guess myself with DS despite knowing all the above.
I am having so much fun getting baby dressed each day. I love revisiting all of DD1's cute clothes. Then I'm like, ok spit up or drool or something so we can get out a new outfit! Clearly I have problems haha!
Me (30) MH (32) Dx: MFI (low all the things) M. 10/11. TTC Since 01/14 IUI#1-3(Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN Second Opinion. Changed RE's. IVF 09/15 Long Lupron 12R/9M/8F, Transferred 1=BFN. 4 frosties. FET #1 12/15 Transferred 1 (3 still on ice)
I am having so much fun getting baby dressed each day. I love revisiting all of DD1's cute clothes. Then I'm like, ok spit up or drool or something so we can get out a new outfit! Clearly I have problems haha!
I'm the same way!!
Me too! I love it more with my daughter but still like it with DS.
We got back late last night from visiting family in Chicago. I lived seeing DD interacting so well with her cousins. DS was a smile machine when he wasn't fussing and he forgot how to sleep. Maybe there is something about the 6 week Wonder Week.
My newest niece's baptism was on Sunday so we got to see extended family I hadn't seen in a while. DS was mostly ok in the carrier but i did have to walk out a few times. Although I have never once questioned my conversion to Judaism I am not really comfortable attending a church service . It is really unnecessary to be reminded, the way some family members did, that I left the faith.
I am concerned about my 7 1/2 year old niece. According to my SIL, E is struggling in school, being tested for dyslexia and other learning differences and my sister is too busy with her 2 babies from her second marriage to give her the extra attention she needs.. I think my sister is overwhelmed and battling depression rather than deliberately neglecting her older daughter's educational needs. It's hard to hear a 2nd grader say she's stupid and hates going to school because she can't keep up with the other children.
Formerly MoFree on the other board. TTC since 2008 Diagnosis of Severe MFI 3-2009 IVF#1 Nov 2011, BFP DD born @31 weeks gestation, 6-24-12 FET#1, Nov 2013,, BFN FET#2, Feb 2014, BFN Freeze only cycle with PGD August 2014 FET #3 another BFN FET canceled due to cysts FET #4 Dec 2015, BFP Baby Boy born 8-28-16 via VBAC
Thanks for the reassurance. The sleep deprivation combined with not having much to do outside of taking care of DD is hard. I should probably take a break from parenting books/sites and find something else to take some of my focus off the baby. I just haven't figured out how to accomplish that yet.
I am usually all about research and reading up on things, but I stopped reading about baby and young child care. I felt like the advice given wasn't right for me/us, or that the expectations were wrong, or whatever. I had to just do what felt right and seemed to work for us, because they started making me feel bad about myself as a mother, which affected other aspects of my life. When being mom is the primary piece of what life is right now, questioning it really is painful.
blueinred liked for watching DD with cousins. That's sad to hear about your niece. Is there anyway you can talk to your sister? Or would she become defensive?
Me (30) MH (32) Dx: MFI (low all the things) M. 10/11. TTC Since 01/14 IUI#1-3(Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN Second Opinion. Changed RE's. IVF 09/15 Long Lupron 12R/9M/8F, Transferred 1=BFN. 4 frosties. FET #1 12/15 Transferred 1 (3 still on ice)
Ahh...I'm an awful swaddler. Without the Velcro blankets, I'd be doomed. But then the strong velcro gets stuck on things and ruins them.
I wash anything with Velcro in a mesh bag. Then it just stick to other things in the bag. I also use them for all her little socks.
Haha, I do this too, but I mean even when the Velcro undoes itself a little when still holding the baby, it gets stuck to my shirt or muslin blankets I am holding.
Thanks for the reassurance. The sleep deprivation combined with not having much to do outside of taking care of DD is hard. I should probably take a break from parenting books/sites and find something else to take some of my focus off the baby. I just haven't figured out how to accomplish that yet.
I am usually all about research and reading up on things, but I stopped reading about baby and young child care. I felt like the advice given wasn't right for me/us, or that the expectations were wrong, or whatever. I had to just do what felt right and seemed to work for us, because they started making me feel bad about myself as a mother, which affected other aspects of my life. When being mom is the primary piece of what life is right now, questioning it really is painful.
I was doing good at avoiding a lot of it until it felt like nothing was working. Once I started to look for ideas to help with napping it was easy to fall into the black hole of parenting advice. It's tough because I feel like I need to fix the sleep problems soon because DH wants to CIO when she hits 3 months and I really don't.
pttomato that's hard when you and DH are on different pages regarding CIO. It really only works if both parents are on board. And 3 months is on the early side..I only say that because you aren't in favor. At 3 months they usually do fall into a pattern and get better. The "4th Trimester" is over. It's hard to see the light at the end of that tunnel..myself included.
I am usually all about research and reading up on things, but I stopped reading about baby and young child care. I felt like the advice given wasn't right for me/us, or that the expectations were wrong, or whatever. I had to just do what felt right and seemed to work for us, because they started making me feel bad about myself as a mother, which affected other aspects of my life. When being mom is the primary piece of what life is right now, questioning it really is painful.
I was doing good at avoiding a lot of it until it felt like nothing was working. Once I started to look for ideas to help with napping it was easy to fall into the black hole of parenting advice. It's tough because I feel like I need to fix the sleep problems soon because DH wants to CIO when she hits 3 months and I really don't.
Look into the no cry methods from Secrets of the Baby Whisperer - pick up/put down in particular. It is great for getting littles to fall asleep on their own even though she says it is too stimulating under 4 months. It isn't. DD2 still did not sleep well after that due to gas/paci addiction, but she put herself to sleep.
That said I don't expect my kids to drop night feeds until much older.
I was doing good at avoiding a lot of it until it felt like nothing was working. Once I started to look for ideas to help with napping it was easy to fall into the black hole of parenting advice. It's tough because I feel like I need to fix the sleep problems soon because DH wants to CIO when she hits 3 months and I really don't.
Look into the no cry methods from Secrets of the Baby Whisperer - pick up/put down in particular. It is great for getting littles to fall asleep on their own even though she says it is too stimulating under 4 months. It isn't. DD2 still did not sleep well after that due to gas/paci addiction, but she put herself to sleep.
That said I don't expect my kids to drop night feeds until much older.
I really think if I could solve her early morning sleep issues then a lot of the rest of it would be easier because she wouldn't be so tired all the time. I know she can nap well if she's not overtired. On Sunday she took 3 good naps including a 3 hour one in her crib and went to bed easily. And once she's asleep for the night she'll have a 5 hour stretch and goes right back to sleep after MOTN feeds.
But I don't think sleep training will work on the early morning problems since she isn't even really awake. She doesn't want to eat and holding her only helps if she's upright. Like cradling her doesn't do anything but propping her up against my legs usually helps. I've tried leaving her her alone and just letting her grunt and toss and turn but then she wakes up even more tired from the fitfull sleep. Letting her sleep in the rock and play seems to help so that the bad sleep starts later but it doesn't completely eliminate it. IDK if she has bad gas or what's wrong but she seems like she is increasingly uncomfortable until she wakes up in the morning. She has her 2 month appt today so I'll ask the pedi but I suspect they'll say it's just normal gas because DD is growing well and doesn't cry a lot.
Ahh...I'm an awful swaddler. Without the Velcro blankets, I'd be doomed. But then the strong velcro gets stuck on things and ruins them.
I typically only buy snap diapers for this reason.
I have redone the swaddle five times now. Four times before I actually fell asleep.
H doesn't help a whole lot with DD (does more for the big kids) but I'm missing his swaddle big time!!!
Just remembered what I did with dd1 when I could get her swaddle to say put. I used a snappie!!! I cut the gripper that hangs down off and just kept the side ines. It kept everything together and tight. Not sure when your DH will be home but you might want to give it a try during a nap or something.
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