Post by pbandjelly on Oct 12, 2016 12:39:51 GMT -5
MIL said we should be doing CIO with our then 38 week preemie. I rolled my eyes and made sure H knew we will not be doing CIO at any age, especially at that age.
No shade to anyone who successfully uses cio but I am way more "attachment parent" than I ever imagined I would be. I just can't let my kids cry that long. It causes me soooo much stress even to hear my baby protesting her carseat while I am driving. Crying sends me into "fix it!!" mode, I couldn't walk away and leave my kid in their room while crying.
No shade to anyone who successfully uses cio but I am way more "attachment parent" than I ever imagined I would be. I just can't let my kids cry that long. It causes me soooo much stress even to hear my baby protesting her carseat while I am driving. Crying sends me into "fix it!!" mode, I couldn't walk away and leave my kid in their room while crying.
This. I definitely don't judge those who use it, but I won't for the same reasons. I was rolling my eyes at MIL saying we should be doing CIO on a preemie we were still under doctor's orders to wake to feed every 3 hours.
My anxiety is at a high point lately. I've been panicking about death. I've always had a fear of it but now it's ruining my life. I think it's time for me to find someone to talk to or something.
Do we hate Wednesdays here? We've skipped that day for randoms a few times!
steph you could be PP hormones making the anxiety worse, however definitely consider talking to someone about it. And finding a solution to minimize that fear. And yes I noticed that Wed was skipped again. Guess we don't like that day. Haha.
Oh on a lighter note, my baby has been smiling at me over the past few days! I was worried about that. I guess since he was a couple of weeks early I just have to be patient.
meagpt22 I'm sure PP hormones are intensifying it. I've considered waiting it out for a few months but I just don't think that's a good idea either.
Steph, my PPA has been really intense and I finally saw my ob and then a psychiatrist to get on meds. I'm so so glad I did. I hope that you can find some relief soon. I know how awful it can be.
No shade to anyone who successfully uses cio but I am way more "attachment parent" than I ever imagined I would be. I just can't let my kids cry that long. It causes me soooo much stress even to hear my baby protesting her carseat while I am driving. Crying sends me into "fix it!!" mode, I couldn't walk away and leave my kid in their room while crying.
My mom is like this and as a result I didn't STTN until 18 months! Finally my dad forced her to try CIO and I started STTN that week.
ETA: Not trying to say this will happen to you! My sisters STTN way earlier than I did. I imagine, like anything else, that different methods work better for different babies.
My anxiety is at a high point lately. I've been panicking about death. I've always had a fear of it but now it's ruining my life. I think it's time for me to find someone to talk to or something.
Do we hate Wednesdays here? We've skipped that day for randoms a few times!
I'm really sorry you're having such a hard time. I am on Zoloft, it is safe for BF and definitely helps my PPA.
No shade to anyone who successfully uses cio but I am way more "attachment parent" than I ever imagined I would be. I just can't let my kids cry that long. It causes me soooo much stress even to hear my baby protesting her carseat while I am driving. Crying sends me into "fix it!!" mode, I couldn't walk away and leave my kid in their room while crying.
My mom is like this and as a result I didn't STTN until 18 months! Finally my dad forced her to try CIO and I started STTN that week.
ETA: Not trying to say this will happen to you! My sisters STTN way earlier than I did. I imagine, like anything else, that different methods work better for different babies.
My mom was an attachment parent before it was a thing - breastfeeding, babywearing, occasional co-sleeping, and my brother and I were terrible sleepers as infants and from the descriptions overtired messes (I probably also had reflux). But we are both good sleepers now. My mom definitely suffered from our poor sleep, but that was her choice to some extent (the reflux part not so much). But I am really glad AP works so well for so many.
I need my sleep to function and need my kids to be as rested as is reasonable to expect, and so we do what works to get us there. I don't think anyone should ever feel bad about letting their kid struggle some in learning a new skill (independent sleep) at a reasonable age - reasonable being what you and your pediatrician agree on.
Re CIO: with DD is was our only option when she hit the 9 month regression. I was against trying it until it was our only option. Rocking, rubbing back, co sleeping all resulted in the same result-> no sleep. Thankfully after a few days she started sleeping again with min tears. Even now if she gets up in MOTN (rare) we have to go in, check on her, then let her cry. It's awful hearing it but for her the only thing that worked. We shall see what works for this little guy.
Post by hannahbear on Oct 12, 2016 22:58:30 GMT -5
You guys might be interested in a podcast I just heard called Science Vs - it takes a controversial topic (like there's one on frakking, for example - did I spell that right? Lol) and digs into the scientific literature. They just did one on attachment parenting. Totally worth a listen!
No shade to anyone who successfully uses cio but I am way more "attachment parent" than I ever imagined I would be. I just can't let my kids cry that long. It causes me soooo much stress even to hear my baby protesting her carseat while I am driving. Crying sends me into "fix it!!" mode, I couldn't walk away and leave my kid in their room while crying.
My mom is like this and as a result I didn't STTN until 18 months! Finally my dad forced her to try CIO and I started STTN that week.
ETA: Not trying to say this will happen to you! My sisters STTN way earlier than I did. I imagine, like anything else, that different methods work better for different babies.
Oh, I know I have miracle kids. DD1 went like clockwork to minimizing wakeups overnight and has been a good sttn-er for quite some time. DD2 already has consistent 7hr chunks overnight, even sharing the bed with the toddler and mommy, too. I totally get that my experience is not everyone's. I just know I am not psychologically able to conceive of cio methods for myself. I am sure it wouldn't be so hard to imagine if my kids didn't like to sleep.
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