I scheduled my mtg with HR for next week. I need to make sure I understand the maternity leave process. I'm sure it's pretty straightforward but just in case. Plus I found out we enroll in benefits this month. So, I have to figure out if it saves us money to all be on my insurance policy and at what level (I've had the gold level since I've been seeing the RE). If I could save tons of money, then I'd just do hmo.
And work needs to slow the eff down. Or stop bugging me. I am ready to stop caring...too much unneeded stress.
Anyone want to share their maternity leave survival strategy? I remember feeling very lonely last time and bored. The most I did was take pics, upload to shutterfly and wait for the prints to organize in albums. And no one I knew was around during the day to visit.
littlelion I'm sorry work continues to suck. Hope you find an insurance that works and saves money!
As for maternity leave, I didn't have a job. We moved when I was almost 6 months pregnant, and I doubted anyone was going to hire me only to leave in a couple months. I became a stay-at-home-soon-to-be-parent. I did a lot of meal planning, preparing freezer meals, moving furniture around (much to my DH's "delight"). I knew the last thing I wanted was to actually cook with a new baby, so I prepared really early. It helped out a lot, because it was super easy. So easy, even DH could follow the directions and make it. I also played a lot of video games. It killed a lot of time being a dragonslayer.
Yesterday was nuts! I couldn't get off the phone to save my life. Lining up an inspector, talking about the appraisal getting done, working everything out with the realtor. DH has all these questions, but wants me to call. He's in SC for work. I know he works with utility companies, so he's helping!
Today is day 3 of on my own with LO. So far, so good. She blew a lot of energy yesterday jumping around. I'm trying to let her walking around the store with me instead of just sitting in the cart, but she tries to run the opposite direction and knock everything off the shelf. I think it's time to invest in a toddler backpack harness. (It sounds better than leash, which is what my parents say was necessary with me.)
Nothing planned today. I'm hoping I don't have to deal with house stuff, because I'm kind of over it now. Maybe we'll go to Target for absolutely nothing and come out spending $40.
Post by littlelion on Oct 12, 2016 10:29:43 GMT -5
It's my mom's bday today. I don't usually feel too sad these last few yrs. I try to make it more about celebrating her. But aside from the hormones, being pregnant on her bday makes me want to get under the covers and have a good cry because she'll never know my kids or them her.
LO was a mess again today when I dropped him off at DC...he hasn't talk to daddy in 2 days... hubby tried to call last night but we were already in bed... I hope he has time tonight to talk or face time... I miss him too! I know Lo is confused but I don't know what to do ... anyone have any suggestions... We had a meeting at DC last night about the new menu and they had some samples for us to taste, this new veggie lasagna was amazing... and LO loved all the fresh fruit... I just have to get through today and tomorrow then I am off for 5 days! I finally gave in to the cold and got an antibiotic... Also my MIL just called me to discuss her flight home ( I am her pick up from the airport), and I asked her about my new niece and she said she is doing good, I am ready for a another one and she said I know he already told me.. so maybe hubby is starting to come back to the TTC side, he keeps going back and forth!
Post by ourcrazynavylife on Oct 12, 2016 11:00:24 GMT -5
Hiiii everybody
littlelion I highly suggest trying to find one of those free mommy groups. Even if you're getting out of the house just once a week can make a huge difference.
Post by littlelion on Oct 12, 2016 11:06:58 GMT -5
babyw15 I like to show Leo videos or pics of DH when he starts asking for his daddy. Dh also calls nightly but usually at bedtime. (Dh works 2nd shift)
You guys!!!!! Look how handsome my little man is. Yes I am totally AWing right now!!! This is his first time taking postures at DC that he is not crying his eyes out!!! So.Darn.Cute!
littlelion with the second it can still be lonely, but you will be WAY busier (no sleeping when the baby sleeps unless Leo will be at D.C.). I second the mommy group idea. That can be really helpful.
So many cute toddlers in this thread! They're getting so big babyw15 my DH travels a ton for work. We try to face time, and when that's not possible we look at pictures of daddy and Leo. It is confusing for them, but pics and phone calls help!
I miss you ladies! My DH has been traveling almost every week since September for a few days at a time so I have been doing lots of solo parenting and not much checking in. How are all the pregnant ladies feeling? I had today off and took Leo to the zoo with a friend. Perfect weather! DH and I are leaving Leo with my mom for The first time for the weekend while we go to Maine. I'm so anxious!! AW
Post by littlelion on Oct 12, 2016 19:09:19 GMT -5
ourcrazynavylife do you carve your pumpkins? I'd like to visit a pumpkin patch but don't want to carve. Such a mess esp after the squirrels get into it. I'm thinking of buying one with a goofy face painted on it already.
Post by ourcrazynavylife on Oct 12, 2016 19:17:47 GMT -5
littlelion I made bats and vampires out of teeny pumpkins a few years ago. We didn't get a pumpkin last year because the pickings were slim. Lol. I got her a pumpkin balloon instead.
littlelion I also recommend joining play groups. I tried to get out with F twice a week and we met so many new friends. A year and a half later we still get together regularly and it's so fun watching the babies grow up together! Plus it's great to have a support system of mamas going through the same things as you
I started by joining a "mother's circle" group for my city on Facebook where people post what's going each day. Turns out our city has an early years program that hosts drop in play groups at elementary schools around the city each day of the week. There are different groups for different ages of babies, or 0-6 groups that people bring multiple kids to. Mother's circle was nice when F was a newborn, we would just chat about what we were going through, give each other advice and there was an expert guest each week - infant massage, CPR, nutritionist, etc.
Post by laceysbryan on Oct 12, 2016 20:56:32 GMT -5
*waves frantically from pile of reading* Still here! We had an excellent weekend at my parents' house and I was super productive Monday on my day off since I did zero school work over the weekend. Can I TGIW? Ready for the weekend already. Quick AW from our ride home
Busy day here. Dh took the day off and we went to the zoo. They did a little enrichment for some of the animals with pumpkin treats. Poor lo was beside himself when we got to the bear exhibit. The bears were knocking over their treats and for whatever reason lo just burst into tears. Even when we were watching the video later he started crying about it. Toddlers are so weird. As for me, I headed to the eye doctor when we got home. My eye was all red and itchy again. Eye doc said it's a "low grade infection" so back on eyedrops, this time with a steroid. At least it's only every 6 hours instead of every 4. Sliver linings, right?
littlelion does your library have any story times or baby programs? We did that with lo and it was great. And hugs to you today. raven glad you're surviving the week so far! Keeping fx the rest of the house buying process goes smoothly for you. babyw15 poor guy missing his dad. Was he able to talk to him tonight? And that pic is adorable, btw! ourcrazynavylife I think your dishes have joined forces with my laundry. And thanks for the reminder to get to the pumpkin patch! Dh and I keep talking about it but never get around to actually making plans. sgio7485 have a great time in your trip! Lo will have so much fun having grandma time and you'll get some adult time. Win-win. Love that pic of him! megpie5 that's so cute! laceysbryan only a couple more days to the weekend.
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