Post by bocaburger on Oct 14, 2016 16:43:30 GMT -5
steph I'm glad you made an appointment, I hope therapy helps you work through that anxiety!
hannahbear I think EP could be a really good solution for you. Hopefully it will decrease your stress levels but still allow E to benefit from BM.
Thanks for the birthday wishes everyone! I had a great day. My parents watched the babies this morning so H and I could go out for brunch. It was so nice to get away for a bit.
steph hugs. I hope you get the support you need. I didn't get to respond to your post yesterday about being scared of death...I understand that fear and how pervasive it can be. You are going through a lot and I hope you can get some respite from these difficult thoughts and worries.
hannahbear you are doing so much for your baby boy and I'm sorry it has been so hard. I hope that you can find peace in whatever solution ends up being ideal for you both.
hannahbear, I'm EPing now. It's not always easy, but it works for us. I found a private EP group on FB that's been super helpful. Let me know if you want the info to join.
hannahbear, I'm EPing now. It's not always easy, but it works for us. I found a private EP group on FB that's been super helpful. Let me know if you want the info to join.
Yes please, that would be great. So far, today has been pretty good. Of course, my H took the day off so I have no idea how it will go without him around!
hannahbear so many hugs. I'm glad your DH was able to help.
I had a meltdown this morning. Both kids were up last night and I'm just exhausted. B had to take her scooter and helmet to school today and her helmet is MIA. I started panicking. We ended up going to Walmart and buying her a new one. I came home, took a shower, and called a therapist. I have an appt next Wed. DH told me he'd leave work early so I could rest, but that didn't happen
I have these periods of "i just can't do this on my own anymore" and they're getting more and more frequent
Hugs. It's probably hormones (I don't mean for that to sound at all dismissive, just to say that it will get better). Parenting 3 little people is overwhelming sometimes
Post by coffeequeen14 on Oct 14, 2016 20:24:38 GMT -5
We are on day 14 of vacation. All three kids are losing their minds.
DD slept eight hours last night!!!! I FaceTimed H to help me swaddle her the way she likes:)
Back to work Monday and of course I'm coming down with a cold.
Fun story of the day: we were at a park and I carried DD in the ergo for a while. S1 got stuck at the top of a climbing structure like two stories tall so I gave DD to my SIL so I could climb up to help get him down. Some guy that had seen her in the ergo practically screamed when he saw me 2/3 of the way up because he thought I still had DD in the carrier.
B has been crying for the past hour because her fish is dying. It's heartbreaking. I told my mom I didn't want anymore pets for this exact reason after my chinchilla died and the very next day she got B a fish. DH just went up and told her he's going to get him medicine tomorrow- which actually means he's going to get a new fish to replace this one.
hannahbear, I'm EPing now. It's not always easy, but it works for us. I found a private EP group on FB that's been super helpful. Let me know if you want the info to join.
I EPed for the first couple of months and it actually helped get my supply up. Now that she's older & tongue tie resolved etc she's started to finally latch good & able to get enough at the breast. She's 12w and just started doing this within the last week. EPing is hard but I'm glad i stuck it out while I did
Post by hannahbear on Oct 14, 2016 22:16:37 GMT -5
You all are making it sound unusual to eat chocolate chips out of the bag? lol
Wow I had no idea we had so many EPers in A16! katelm part of why I'm so hesitant is that after all this time, he finally does latch. But he doesn't eat enough, I don't know what it is. The milk is there, he just leaves it behind. E is almost 11 weeks. Maybe as he gets bigger and stronger it will work. Did you keeping putting her back to breast often? This might be silly, but I'm afraid E will forget everything he's learned if I switch to EPing
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You all are making it sound unusual to eat chocolate chips out of the bag? lol
Wow I had no idea we had so many EPers in A16! katelm part of why I'm so hesitant is that after all this time, he finally does latch. But he doesn't eat enough, I don't know what it is. The milk is there, he just leaves it behind. E is almost 11 weeks. Maybe as he gets bigger and stronger it will work. Did you keeping putting her back to breast often? This might be silly, but I'm afraid E will forget everything he's learned if I switch to EPing
He won't forget! Just make sure to stick with a slow flow nipple. I used dr browns bottles & the preemie nipple. This will help prevent future bottle preference
I would suggest EPing to get his weight up, get him used to being full & knowing what a full 4oz feed feels like (this was part of our issue ...my daughter would just drink enough to curb hunger). He will get better as he gets bigger but can't get bigger without eating enough first. It's a vicious cycle!!
Try putting him on the breast once a day if that's all you can manage. Do it during a time that's not stressful. I would also suggest renting the Madela breastfeeding intake scale, I've had one at home for a few months now. That's how I measured our progress. For a long time the most I could manage was 1 breastfeeding session a day and it sucked. There were times I would go a week and not breastfeed because of nipple damage. He won't just forget overnight.
Do they know why he's not getting enough at the breast? Is he being lazy with sucking it out? This was my daughters issue, she had weak sucking muscles & got fatigued very fast
katelm yeah, I think it's the lazy eater thing. He had a tongue tie revision when he was a week old or so. He wouldn't latch at all in the hospital, but now will always latch if I use a nipple shield - though now I wonder if that's just too much effort for the little guy.
B has been crying for the past hour because her fish is dying. It's heartbreaking. I told my mom I didn't want anymore pets for this exact reason after my chinchilla died and the very next day she got B a fish. DH just went up and told her he's going to get him medicine tomorrow- which actually means he's going to get a new fish to replace this one.
We have a Costco size bag of chocolate chips in the basement pantry, so it is standard operating procedure to grab a handful every time I go down there.
katelm yeah, I think it's the lazy eater thing. He had a tongue tie revision when he was a week old or so. He wouldn't latch at all in the hospital, but now will always latch if I use a nipple shield - though now I wonder if that's just too much effort for the little guy.
Sounds like exactly what I went through. So a few things: 1. Not enough of the tie was released (our case) or it grew back. The second time we had it done with laser. 2. He needs to relearn how to suck properly once the tie has been released. This is why I went to a feeding specialist (that's a speech pathologist) weekly for several months. We were referred by our IBCLC. As part of this work with a feeding specialist he also needs to strengthen these muscles. This is crucial. If his muscles are still weak then he won't be able to eat efficiently. This was the case with my daughter ....after an hour on the breast she would get 1oz. She would sleep constantly and was just so worn out. I always had to pump after to keep supply up & then bottle feed her so she got enough. It was so tiring/exhausting. She had her first tongue tie revision done day 4 of life but apparently they learn how to suck properly in utero so she had already learned "wrong."
I'm highly suspicious that both are going on (for sure #2)
I already mentioned the dead remote batteries in the MOTN post, but there's more. H sometimes watches The Middle on Hallmark channel at night, so the tv is stuck on that channel. Cannot handle watching I Love Lucy at 5:30 in the morning! It's a good show, but that's just too much.
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