So G has suddenly become terrified of her own startle reflex. If she is laying on her back and something startles her (a sneeze, for example) she gets this wide eyed look of panic and starts screaming hysterically. It takes anywhere from 5 minutes to an hour to calm her down and is really not fun. Any suggestions? We can't keep her swaddled all day and I don't know how else to avoid her startling.
A literal hour? That's really rough. I am so sorry!
We went for a weight check today. E gained 5 ounces in 5 days! That's the most he's ever gained in that period of time. I feel like I have my answer. EP it is. Side note: I love the pediatrician. He was so lovely and supportive this entire time, and I feel like he's really spent a lot of time trying to help me, not just E. He spent a while today trying to help me feel ok with this decision.
Congrats on the weight gain! I'm glad you have a plan!
I've been having a hard time getting O into the rock n play without her waking up, so I've basically developed this nice little dance I have to do to get her in just so. It really is quite intricate and ridiculous!
Post by hummingbird125 on Oct 18, 2016 19:58:22 GMT -5
Help. I want to cry (I have cried). Today has been awful.
DS has probably slept a total of 2 hours since 9am this morning. That's two hours out of TWELVE. We have tried everything. He keeps fighting sleep so much and even when he does go down, he wakes up too soon after. DH and I have taken turns with him all day long but we are both exhausted. I'm out of ideas and so depressed right now. I know this baby needs sleep but I just don't know how to get him to get asleep and stay asleep.
DD3 screamed hysterically with DH the entire hour that I was gone at ballet with DD2. Ugh. Then I could barely get her calmed down when I got home because she was so worked up. So strange, I hope she doesn't have a rough night tonight.
So G has suddenly become terrified of her own startle reflex. If she is laying on her back and something startles her (a sneeze, for example) she gets this wide eyed look of panic and starts screaming hysterically. It takes anywhere from 5 minutes to an hour to calm her down and is really not fun. Any suggestions? We can't keep her swaddled all day and I don't know how else to avoid her startling.
A literal hour? That's really rough. I am so sorry!
Yeah, she gets totally hysterical and won't calm down. It's bizarre.
The startle reflex is the dumbest reflex ever. What purpose does it serve???
We use Dr. Browns bottles with preemie nipples - everything else was too fast for DS. As for pacifiers, we use both soothies and nuks, but DS doesn't love either. He has to be in exactly the right mood for a paci, or he gets PISSED if we try to give him one. Even if he starts falling asleep with one in his mouth he will (forcefully) spit it out before he is fully asleep. It's hilarious - I know we're close to sleep if he has expelled the paci...
I just tried the Dr Browns and the poor kid was choking! Gotta find a slower nipple
You may want to try nuk brand bottles. We had a sample of one that I tried with ds - it took him like a half hour to finish it and was frustrating for him since he was used to a much faster flow. I'm guessing it is a pretty slow flow!
Help. I want to cry (I have cried). Today has been awful.
DS has probably slept a total of 2 hours since 9am this morning. That's two hours out of TWELVE. We have tried everything. He keeps fighting sleep so much and even when he does go down, he wakes up too soon after. DH and I have taken turns with him all day long but we are both exhausted. I'm out of ideas and so depressed right now. I know this baby needs sleep but I just don't know how to get him to get asleep and stay asleep.
Ugh I'm so sorry, that sounds REALLY hard. I hope he conks out tonight!!
@suesposa, I don't think I've seen you post in a while! Was just thinking about you. Hope everything is okay!!
Howdy! Thanks for thinking of me ☺️ I've been lurking around. Life has just been boring (which is a good thing, considering) and I just really haven't had much to add to discussions around here.
LO is super cool. He had vaccinations last week and was completely unbothered. We are firmly in size 3 diapers and wearing some 9-12mo but still mostly 6-9mo clothing. 18lbs and 27in long. I frequently fight the urge to chew on his chubby cheeks.
Help. I want to cry (I have cried). Today has been awful.
DS has probably slept a total of 2 hours since 9am this morning. That's two hours out of TWELVE. We have tried everything. He keeps fighting sleep so much and even when he does go down, he wakes up too soon after. DH and I have taken turns with him all day long but we are both exhausted. I'm out of ideas and so depressed right now. I know this baby needs sleep but I just don't know how to get him to get asleep and stay asleep.
Hugs. This was my day on Sunday. We spent way more time trying to get DD to fall asleep then she spent asleep. It's so tough.
A literal hour? That's really rough. I am so sorry!
Yeah, she gets totally hysterical and won't calm down. It's bizarre.
The startle reflex is the dumbest reflex ever. What purpose does it serve???
Love it for the question. I don't think we'll actually get to ask G-d questions in the afterlife, but if we did this would make my top 5. My older two's startles caused me a world of hurt.
Would she do more tummy time when not being held or sleeping? If you could get it to just diaper changes and bath when it could happen that would maybe help?
We've had a screaming baby lately too. 2 days in a row now I've brought DD home from daycare and she's been fussy but okay for the first hour. Then something turns her into a screaming/crying mess around 5pm. Gas maybe? I don't know. She finally calms down when we swaddle her, hold her, and keep putting the pacifier back in over and over for a while. It's no fun. I want to come home from work and enjoy a happy baby.
Post by hummingbird125 on Oct 18, 2016 20:38:39 GMT -5
On my mama's suggestion I took DS's temp. No fever, but she told me to give him Tylenol anyway in case he's coming down with something. Now we're giving him a bottle to make sure he gets a good feeding instead of just snacking at the boob. FX this works...
Help. I want to cry (I have cried). Today has been awful.
DS has probably slept a total of 2 hours since 9am this morning. That's two hours out of TWELVE. We have tried everything. He keeps fighting sleep so much and even when he does go down, he wakes up too soon after. DH and I have taken turns with him all day long but we are both exhausted. I'm out of ideas and so depressed right now. I know this baby needs sleep but I just don't know how to get him to get asleep and stay asleep.
Oh hugs, BTDT. My usual solution besides bawling and screaming is to say "forget it" and go somewhere. If my kid won't sleep I might as well enjoy life.
This would usually cause DD2, my worst sleeper, to at least catch a cat nap on the drive. It was probably because I stopped stressing - she was not one of those who always slept in the car.
Help. I want to cry (I have cried). Today has been awful.
DS has probably slept a total of 2 hours since 9am this morning. That's two hours out of TWELVE. We have tried everything. He keeps fighting sleep so much and even when he does go down, he wakes up too soon after. DH and I have taken turns with him all day long but we are both exhausted. I'm out of ideas and so depressed right now. I know this baby needs sleep but I just don't know how to get him to get asleep and stay asleep.
Oh hugs, BTDT. My usual solution besides bawling and screaming is to say "forget it" and go somewhere. If my kid won't sleep I might as well enjoy life.
This would usually cause DD2, my worst sleeper, to at least catch a cat nap on the drive. It was probably because I stopped stressing - she was not one of those who always slept in the car.
I'm wishing we went out and did something earlier. It's 10pm now and I'm worried if we go for a drive now we won't be able to find a parking spot when we get back (live in the city). Blegh.
Post by hummingbird125 on Oct 18, 2016 21:07:07 GMT -5
Sorry for being a PW but I had to share this.
So, DH and I have not had sex since the baby. Once I got the go-ahead 3 weeks ago, I told him I wanted to, but he had to buy lube. He didn't buy any. Anytime he brought up sex, I reminded him that I would only try if we had some on hand. He still didn't buy any. He had excuses, etc, but whatever - I wasn't THAT eager so I didn't bug him about it (too much). My friends who I'm in a group text with knew that I still hadn't had the sex and knew the reason, and asked me if we had done the deed almost every day. When I told them what I was waiting for, they told me that I should go out and buy it myself. I refused as a matter of principle.
Today, FINALLY, DH bought some lube while grocery shopping. About damn time. This evening, while I was Facetiming with my sister, DH came in from outside with a package, saying "Hey, someone sent us a gift!" He opened it up to find... LUSH Water-Based Personal Lubricant. Courtesy of my caring and concerned friends.
Now, that brings us to my complaints about today/tonight. An infant who will. Not. Sleep. And who has been crying way too much today. And as I mentioned just now, my mom suggested taking his temp to rule out a fever. All I had on hand was the infant rectal thermometer, which I had been terrified to use, but knew I had no choice. I opened the package, and read the instructions... Which called for "water-based lubricant, NOT petroleum jelly"
So, not only did we finally get lube, we got extra - thanks to my lovey friends who think they're very funny, and we actually used it on the same night... To stick a thermometer up my baby's tiny butt.
hummingbird125 my LO did the same thing yesterday. By the time DH got home at 6, i was so just done. If it's any consolation, he napped like a champ today. I'm hoping you have a better day tomorrow.
@suesposa glad things are good!! I was worried. I think I'd chomp those cheeks for sure. My LO is just over 13lbs and I play chew his. It makes him smile lately!
hannahbear thanks! I was nervous about putting him in it for that reason but he just loves sitting up!
Post by coffeequeen14 on Oct 18, 2016 22:21:24 GMT -5
hannahbear congrats on the good appointment! Bunco is a dice game that is pure luck. It's a neighborhood thing that's really an excuse for the ladies to get together and drink and eat on a monthly basis. We are pretty tame and don't really drink a lot. My homemade whoopie pies went over well:)
Post by bocaburger on Oct 18, 2016 22:41:17 GMT -5
I'm really nervous for tomorrow. I work per diem and tomorrow will be my first time working since June. The event is only a few hours but it will be my first time leaving both babies alone with the sitter. H can leave class and be home in 15 minutes if there is an issue but I'm still really nervous about something going wrong.
I'm really nervous for tomorrow. I work per diem and tomorrow will be my first time working since June. The event is only a few hours but it will be my first time leaving both babies alone with the sitter. H can leave class and be home in 15 minutes if there is an issue but I'm still really nervous about something going wrong.
Oh my gosh, so stressed right now. Woke up to DD fussing (she's still next to me in an Arms Reach) and when I went to pick her up she had practically strangled herself in the SwaddleMe. She had gotten both her hands free in the middle side holes but the Velcro was still attached and it was around her neck because she kept trying to lift her arms up to suck on her thumb. Scary as heck.
I don't know what to do, she needs to be swaddled to stay asleep. Maybe we will try miracle blanket next. She's 3 months today and 11 lbs 7oz so I think too small for the Merlin suit. Any ideas?
Oh my gosh, so stressed right now. Woke up to DD fussing (she's still next to me in an Arms Reach) and when I went to pick her up she had practically strangled herself in the SwaddleMe. She had gotten both her hands free in the middle side holes but the Velcro was still attached and it was around her neck because she kept trying to lift her arms up to suck on her thumb. Scary as heck.
I don't know what to do, she needs to be swaddled to stay asleep. Maybe we will try miracle blanket next. She's 3 months today and 11 lbs 7oz so I think too small for the Merlin suit. Any ideas?
Oh my gosh, how Scary! Try the Woombie, it has a zipper instead of velcro.
I feel like I never come in or support much these days. But I am lurking and pretty much when i have something to say to someone it has already been said. So I don't repeat the statement.
We are on week 2 of being alone (during the day) and so far so good. Baby boy has been cranky and clingy the last few days and i finally found out why. He is getting a tooth!! A small little corner of a tooth is sticking out. He is just 12 weeks. He is growing too fast.
Me: 36, DH 32 Bfp#1 June 2014 edd: Feb. 22, 2015,mmc: Aug. 5,2014,D&C Bfp#2 Feb. 2015 edd: Oct.12, 2015, mmc: Mar. 7,2015, D&C
DX: Me: slightly hypothyroid, taking meds DH: SA Showed all low levels, urologist appointment showed all was normal, so no reason why the levels were bad.
Plan: IUI #1 Aug. 25mg clomed, to help boost egg quality - BFN IUI #2 Sept. 25mg clomed, BFN IUI#3 Dec. BFP!! TWINS Edd: Aug. 22, 2016
Oh my gosh, so stressed right now. Woke up to DD fussing (she's still next to me in an Arms Reach) and when I went to pick her up she had practically strangled herself in the SwaddleMe. She had gotten both her hands free in the middle side holes but the Velcro was still attached and it was around her neck because she kept trying to lift her arms up to suck on her thumb. Scary as heck.
I don't know what to do, she needs to be swaddled to stay asleep. Maybe we will try miracle blanket next. She's 3 months today and 11 lbs 7oz so I think too small for the Merlin suit. Any ideas?
I use the Zipadee Zip with hair ties on the feet and hands to make it shorter (DD3 is over 12 lbs and probably around 23.5" or so) then after I zip it I gather the extra fabric over the zipper and put a hair tie on that to keep the fabric far away from DD3's face. Love our Zippies but they do bunch up if you don't do that. I can try a picture if that helps.
We own the Merlin and I actually don't love it, though I have a friend who swears by it.
Your LO is also definitely small enough for a Woombie, the zip up swaddle.
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