I can't wait until we can stop swaddling DD. She hates being swaddled when she's awake but can't sleep without it. She gets agitated in the swaddleme and the woombie so we blanket swaddle her, but she fights that a little too and has always freed herself from it when I wake up to feed her.
katelm I'm so glad you were right by her to see what was going on. I just swaddle with blankets. I find the stretchy Carter's blankets to be the best if you happen to have any.
hollyberry Sounds like you're doing great with both! I don't know how you do it!
An old coworker is teaching my grade this year, so I said she could access all my saved files. She texted me for the password again at 8 this morning and said "I hope this doesn't wake you." LOLOLOLOL
We've had a screaming baby lately too. 2 days in a row now I've brought DD home from daycare and she's been fussy but okay for the first hour. Then something turns her into a screaming/crying mess around 5pm. Gas maybe? I don't know. She finally calms down when we swaddle her, hold her, and keep putting the pacifier back in over and over for a while. It's no fun. I want to come home from work and enjoy a happy baby.
Baby witching hour. It's real and it sucks. It is also convenuently6aligned with when S1 gets home from school and we are trying to do the dinner/homework thing.
My husband started a trial today. It will last 1.5 weeks. So, he's at work fro 8am until midnight. He can't help with the baby basically at all. I know he feels terrible and I don't want to add to his stress, but goddammit I feel shat on. I've asked for help but I get it about 30% of the time because WORK. I will be going back to work in a month and then we'll both have full time jobs. He can't keep expecting me to do ...well... EVERYTHING. But, it doesn't seem to matter how much I explain this (and my explanations started nine months ago), it just feels like I get a lot of "I feel terrible, but..." I'm so sick of having the same conversation over and over.
My kitchen is gutted, sanded, and painted. But that's it. Why? Our cabinets are still in fucking Chicago. The shipper can't say when they will be shipped. Our contractors are like "We don't know" and I'm ready to light everything on fire.
It's me. All the time. Every day. Dealing with the house, the baby, my job, setting up daycare/health insurance. I feel like no gives a shit about me sometimes.
EDIT: I also gave up pumping and want to hide the damn pump because it's breaking my heart. I'm fully in charge of planning a baptism. I 100% dealt with his parents last week while they were here. I'm fighting off my own mother with baptism plans and her own emotions around it. I have to ask my neurologist for my preventative again and admit that I failed at breastfeeding. I have no other adult in this house to talk to. I'm just ...hanging by a thread.
Post by pbandjelly on Oct 19, 2016 11:05:40 GMT -5
joy you 100% did not fail at anything. You made a very difficult choice that results in you being the absolute best mom for your baby. If I was in your position, I would absolutely do the same thing. Healthy, happy mom=healthy, happy baby whether that means formula or breast milk.
Post by remylove1011 on Oct 19, 2016 11:21:21 GMT -5
joy ((HUGS)) I'm sorry that your having to deal with everything by yourself right now. I give you major props for keeping it all together. I think dropping the pumping will eventually help you feel less stressed and that can only be a good thing for baby girl. It's totally ok to be in all the feels about it though, this shit is hard.
Edit.... not sure why it autocorrected feels to deals
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Post by gratefulgirl on Oct 19, 2016 12:27:24 GMT -5
joy - massive hugs. You did not fail. But our bodies flat out suck (as most of us here know in one way or another) and are broken. It's our response to our ducky broken bodies that defines us, not the bodies themselves.
Do you have friends or family who are more help than trouble? Can they give you a break?
ETA: I gripe way too often "Who looks after ME?" so I get your feels on that at least some. It's freaking hard. If you can finding someone to help will remind you who cares.
joy hugs! With DD I felt like all those things too. DH worked late and would come home and need a break. I was ready to kill him. I will say when I went back to work it got easier in some ways..only bc I had a break and adult interaction. Being home all day without another adult is hard. Can you go for a walk daily? Right now doing that saves my sanity. Even though I don't talk to other people there's an interaction with other people.
Post by gratefulgirl on Oct 19, 2016 12:55:59 GMT -5
We are doing helium balloon kicking from the Can Do Kidfo blog. Apparently the foil balloons my mom gave my kids are hilarious enough moving around to warrant DD3's first laugh. Also to entertain her for 15+ minutes.
Thanks for asking! It actually went well. DS FINALLY fell asleep a little after 10, then slept until 2am. I fed him, and he was back asleep by 2:30 and stayed down until 5:30, then was back asleep by 6 until 8. This morning he only napped 20 min in the crib, so we then drove to a park nearby and I put him in the K'Tan, where he fell asleep on me and stayed asleep for about 45 min. This afternoon I got him down for a nap in the RnP and he's been asleep for a little over an hour. I really want him to be able to sleep in his crib again, but right now I just need to make sure he gets sleep any way he can, because yesterday I think his brain was just fried after a while. No idea what was going on with him.
joy that is too much for one person. Throw the pump away. Threaten bodily harm to the cabinet people. Host the baptism luncheon at a restaurant and simply hand your credit card to the server, instruct him to put everyone's meals on there, and to not let you see the bottom of your wineglass.
Is anyone else sweaty? I never got the PP night sweats with any of the kids but this time, walking the kids to school every morning leaves me a sweaty mess. Although it could be bc I am pushing a stroller, it's uphill, and I often have to jog to keep uo with DS2.
Post by hummingbird125 on Oct 19, 2016 13:49:05 GMT -5
joy - Oh lady, I'm sorry. I honestly don't know what I would do if my DH had to be in the office for normal hours every day, let alone the insane hours your DH has to be away. Regardless of how busy he is with work, I think you must insist that he helps out with baby at night. He might be working 8am-midnight... but YOU are working those hours as well! Please feel free to come and vent here as much as you need to, but I also hope you have or can find some IRL mom-friends to hang out with and get some help from. Hugs.
Is anyone else sweaty? I never got the PP night sweats with any of the kids but this time, walking the kids to school every morning leaves me a sweaty mess. Although it could be bc I am pushing a stroller, it's uphill, and I often have to jog to keep uo with DS2.
Every night again. I did get the pp night sweats and they seem to be back. I wake up to feed DS soaked in sweat. It's gross.
Is anyone else sweaty? I never got the PP night sweats with any of the kids but this time, walking the kids to school every morning leaves me a sweaty mess. Although it could be bc I am pushing a stroller, it's uphill, and I often have to jog to keep uo with DS2.
Omg yes. I'm alllllwayyys cold (thanks hypothyroidism!) and recently I'm randomly so hot and sweaty! I'm not a fan!
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