GTKY - When you thought you would have babies

[navyblues2114]

We got married at 26 and I wanted my first at 28 but h wasn't ready. We started trying at 30 but had unexplained IF and we didn't have our first until I was 32. Our IF was no longer an issue and we had our second at 33. We are done. We always said 2 or 3 but our family feels complete and I'm getting old and tired.

[prairiegirl]

I had always hoped I'd be about mid 20's. My parents were in their 30's when I was born and I always remember thinking I had the 'old parents' at school.
I've always thought I'd have 2.
I was 26 when LO was born, turned 27 two months later.
Sometimes I'm really leaning toward one and done. I have such an easy baby. I'm terrified that number 2 would be the spawn of satan. H really doesn't want LO to be an only child though, so I'm sure we'll have two.

[3magicbeans]

Feb 13, 2015 7:19:54 GMT -5 weeklyplanner said:

Feb 12, 2015 13:05:29 GMT -5 mrsnorris said:

When I was younger I wanted to have like 10+ kids, adopted through foster care over the course of many years. Then I adopted through foster care (started the process at 25, finalized DD1's adoption at 28). After seeing a) what a shit show DCS is and b) the fact that you can genuinely get PTSD from the havok kids with severe emotional problems will wreak on your life, we are done with that. All my admiration to people who adopt big sibling groups and lots of kids. Seriously I can't think of something harder a person could volunteer to do.
Now, in a perfect world I want 4. I have two. We'll probably have one more. I would love another after that but I don't think I could get DW on board so I'm just hoping for twins. We're 34 and 35 so if I get to have a third I know I'll be grateful for that and be happy.

When I was a teacher, my students were those foster kids with emotional problems. The PTSD comment might sound dramatic to some, but that is so genuine.

Its very true.  MH and I looked into adoption through foster care before we had our take home babies, but we decided it wasn't the right route for us. I had worked with some children through social services when I was in college, and its just terrible what these children go through.

[3magicbeans]

When you were in your early 20's, when did you think you would want to start a family? I thought I'd start a family in my mid twenties.
How many children did you want? 3-4
How old were you when you had your first child? 31 (I had two miscarriages in my mid-late twenties, and one when I was 30, so everything got pushed back a bit
How many children do you want now? Just the three I have now

[Deleted]

When we got married, I was 27 & thought we'd be ready after 5 years. That time came & went, but it was about 2 more years before we were ready.
Sometimes I wish I was a younger mom (1st kid at 34) but I wouldn't have wanted kids any sooner- we were having waaay too much fun, busy working, sorting things out in our marriage & otherwise not ready.

[laur110]

When you were in your early 20's, when did you think you would want to start a family? 25? I wanted to be able to support myself and have money saved before starting.
How many children did you want? DH wanted 3 at the time, which was fine by me.
How old were you when you had your first child? - 29
How many children do you want now? We might be OAD, but are starting to think about trying for a second. We are interested in adoption also.