Post by silverspoon on Oct 25, 2016 11:36:21 GMT -5
mrsoscarfelix yes, J gets upset if I try to redirect him somewhere else or take something away. He cries or both hands fly up and he angrily scratches the back of his head.
scorpioscuba, the thing about the structured meal plan is that it's not always the same food. It's like - Monday is casserole night, but you can choose any casserole. Just knowing it's a casserole makes it easier to plan because it narrows down the choices so much. What you can do is create some sort of file (either paper or digital) that has a list of all the casseroles you guys like or that you want to try. And then for Monday you look at the casserole list and pick one. Then Tuesday is Mexican night and you have a list of Mexican food you like, and you pick one from there. So you ensure variety while cutting down the meal planning. Like I said, I really find it a good system but for some reason find it hard to stick to it...
Lollipop, I hope you're able to eat more soon! Didn't the doctors tell you when you'd be able to eat harder food? Or do you have a follow-up appointment where they'll discuss that?
He might have said something about it, but I was super groggy. I think the official word is "when I feel up to it". He did say that I would be fully healed at the 2 week mark.
Post by dizzycooks on Oct 25, 2016 14:46:49 GMT -5
I'm psyching myself to go out in the cold and now up the leaves. So many leaves and it's cold! I figure better to send them out to the lawn waste tomorrow than have to send them all the same week. We only get 10 bags/week and last week we had 10. I'll have at least that many today.
DD does throw some fits, mostly if I put her down in her crib when she doesn't want to go down. She will scream and kick the mattress. She hates the car seat too and tries to sit up when I put her in. She can get out of that thing so fast when though now when I unbuckle her!
mrsoscarfelix L definitely has strong opinions about things- mostly if I put her down when she wants to be up or redirect/take something away she wants but shouldn't have. I wouldn't say they are fits yet but she definitely gives me the angry disgusted face/yells at me. ETA sorry about the mastitis! So far I have escaped that. Sounds awful!!
H had pizza last night, and Chinese food tonight. If I don't get steak as soon as I can swallow properly, I may blow a gasket. On the upside, he's been great about dealing with the kids and letting me hide in our room for the past few days. Sadly tomorrow it's back to the regular routine, so hopefully I'm feeling better.
H had pizza last night, and Chinese food tonight. If I don't get steak as soon as I can swallow properly, I may blow a gasket. On the upside, he's been great about dealing with the kids and letting me hide in our room for the past few days. Sadly tomorrow it's back to the regular routine, so hopefully I'm feeling better.
Hope you are feeling better. Try to be easy on yourself. I know it's hard but you will heal so much faster if you a. Give your body the time it needs.
H had pizza last night, and Chinese food tonight. If I don't get steak as soon as I can swallow properly, I may blow a gasket. On the upside, he's been great about dealing with the kids and letting me hide in our room for the past few days. Sadly tomorrow it's back to the regular routine, so hopefully I'm feeling better.
Hope you are feeling better. Try to be easy on yourself. I know it's hard but you will heal so much faster if you a. Give your body the time it needs.
I know. I would take more time if I had it, but H has to work and I don't have anyone else who can help out. Like, I think I should be OK to get back to the routine by Monday, but I can't wait that long. I might see if my sister can take S to school tomorrow though.
I am PWing tonight. I cried a while ago here about my assistant/barn manager quitting with very little notice. It was seeming disaster... all my stars aligned though and I very quickly had a young man I had met earlier in the summer contact me about the job as a temp position until I found my long term hire. Around the same time I got put in contact with my long term replacement. Anyway, it has just been the most wonderful, healing, fortuitous experience. I honor all the things my former assistant did and that she was there for me during a loss and a rough pregnancy as well as the first months of Lillie's life. It just has been such an amazing last month. My interim guy is totally not someone I would immediately be drawn to. He has hair to his waist (gorgeous hair) definitely has the hippy living naked in the woods vibe etc. etc. some of his ideas are very far out and his level of "tuning into feelings and energy" is just outside my life experience or interest etc. etc. anyway he is not an obvious fit in my work life. It has really been, by far, the most wonderful time I have had in my barn in years. His happy energy has inspired everyone to do better, have a better attitude and be the great employees I knew they could be. His holistic views have made a great impact on the way I consider designing my future farm because they are outside the standard, but in a good way. Anyway it sounds crazy but this has been so healing for me. I just am feeling so full and thankful. It has been an amazing reminder that not all change is bad. Anyway I am not sure why I felt the need to share, and sorry for my rambling. 😬 TLDR- work is really great right now. I am energized when I thought I would be experiencing defeat.
Got up to make myself some eggs, no clean dishes. H points out that I don't take care of myself. He's lucky I didn't stab him. He's been great with the kids, but useless as far as helping me goes.
Post by scorpioscuba on Oct 25, 2016 22:13:00 GMT -5
I'm so glad your new employees are working out so well kcrkcs! I'm glad you shared. I remember how upsetting it was when she left suddenly and you had no idea how things would pan out.
Post by scorpioscuba on Oct 25, 2016 22:16:18 GMT -5
I just got done listening to DD cry herself to sleep for 40 minutes. 😪😪😪 there were even a few "mama's" in there which nearly did me in. But last night was SO bad I knew I had to stick it out. I got less than 5 hours of sleep last night due to her shenanigans and that's just not sustainable. WHY does this have to be SO hard??
I think once I'm better we're going to knuckle down on sleep training M. She's goes to bed fine, usually talks to herself for a few minutes and then falls asleep. But she still gets up a couple of times a night. I think it's time to stop that.
I just got done listening to DD cry herself to sleep for 40 minutes. 😪😪😪 there were even a few "mama's" in there which nearly did me in. But last night was SO bad I knew I had to stick it out. I got less than 5 hours of sleep last night due to her shenanigans and that's just not sustainable. WHY does this have to be SO hard??
You can do it! And each night will be better from here on.
Post by crimsonandclover on Oct 26, 2016 2:21:38 GMT -5
kcrkcs, I'm so glad the temp help was so good for everyone!!
Lollipop, maybe you can make the next few days movie days for the kids? Let yourself heal and give them way more screen time than usual? That's my go-to plan when I'm too stressed or sick to deal
Seriously, clients. When you ask me if I can have a job done by Friday if you get it to me by Monday and I say yes, what do you think that means when it's Wednesday and you STILL haven't gotten it to me yet?? I am not superwoman over here, and I only have certain hours of childcare. I hate hate hate using a lack of childcare as an excuse for not being able to get a translation done by a certain day, no matter how valid an excuse it is, but this time I may have to. My nanny is gone on vacation until next Friday and I had planned to use her time here yesterday to get a big chunk of a translation done. Except the translation isn't here yet. The up side is I finished a whole segment of my continuing ed course instead
My goal is to stay home today. I'm resolving to do this once a week. Partly to save on gas and extra spending that just does not need to happen and partly because the kids need to play at home and we are rarely here. My chest is that I have an outing with dd3 this evening and Dh takes the big's to the library. So I guess not totally home, but completely different routine and no errands
Post by crimsonandclover on Oct 26, 2016 9:48:27 GMT -5
dizzycooks, I am a total homebody and feel so stressed if we don't have 2-3 days / week with lots of down time. Today is one of those days. I mean, DDs 1+2 were at preschool this morning, but DH took them on his way to work and DD3 and I have been at home all day. I've been doing tons of stuff, but in the house. I need that. I also think it's good for the kids. I cancelled gymnastics for the girls this fall because we have ballet on Tuesdays, DD1's early intervention group on Thursday, and they have swimming lessons (with DH) on Saturdays. I don't think it's necessary for kids this age to have more days with activities than without!!
kcrkcs - I am so glad that you are crying tears of joy and relief! I remember how stressed out you were! And it reminds me of an article that I read - but cannot find - which says to hire for attitude, train for skill. You can teach skill but you cannot teach attitude. It looks like your interim manager has just the right attitude!
I think my body is gearing up to hibernate - I've been eating pretty much non-stop all morning! I need to chill out!
Thanks to everyone for the pumpkin recipes - I will make them this weekend and let you know how it goes.
And I attended my first Facebook Lula Roe party last night and bought a few things - I am intrigued to see if they live up to the hype. Does anyone here wear/enjoy LLR?
Finally - was it dizzycooks or NellieOleson who posted that stuffed eggplant recipe a while ago? Would you mind re-posting the link?
dizzycooks, I am a total homebody and feel so stressed if we don't have 2-3 days / week with lots of down time. Today is one of those days. I mean, DDs 1+2 were at preschool this morning, but DH took them on his way to work and DD3 and I have been at home all day. I've been doing tons of stuff, but in the house. I need that. I also think it's good for the kids. I cancelled gymnastics for the girls this fall because we have ballet on Tuesdays, DD1's early intervention group on Thursday, and they have swimming lessons (with DH) on Saturdays. I don't think it's necessary for kids this age to have more days with activities than without!!
Yeah we are super busy and it's kind of crazy. I like being busy and having things to do, but right now it's so structured I'm struggling. With winter coming they need to figure out how to play inside for a few hours at a time. Right now dd1 has speech and preschool 2hrs/day M-R and they both have swim lessons on Friday. Add in me working one day a week and there is no day that's completely empty. During the day Wednesday is the best I can do. I figure it'll make the times we do go out Wednesday mornings more special.
Post by scorpioscuba on Oct 26, 2016 10:38:08 GMT -5
I'm wearing my LLR right now, 14joa31! Leggings and an Irma. I'm WFH so I can get away with it. 😉
I'm joining the homebodies. I don't do well with lots of outside activities or feeling "overscheduled". DS has karate 2 nights a week which I can barely deal with (mostly because it goes late for my sensibilities with little kids). So all other weeknights I ensure they are spent at home so we can have dinner, baths and bed according to our normal routine. I love our routine and hate evenings where it just can't happen. My kids are happier and easier to manage when we stick to our routine!! 😊
Post by scorpioscuba on Oct 26, 2016 10:40:43 GMT -5
crimsonandclover, do you establish contracts or working agreements with these clients who need translation work? If so I'd make it clear in your contract or agreement that if you don't receive the work by the date agreed to, that it will impact the completion date originally agreed to based on other commitments you have ongoing. That might take some of the pressure off of you if it is understood up front!
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