Socializing--kids
Oct 25, 2016 12:20:52 GMT -5
Post by brachysira on Oct 25, 2016 12:20:52 GMT -5
When you go to the park or some place, do your kids make friends? What have you told your kids about how to behave with others? For quite a while, at the park, DD finds other kids and will play tag or the kids will just follow each other around and do the same things. Kids as young as 18 months will play with her sometimes. She tries with just about anyone, but doesn't always have success, but she is usually unfazed. We have playdates. She is friends with a boy a few months younger and he really isn't up to cooperative play but they still talk and make suggestions to each other, but they don't really plan out anything or do pretend together. With kids who are older, she does light pretending. But making friends is hard.
She has two friends at preschool but one often won't play with her. I'm sort of worried that she is being pest-y to her. She says she tries to play with other kids but they won't play with her but I've sort of assumed that they don't even realize that she's trying to play or they don't even really play cooperatively yet so they're not being mean. But today at the library there was a girl who seemed a lot older--maybe 5 or a tall 4--and DD asked if she could play. The girl ignored her. DD stood there. The girl ignored her. DD said, "my name is DD" and the girl ignored her. This girl was bringing her mom things and engaging in a pretend play narrative with her mom who was texting, so it wasn't a verbal skill or development issue as far as I could see. The girl could have said, "I don't want to play because I'm playing with my mom" or "sorry, I'm playing alone right now" if she didn't want to play. Or she could have included DD. I told DD that she could initiate play more. Like, say, "are you making a pizza? My dog likes pizza?" and I have also told her to give up and find someone else to play with if someone doesn't want to play, but she doesn't heed this part of the advice.
Any other tips to give kids? What is the nature or your kids' relationships these days?
She has two friends at preschool but one often won't play with her. I'm sort of worried that she is being pest-y to her. She says she tries to play with other kids but they won't play with her but I've sort of assumed that they don't even realize that she's trying to play or they don't even really play cooperatively yet so they're not being mean. But today at the library there was a girl who seemed a lot older--maybe 5 or a tall 4--and DD asked if she could play. The girl ignored her. DD stood there. The girl ignored her. DD said, "my name is DD" and the girl ignored her. This girl was bringing her mom things and engaging in a pretend play narrative with her mom who was texting, so it wasn't a verbal skill or development issue as far as I could see. The girl could have said, "I don't want to play because I'm playing with my mom" or "sorry, I'm playing alone right now" if she didn't want to play. Or she could have included DD. I told DD that she could initiate play more. Like, say, "are you making a pizza? My dog likes pizza?" and I have also told her to give up and find someone else to play with if someone doesn't want to play, but she doesn't heed this part of the advice.
Any other tips to give kids? What is the nature or your kids' relationships these days?