Day drinking anyone?

[easilyunamused]

Oct 30, 2016 20:17:27 GMT -5 @pineappleoranges said:

easilyunamused , I'll pay the postage. MIL understands me though. If I didn't ask for it, I don't want it.

I get it, I won't go to battle about a bath mat at this point. Especially when we see her 2-3 times a year right now. I will in the future, have MH talk to her about buying things that we don't need.I just thought it was hilarious, considering she bought us the first bath mat when we moved in to this most recent home. We didn't have one for our guest bathroom at the time.

[easilyunamused]

Oct 30, 2016 20:33:02 GMT -5 @pineappleoranges said:

Oct 30, 2016 20:24:49 GMT -5 easilyunamused said:

I get it, I won't go to battle about a bath mat at this point. Especially when we see her 2-3 times a year right now. I will in the future, have MH talk to her about buying things that we don't need.I just thought it was hilarious, considering she bought us the first bath mat when we moved in to this most recent home. We didn't have one for our guest bathroom at the time.

Definitely pick your battles. With my family and extended family all battles are super duper big deals and you have to make sure you don't get tromped

Totally. It has to be catastrophic for me to really get confrontational with her. I'm the first and currently only daughter in law,(out of two boys) and I like keeping the peace. But I think she does as well, and respects most boundaries luckily. Her mother in law was super sweet and supportive, so I think that really set the motion of her being like that as well.

[butlerfan]

Ugh.....I hung up on my mother in law tonight. The closet in the bedroom that our foster child(ren) will be in had crap in it and some of H's clothes. We don't have the master bedroom in this house due his parents still having their crap there. His clothes are in their bedroom on the bed currently as we try to figure this out.

She doesn't think the kid(s) need the whole closet and we could put the clothes back in there because "they don't have much to hang up" Um...that is THEIR BEDROOM not a guest room. They need a space that is theirs. There are so many reasons why I feel like that statement is hurtful and wrong of hers.

Yet you have the master closet full here and you aren't living here.....

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Oct 30, 2016 22:05:52 GMT -5 butlerfan said:

Ugh.....I hung up on my mother in law tonight. The closet in the bedroom that our foster child(ren) will be in had crap in it and some of H's clothes. We don't have the master bedroom in this house due his parents still having their crap there. His clothes are in their bedroom on the bed currently as we try to figure this out.

She doesn't think the kid(s) need the whole closet and we could put the clothes back in there because "they don't have much to hang up" Um...that is THEIR BEDROOM not a guest room. They need a space that is theirs. There are so many reasons why I feel like that statement is hurtful and wrong of hers.

Yet you have the master closet full here and you aren't living here.....

I would have a hard time not boxing it up and delivering it to her one day. Would not be putting up with that.

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Oct 30, 2016 19:38:02 GMT -5 @led said:

I was going to make tacos for dinner but now I think I'm not but I don't know what I want.

We went with sushi. It was delicious.

[butlerfan]

@led...hence why their bedroom is storage currently as I condense more and more of their crap into their bedroom. If it isnt her way she doesn't like it. And oh wait if I was able to be pregnant she would get why the bedroom would be all for the kid I feel like. The bedroom has a dresser, changing table, bookcase and 2 convertible cribs. They/we need the closet for hang up clothes, shoes, extra bedding, extra diapers, etc.

[teraiin]

Oct 30, 2016 22:08:56 GMT -5 @led said:

Oct 30, 2016 19:38:02 GMT -5 @led said:

I was going to make tacos for dinner but now I think I'm not but I don't know what I want.

We went with sushi. It was delicious.

Yum! I love sushi. H is too scared(?!) to try it so we never have it

[teraiin]

Oct 30, 2016 22:08:20 GMT -5 @led said:

Oct 30, 2016 22:05:52 GMT -5 butlerfan said:

Ugh.....I hung up on my mother in law tonight. The closet in the bedroom that our foster child(ren) will be in had crap in it and some of H's clothes. We don't have the master bedroom in this house due his parents still having their crap there. His clothes are in their bedroom on the bed currently as we try to figure this out.

She doesn't think the kid(s) need the whole closet and we could put the clothes back in there because "they don't have much to hang up" Um...that is THEIR BEDROOM not a guest room. They need a space that is theirs. There are so many reasons why I feel like that statement is hurtful and wrong of hers.

Yet you have the master closet full here and you aren't living here.....

I would have a hard time not boxing it up and delivering it to her one day. Would not be putting up with that.

+1

I'm sorry your mil is acting like that butlerfan

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Oct 30, 2016 22:08:20 GMT -5 @led said:

Oct 30, 2016 22:05:52 GMT -5 butlerfan said:

Ugh.....I hung up on my mother in law tonight. The closet in the bedroom that our foster child(ren) will be in had crap in it and some of H's clothes. We don't have the master bedroom in this house due his parents still having their crap there. His clothes are in their bedroom on the bed currently as we try to figure this out.

She doesn't think the kid(s) need the whole closet and we could put the clothes back in there because "they don't have much to hang up" Um...that is THEIR BEDROOM not a guest room. They need a space that is theirs. There are so many reasons why I feel like that statement is hurtful and wrong of hers.

Yet you have the master closet full here and you aren't living here.....

I would have a hard time not boxing it up and delivering it to her one day. Would not be putting up with that.

butlerfan - do you own the house? Because if yes, box that shit up.

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Oct 30, 2016 22:27:48 GMT -5 teraiin said:

Oct 30, 2016 22:08:56 GMT -5 @led said:

We went with sushi. It was delicious.

Yum! I love sushi. H is too scared(?!) to try it so we never have it

Have him order a California roll

[butlerfan]

@led teraiin...don't think I haven't thought about it.

Wallie....we rent from them. It's complicated

[butlerfan]

Oct 30, 2016 22:48:39 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

Oct 30, 2016 22:27:48 GMT -5 teraiin said:

Yum! I love sushi. H is too scared(?!) to try it so we never have it

Have him order a California roll

Is this the kind that doesn't have fish?

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Oct 30, 2016 19:59:27 GMT -5 easilyunamused said:

Oct 30, 2016 19:55:22 GMT -5 @pineappleoranges said:

My house could be on fire and my mother in law could be a firefighter and I still would not call her. DNW my MIL cleaning my house.

Ugh, I actually love my MIL, but she really annoyed me when she visited last. Not only did she buy me new guest towels (mine were totally fine), she bought a new bath mat to go with them. What the hell am I supposed to do with the perfectly fine, and new, bath mat I already own?! 

That's a subtle way of saying you are terrible decorator. You're MIL may have just won the Passive aggressive Olympics. Lol.

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Oct 30, 2016 22:49:50 GMT -5 butlerfan said:

Oct 30, 2016 22:48:39 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

Have him order a California roll

Is this the kind that doesn't have fish?

Nope. No fish.

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Oct 30, 2016 22:49:17 GMT -5 butlerfan said:

@led teraiin...don't think I haven't thought about it.

Wallie....we rent from them. It's complicated

That's so shitty. Is it rent to own? Do you have any other options? Also they suck.

[butlerfan]

Oct 30, 2016 22:53:08 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

Oct 30, 2016 22:49:17 GMT -5 butlerfan said:

@led teraiin...don't think I haven't thought about it.

Wallie....we rent from them. It's complicated

That's so shitty. Is it rent to own? Do you have any other options? Also they suck.

Yes and no. We don't have a land contract currently...just a lease. But several talks about land contracts have been made. And everything we have paid in rent will count towards the land contract as sort of a "down payment"

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Oct 30, 2016 23:10:47 GMT -5 alwayscheese said:

Oct 30, 2016 22:51:40 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

That's a subtle way of saying you are terrible decorator. You're MIL may have just won the Passive aggressive Olympics. Lol.

Lol except if I read right, her MIL bought the originals also.

No, I think they were her purchase.

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Oct 30, 2016 23:12:52 GMT -5 alwayscheese said:

DH thinks he's funny for sending me these "d*ck pics" - 👃 (it's a nose emoticon for those on tapatalk) he claims it doesn't look like a nose.

I usually get pictures of Richard Nixon or Dick Van Dyke, or other famous dicks.

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Oct 30, 2016 23:07:47 GMT -5 butlerfan said:

Oct 30, 2016 22:53:08 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

That's so shitty. Is it rent to own? Do you have any other options? Also they suck.

Yes and no. We don't have a land contract currently...just a lease. But several talks about land contracts have been made. And everything we have paid in rent will count towards the land contract as sort of a "down payment"

What does YH think of the arrangement?

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******

[daisy818]

Oct 30, 2016 23:32:45 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

Oct 30, 2016 23:12:52 GMT -5 alwayscheese said:

DH thinks he's funny for sending me these "d*ck pics" - 👃 (it's a nose emoticon for those on tapatalk) he claims it doesn't look like a nose.

I usually get pictures of Richard Nixon or Dick Van Dyke, or other famous dicks.

There was a time when I would spam DH via text with sloth pics.

[easilyunamused]

Oct 30, 2016 23:30:57 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

Oct 30, 2016 23:10:47 GMT -5 alwayscheese said:

Lol except if I read right, her MIL bought the originals also.

No, I think they were her purchase.

She drove with us to move out of state and when we got here, she bought the bath mat for the guest bathroom. Then, a year a half later, I guess changed her mind on it? lol idk, sometimes she's just buys stuff.

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Oct 31, 2016 7:35:30 GMT -5 easilyunamused said:

Oct 30, 2016 23:30:57 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

No, I think they were her purchase.

She drove with us to move out of state and when we got here, she bought the bath mat for the guest bathroom. Then, a year a half later, I guess changed her mind on it? lol idk, sometimes she's just buys stuff.

Hahah. That's really funny. Guess it was time to redecorate.

[easilyunamused]

Oct 31, 2016 8:30:22 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

Oct 31, 2016 7:35:30 GMT -5 easilyunamused said:

She drove with us to move out of state and when we got here, she bought the bath mat for the guest bathroom. Then, a year a half later, I guess changed her mind on it? lol idk, sometimes she's just buys stuff.

Hahah. That's really funny. Guess it was time to redecorate.

The new bath mat doesn't even match my shower curtain!! Lol I need to release this.

[daisy818]

Oct 31, 2016 8:32:24 GMT -5 easilyunamused said:

Oct 31, 2016 8:30:22 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

Hahah. That's really funny. Guess it was time to redecorate.

The new bath mat doesn't even match my shower curtain!! Lol I need to release this.

You should tell your MIL that your carpet always matches the curtains.

[teraiin]

Oct 31, 2016 7:35:30 GMT -5 easilyunamused said:

Oct 30, 2016 23:30:57 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

No, I think they were her purchase.

She drove with us to move out of state and when we got here, she bought the bath mat for the guest bathroom. Then, a year a half later, I guess changed her mind on it? lol idk, sometimes she's just buys stuff.

My mil does that too lol

I also get a lot of "you know what you could do?" Or "you know what would be nice?" Nope but I'm sure you'll tell me 😜

[butlerfan]

Oct 30, 2016 23:33:47 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

Oct 30, 2016 23:07:47 GMT -5 butlerfan said:

Yes and no. We don't have a land contract currently...just a lease. But several talks about land contracts have been made. And everything we have paid in rent will count towards the land contract as sort of a "down payment"

What does YH think of the arrangement?

We are on the same page.  It was getting better with them giving up more and more control. And then something like this happens where our decisions are questioned. Yesterday it was the fact that we would like a child(ren) to have a whole bedroom to themselves with out having our stuff in the closet and how that is ridiculous. Friday it was a link to a place where we could adopt kids with special needs since she heard it on a talk show. Did she do any research on it before sending it....no. Does she listen when we say adopting (domestic or international) there are a bunch of fees associated it with that we don't have the funds for? Ugh. As much as we want a placement I almost want it to be after their visit over Thanksgiving with them taking a bunch of furniture and the house will be all chaotic during that week.

[easilyunamused]

Oct 31, 2016 8:37:10 GMT -5 daisy818 said:

Oct 31, 2016 8:32:24 GMT -5 easilyunamused said:

The new bath mat doesn't even match my shower curtain!! Lol I need to release this.

You should tell your MIL that your carpet always matches the curtains.

[easilyunamused]

Oct 31, 2016 8:37:32 GMT -5 teraiin said:

Oct 31, 2016 7:35:30 GMT -5 easilyunamused said:

She drove with us to move out of state and when we got here, she bought the bath mat for the guest bathroom. Then, a year a half later, I guess changed her mind on it? lol idk, sometimes she's just buys stuff.

My mil does that too lol

I also get a lot of "you know what you could do?" Or "you know what would be nice?" Nope but I'm sure you'll tell me 😜

Yes! I hear those comments quite often. I had to tell MH to stop talking to her about everything because she has many opinions. 😝

[teraiin]

Oct 31, 2016 8:46:09 GMT -5 easilyunamused said:

Oct 31, 2016 8:37:32 GMT -5 teraiin said:

My mil does that too lol

I also get a lot of "you know what you could do?" Or "you know what would be nice?" Nope but I'm sure you'll tell me 😜

Yes! I hear those comments quite often. I had to tell MH to stop talking to her about everything because she has many opinions. 😝

Hahaha yes! This happens with us.

The major recent "advice" was the "you don't need an exterminator" advice. 🙄 It ended up working out but it took way longer and was much more painful than it needed to be